So miserable.

bopbop2525

I always wanted to be a mom, and now that I'm pregnant, I am hating it. Hating myself, hating my fiancé, my job, my co-workers- pretty well everything in my life. When I cry to my fiancé about an issue that bothers me, either with our relationship, a fear about the future, or a pet peeve at work, I'm " just being bitchy and need to keep my emotions in check". Words like that hurt even worse. I'm lost, alone, and really don't want this baby anymore. I feel like I have no support from anyone. I am so alone, scared, sick, and I miss being happy. All I can pray for, is that I'll be back to normal when this baby comes, so I can love my fiancé, myself and my new little one... I just honestly can't see it right now!

jonesl12

I think you need to talk to a therapist and get yourself some help before baby comes. It's nice to talk to somebody about these things before it gets out of hand. Hormones probably don't make the situation any better

saladflambe

First... (((HUGS)))

Take a deep breath. It's going to be ok. It really is.

I promise you are not the only one feeling this way. We don't talk about it a lot, but a LOT of pregnant women question what the heck they've gotten themselves into. It is normal to feel detached from the pregnancy; I'd even hazard to say that it's normal to want to back out of it. You're not bad for thinking or feeling these things; you're brave for being able to say it out loud.

Now, I will say that what your fiance said to you is out of line. Nobody should talk to you that way. That said, I don't know the full story, and lord knows my husband has said some insensitive things "thinking he was helping." If I repeated them here, people would gasp. 

I do agree that therapy is helpful. So helpful. My therapist is my lifeline right now. I want to back out of this on a daily basis. I feel extremely alone, miserable, like my life is over... so many things. But, my therapist is right there to tell me I'm not alone, I'm going to get through this, and I can talk to him about literally anything. It helps me to be able to direct all this "crazy" at him vs. at my relationship with my husband. My therapist is trained to handle it; my husband is not. So, I do suggest looking for a therapist. And, you may consider talking to a doctor about whether or not it makes sense to go on antidepressants (yes even while pregnant). Antenatal depression is a real thing! And it's hard.

Anyways. I'm really sorry that you're going through this. It's really...really hard. But, I promise you're not alone. I promise it won't always be exactly this way. I promise that there's help out there. And, most importantly, I promise you're not bad for thinking/feeling this way. Don't let anyone make you feel otherwise.

JanelandSteve2001

I kinda feel the same way. I have felt a little depressed. The MS and crummy feeling all day just really keeps me in the dumps. Also I have no social life now because the thought makes me want to faint to be honest with how tired and nauseous I have been. I do however have a supporting husband and that helps about 75%. Maybe talk to you fiance and just tell him you know your being emotional but just to listen. Men get overwhelmed too with everything so maybe that's why he responded that way. They have a tendency to not express their emotions properly. So your not the only one we are all here for you. You can vent to us:)

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Sarcasm101

 I second talking to a professional. Also it is unacceptable that your fi speaks to you that way.

asunna

I'm bitchy nonstop and for the first three weeks of finding out
I was really angry cause it was unplanned extremely emotional time

Lately in just moody
But my husband is extremely nice he listens to my rants and even rants about things he's mad about with me which cause me to laugh
Or he just listens
Later I'll apologize and he'll say it's ok I understand

I think you're fi doesn't get how the hormones can be and while hormones are not an excuse to be really down right mean to someone if you're feeling too overwhelmed speak to a professional

llybeck

It is normal to feel extreme emotions or to have mood swings and feel irritated. But to feel like you don't want the baby anymore or that you don't know how you could love the baby is more than just regular hormonal issues/emotions. I agree with PP, I would talk to your doctor. Postpartum depression is very real, common, and scary and if you can do something now to feel better but also to help head off PPD (or at least be better prepared for it) the better off you will be. You can't keep on feeling this way, it's not fair to you or anyone else. 

JanelandSteve2001

Oh and some of the people that I absolutely love being around, right now  I cant stand them My mood swings are no joke lately

angelica37

I am very relieved to hear other women experiencing this. I hate that we all feel this way but it's nice to know I'm not all alone. I too feel like the only support I have is from my boyfriend and hes doing a great job with it right now. I would like to know if anyone else has had positive experiences with therapy while pregnant because I am very intimidated and scared.

meggyme

angelica37 said:

I am very relieved to hear other women experiencing this. I hate that we all feel this way but it's nice to know I'm not all alone. I too feel like the only support I have is from my boyfriend and hes doing a great job with it right now. I would like to know if anyone else has had positive experiences with therapy while pregnant because I am very intimidated and scared.

I don’t think it could hurt, and if it has the possibility of making your pregnancy a happy memory then I don’t think you have anything to lose by giving it a try. If it doesn’t help then you can try something else. Joining your BMB is also a great way to not feel alone, especially during the pandemic which can feel very isolating.

capnjackharkness

I therapied throughout all of my PGs and MCs.  VERY helpful and highly recommend...