My boys are 9wks old but were born at 35+1 which I know 'technically' makes them only 4 wks adjusted age. I really feel like they are hitting some milestones at the 'regular' pace. (They were 4.5 lbs each at birth but are both over 11 lbs at this point) So my question is those who had late term preemies did you notice a big difference in adjusted age milestones? It's so frustrating because I don't know what realistic timeline to expect (and I know, I know, every baby is different... Just looking for others experiences here)
Re: Moms of older preemies- gestational age vs adjusted age development
DH has issues with the whole corrected age thing saying "oh she doesn't do this or that. She's gonna struggle her whole life. I'm like you're so stupid what if (hypothetically and I know impossible) she came out when I was 8 weeks pregnant? Youd judge this little fetus with flipper hands compared to full term babies? Then he wants to change her birthday so he's not confused. I'm like is it really THAT confusing?! Smdh
He was about a month behind developmentally for the first 8 months, but then didn't keep up and seemed to stall in his development progress when he was 8 months actual age. By the time he was 18 months he was testing at a 12 month level. We couldn't afford the therapies so I googled occupational and speech therapy and worked with him myself.
Long story short, he turned 3 in October and he's now testing advanced I was so worried about his speech, but I guess his brain just needed a bit more time to work everything out. Doctors and literature say that preemies should be caught up to full term kids by the time they're 2 years old actual age, but I think it's silly to put a 24 month time limit on it. Some kids born at 30 weeks are caught up, other kids born at 35 weeks are still a bit behind. My son was about 2.5 when he was fully caught up developmentally.
So don't lose hope, even when you experience set backs! Push for assessments when you're concerned and explore different services you can afford or qualify for.