TTC after 35

New Here - First Post! :)

Hello everyone!

I have been lurking for a couple days, anxiously waiting for the opportunity to introduce myself. This seems like such a supportive community and I’m excited to be a part of it!

I’m 35 (will be 36 in December) and DH is 34 (will be 35 in December). We’ve been together for 5 years (married for two) - and we’ve always known we wanted to start a family someday. We’ve literally been talking about it since our 3rd date! That's normal, right?! Haha. We had originally planned to start trying immediately after the wedding, but so much started to happen - his grandfather passed away, his father had a heart transplant, and then he got laid off at work - there was so much stress that it just felt like it wasn’t the right time. I’ve always been a worrier, and eventually, I started getting freaked out that our chance may be slipping away. This summer, after talking it over, DH and I decided that while life isn’t perfect right now, we didn’t want to wait any longer to start trying. 

So we've been TTC for about 2 months now with no luck. I’ve been using an OPK, but last month all I got was the flashing smiley face - what’s up with that?! I’ve recently decided to start temping as well (I ordered a basal thermometer on Thursday) - so we will see how that goes. To be honest, I’m a little overwhelmed, it seems so confusing. 

Like I said, I’m a worrier so I’m really looking forward to getting to know people on here and to be able to chat about all of this. 

I hope this into message is okay - I tried learning the lingo before posting, but that list is LONG! Haha. Hope to talk to all of you soon!



Re: New Here - First Post! :)

  • Welcome! I'm new here too, also a worrier. It comforts me to be reminded that fertility doesn't fall off a cliff at 35. Instead it's a gradual slope. Your chances now are really quite similar to what they were 2 years ago.

    Also, my H and I talked about having kids on our first date. Haha we had both dated so much we knew not to waste our time and got all of the "big" topics out of the way right away: family, money, politics, religion, health.

    Good luck!
    Me: 40  DH: 43
    Married 5/30/15
    TTC #1 June 2015
    BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
    TTC #2 May 2017
    BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
    BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
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  • edited September 2015
    Welcome and good luck. I'm also new. Been TTC for 5 months now. My H and I talked about kids within a month of dating because I was schedule foe deployment and he wanted to knock me up to keep me from going. LOL Looking dorward to getting to know you @pekaboosmiles
    Me: 36 DH: 42
    San Diego, CA

    TTC #1 since June 2015

    Prior D&C due to blighted ovum 2003

  • Welcome! We talked about kids early too because we were 37 and 39 when we met and dating someone who didn't want a family was a deal-breaker for both of us! Better to find out early. ;)

    Anyway. Good luck and welcome to the board. This is a great and really supportive group. It's great to have a place in the world where there is no such thing as "obsessing too much" or "TMI." Everything is fair game!
  • Hi welcome and good luck to you in your TTC journey. I hope your stay here is short
  • Welcome to the board!! You will find lots of support here
    Me (42) w/ partner for 16+ years
    TTC #1: 11/2012 - 9/2013; 6/2014 - present
    Follistim + TI (3x): All BFNs
    Follistim + IUI (1x): BFN 
    IVF #1: 17 retrieved,15 fertilized, Day 3: 15, Day 5/6: 3 biopsied
    Result; 1 frozen blast (inconclusive PGS results)
    IVF #2; ER: 6/22 16 retrieved, 6/25: 5 transferred (CP), 2 frozen
    FET 9/17: BFN
    Current FET -- Transferred 2 day-3 embryos - BFN

  • @pekaboosmiles isn't that the truth?! We don't hang out with many of our friends anymore because of their kids, and we have dog babies LOL seems like the parents of kids don't think we have anything in common anymore. And my bestie who has been diagnosed with infertility issues doesn't like to talk to me about TTC. So I have no one to talk to either :(
    Me: 36 DH: 42
    San Diego, CA

    TTC #1 since June 2015

    Prior D&C due to blighted ovum 2003

  • ladeuce13ladeuce13 member
    edited September 2015
    Welcome!! This is a great community :) DH and I talked about kids early too! We've been TTC our first for a year now. We're both healthy and capable of having children .. It just hasn't happened yet. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive ... So, keep that in mind as you go along. Sometimes it makes me feel better that my experience is not unusual.

    Being a worrier myself, I found reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility really interesting and eye opening. I learned lots of things I didn't know and knowledge helps me worry less. I don't like OPKs because, on their own, they don't do much for me. They show a surge in LH, but that can happen multiple times a cycle. I pretty much rely on temping and charting to know what's going on in my body. It's been good, because I found out that I ovulate later than I thought!

    Anyways ... I'm chatty this morning. Just felt like sharing a bit of my experience. Welcome and good luck!!
    Me: 37, DH: 44
    TTC #1 since September 2014

  • Welcome and good luck!! :)
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
  • Welcome and good luck to you, Hope your stay is short.

    My BF and I met 3 days before my 39th birthday so we talked about kids on our 3rd date... I didn't want to waste time either.
    ****Loss Mentioned***
    Me: 41 Him: 41
    TTC since December 2013
    HSG 9/18/14 = Tubes open but T shaped uterus
    IUI #1... 1/6/2015 + 50mg Clomid = BFN
    IUI #2... 1/29 & 30/2015 + 50mg Clomid +Tigger +Progesterone = BFN
    3/14 BFFP! Natural w/acupuncture & herbs only
    EDD = 11/22/15;  No heartbeat = 7/21/15
    Cooper Midnight Johnson born sleeping 7/25/2015

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
  • Welcome!

    You get the hang of OPKs in time.  When you're getting close to when you think you'll be surging, you might want to use them 2-3 times a day, because the peak surge doesn't happen for very long.  I also strongly encourage temping, because that tells you so much about your body. 
    Me- 39 (turning 40 in April), TTC for the first time ever (since Jan 2015), low ovarian reserve
    Married 3/14/14 to my wonderful wife, but her sperm count is rather low
    TTC with frozen donor sperm and science

    7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
    2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
    Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
    Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!  
    fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP! 
    Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)

  • Hello...I too have been lurking and felt a new found sense of hope reading through all of these amazing women's experiences, hopes and dreams. I am 38, remarried to the "real" man of my dreams for a year now. TTC now for about 8 months. Currently on my first cycle of Clomid. Have two beautiful kids 10 and 18!! All the best to you moms and soon to be moms!!
  • Welcome to the board! Among the many romantic things my husband said in our early days, he said he was looking forward to putting a beautiful baby in the cart seat while shopping at the supermarket :) That was almost twenty years ago! We're looking forward to turning that vision into reality, finally!
  • Welcome! Good luck! Children was one of the first discussions my husband and I had on our first date as well!  :)  
  • Welcome and good luck. I'm also new. Been TTC for 5 months now. My H and I talked about kids within a month of dating because I was schedule foe deployment and he wanted to knock me up to keep me from going. LOL Looking dorward to getting to know you @pekaboosmiles

    Love this! My husband is in the Army and we TTC because he was getting deployed and we weren't sure how long it would take. 
  • Welcome and best of luck to you! :)
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • Thanks everyone! :)
  • Welcome! We can be new to this board together! I'm 36 and my partner will be 34 next month. I never considered kids till I met him, now I can't wait to start a family. Good luck and all the best :-h
  • Welcome and GL.
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