Just wanted to introduce myself. I really need a group like this in my life.

jlcfashion

My name is Jennifer and I am 31 years old. I am going on a year of disappointment. 2 miscarriages.. Trying and BFN month after month. No luck with clomid and the trigger shot. I am seeing a specialist, but no good reason for all this trouble. I just don't know how to stay positive. I feel every disappointment chips away at me and I don't have anyone close to me that understands what it is like. To try and stay positive and not give up. Any guidance would help. I am sorry for sounding so sad, but right now I am.

ceclarlinetlo

Welcome - I've only been on the board for about a month but I've seen a lot of really supportive ladies here. I'm sorry your having a rough time right now - I'm also at the 1 year mark and had my second miscarriage in July.

It can be really hard to stay positive. What helps me is trying to not think to far ahead. Just think about today or this week. Like you said It also helps to talk to people who get it. None of us can actually do anything to change any of our situations but there is something about hearing something supportive even from Internet strangers that can make all the difference.

yellingbanana

Hi there, I'm also 31. PCOS, metformin, femera, and next week will use my first trigger shot.
It IS very hard to stay positive, and it's also ok to feel sad. Every CD1, it's like a giant sad sledge hammer that takes a week to recover from. But, we are doing this for a reason, with an awesome end goal.
It is hard to talk to regular people though, isn't it? You want to share what you're going through, but don't want pity, or even worse- their easy pregnancy/birth story (thanks a lot). Honestly, I was falling apart until I joined this group. I can connect with others who know the struggle, it makes such a big difference. I only joined like a month ago and already I can cope way better... Because I know I'm not alone, and neither are you.
Hang in there.

jlcfashion

Thank you both so much. I don't know why some amazing women, like us, have to endure such pain/ disappointment, but I do know we can't give up. It is nice to hear, listen, and learn to women going through the same challenges I am.

misshopeful1

TTC over 3 years, idk how I/DH continue sometimes. I'm quite literally depressed.
I won't feel bad for wanting a child. But if we aren't able to conceive I fear I won't be able to get past that and always have a void. But I don't want DH to think I'm not happy with him if we don't get pregnant.

lablover78

Hello! I'm 36, have been trying over 2 years and have also been really struggling with this lately. I have 3 close friends who are pregnant at the moment. I bought a graditude journal & for the last couple of weeks every morning I focus on one thing in my life that makes me happy. For the rest of the day whenever I start to have a negative fertility though I push it out of my head and focus on the 1 thing I picked out that day. It's sort of been helping to stop my mind going to those dark places. @misshopeful1 I feel the exact same way.