Let's talk about sex

mrsb30

DH and I have had sex a few times. It's completely different than I thought it would be. I was nervous it would hurt from my tear(I just had a tiny one). The pain I have is more in my abdomen, I'm guessing from the weak muscles? I get the same pain when I workout. The issue I'm having is it just doesn't feel good anymore. I'm not having an issue with dryness, i just hardly feel anything. It's really dissapointing, I love sex and I miss the way it used to be. DH says it feels the same for him. I'm doing kegals. Anybody else going though this. Any btdt moms have advice?

bhargrave88

I had issues after my first was born, sex was great, but uncomfortable . It remained that way all through this pregnancy.. Giving Birth seemed to cure it for me, as I'm having no problems now.. Probably not great advice lol

KateDerek

How old is your baby? It definitely took a while each time for me to feel like I regained tightness down there and was back to my old self. I think we waited around 8 weeks the first time, and then only 4 the second time, and we learned that sooner is not always better so we are waiting again this time. It's been 7 weeks and I think we will be back at it this week. I still think it will take me time to get back into our old ways, but I don't think it will be as bad as it was when we did it after only a month postpartum last time. I also had some issues with incontinence last time so maybe that made the four week sex less than thrilling, he was a bigger baby so maybe I took a bigger pounding from the birth? This time around I have not had any incontinence issues and was small at birth so again, I'm hoping the sex isn't as terrible.

mrsb30

KateDerek said:

How old is your baby? It definitely took a while each time for me to feel like I regained tightness down there and was back to my old self. I think we waited around 8 weeks the first time, and then only 4 the second time, and we learned that sooner is not always better so we are waiting again this time. It's been 7 weeks and I think we will be back at it this week. I still think it will take me time to get back into our old ways, but I don't think it will be as bad as it was when we did it after only a month postpartum last time. I also had some issues with incontinence last time so maybe that made the four week sex less than thrilling, he was a bigger baby so maybe I took a bigger pounding from the birth? This time around I have not had any incontinence issues and was small at birth so again, I'm hoping the sex isn't as terrible.

My baby is 8 weeks. We were cleared for sex at 5 weeks and started having sex then. Hopefully it will just take time!

kettlekitten

I'd say keep at the exercises and
Give it some more time. It's only 8 weeks since you pushed a baby out - give your poor vagina a break

AshleyM0125

It takes some time! It did with my first anyway. Even DH said once I am cleared it will be a month or so before its back to being good sex again.

CaliforniaDream87

I just think it takes time. It's still fairly early to judge how sex is after baby for you. Hang in there!