Introduction - TW loss mentioned

ambercakes92

I have posted a bit in the past week or so, but figure I should offer my formal introduction. So here I go.

This pregnancy has been quite the roller coaster! I found out I was pregnant through a home pregnancy test sometime in May. It was unplanned. I went to see an OB and despite showing no outward symptoms of doing so, he insisted that I was miscarrying due decreasing hormone levels. Despite not knowing how far along I was, he would not give me a transvaginal ultrasound and instead kept me coming back once a week for a month for bloodwork. Throughout this time I had MS and no bleeding whatsoever. I was devastated, but carried on with life as though I was not pregnant (as per his instruction).

At the end of June/beginning of August my boyfriend and I had a huge falling out and I checked myself into a hospital for a mental evaluation. I have suffered with depression for years and was feeling hopeless, although not suicidal. I wasn't taking my antidepressants and needed to get my health back on track. After running through many standard tests while at said hospital, I was told that I was pregnant. I didn't see how this could be, and was convinced it had to be a new pregnancy (which was a whole new set of emotions being that I was newly single). After getting an ultrasound to see how far along I was, I was told I was around 18 weeks pregnant. WTF?! My OB turned out to be entirely incompetent, and I was putting my baby at risk for over a month due to his negligence.

I have since found a new OB and he is giving me proper prenatal care. I haven't decided whether or not to take legal action against my first OB, but it also appears that he has fraudulently filed insurance claims for seeing me on dates that he did not. That is a source of stress I have been putting out of my mind lately.

My ex and I have no plans to get back together despite the fact that we are expecting our daughter in early January. As of the last few days things between us are worse than ever. He says he wants to be involved, but we live four hours apart...

I'm preparing to be a first time single mom, so I have a lot on my plate. However, I feel blessed to be given this opportunity to improve myself and care for another life.

Anyway that is my story. I hope to keep interacting on this board in the time ahead! Ps sorry for the novel

Lljbean

Im really sorry to hear about all the struggles you had to go through early on. I hope that whatever can be done to make sure that OB doesnt do that to any other women, works out. Good luck, Mama. Some of the best Moms I know pulled themselves up and gave their kids the best lives they knew how, even when they felt alone and scared. You can do this! I hope you find whatever you need here and that you have a great rest of your pregnancy!  :x

ambercakes92

Thank you, that really means a lot!

claireloSC

OMG, what a nightmare! I'm so sorry that you are going through that. I hope everything is going well with your little one now that you're getting the proper care. I'm normally not litigious but that sounds so egregious I might be inclined to sue also.

I'm sure you are going to be a great mom and I wish you the best of luck! Good thoughts your way for you and the wee one!

TinyDancer51510

I'm so sorry you went through that! I'm not normally litigious either but I would hate to think of other women needlessly going through that. It all depends on what you feel up for though. You certainly have a lot on your plate.

I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well! Congrats on the baby girl! Even though she was a surprise (twice...), I'm sure you'll do great. :-)

ntyravgsp

Welcome!
I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of that and I'm glad to hear you are receiving much better care now. Hopefully the rest of your pregnancy is healthy even though you are facing a lot. You can do it!

SummerFall03

I can't imagine what you are going through. Stay strong for you and your little girl! You can do this!

As for the unbelievable OB- go after him. That is disgusting on his part.

Hugs your way!

kaym6

Congrats on your little baby girl! Sounds like you have been through a lot recently but have stayed strong so good for you! you sound like you are going to make a wonderful mother and I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes more smoothly than the start!

ccoleeman

"However I feel blessed to be given this opportunity to improve myself and care for another life"

^ that right there, is an amazing attitude. I can't imagine the roller coaster of emotions you must be going through, but your determination and perseverance thus far shows that you will be an incredible example to your daughter. Welcome to our BMB, wishing you health and happiness the rest of your pregnancy

nlwz123

Shame on that OB.  That's ridiculous.  Welcome to Jan 16!

ambercakes92

Thanks so much, everyone! These responses are putting a big smile on my face

ChrissyD1203

I'm so sorry to hear about all that stress, but glad you are keeping so positive. I would talk to a lawyer (I think some give free consultations), about what legal rights you might have and what you might need to be doing right now to preserve those rights. This way you have all your options in front of you and aren't prejudicing anything by not acting quickly or maintaining any information you might later need for a lawsuit.