Date night?!

lindsladle15

We have the rants/raves thread, but I'm interested in dates/outings/weekend adventures you've had since baby was born with your DH/SO.

I love my little girls to pieces, but I love time alone with DH!

lindsladle15

DH and I are going out tonight, and I'm pumped! No real plans except eating dinner and ice cream, but since I consider going to the grocery alone a mini-vacation, I could care less what we do!
I'm looking forward to our anniversary next month and a night away from both girls. Ahh....sleeping in. I-)

mjschenk

We went to a soccer game one night, swimming one day, and a Tim McGraw concert DH isn't a huge country fan but I also just wanted some time with us and it was amazing. Luckily we have lots of family to watch LO haven't left him non family yet.

LaurenAnn0405

DH and I went out to dinner one night, just the two of us and we took his slightly sportier car.  We normally all pile into my mom SUV so since we were without kids we could take the "special" car haha.  I love my kids to pieces and miss them like crazy during the day when I'm at work but it was so nice to just have the two of us and be able to have adult conversation and not have to worry about entertaining a 3 year old while we were waiting for our food.  We also have family close by so we haven't left the kids with a non-family member yet.

mrs1374a

We went about a month ago, when our baby just turned 2 months, we had a few drinks and an amazingly delicious dinner. Our wedding anniversary is Wednesday so we are going back to the same place because it was that good. I can not wait! (Wednesday is my husbands "Saturday" next week and I'm a sahm so it works! Lol)

hudson202

We are at the drive in right now. Although baby is sleeping in the car. . .it still counts, right?

janat1717

@hudson202 that is a genius idea!!! I can even pump there!

AlyLynn07

We went to a friend's wedding last weekend. It was pouring, windy and freezing! I had to pump in the car and the band wasn't really playing danceable stuff... but we made the most of it and had a great time with friends anyway!

ahall0358

DH and I still haven't been on a date and LO is 3 months! I get major anxiety when I leave her, I've been without her once for 30 minutes and had a meltdown. I'm wondering if it will ever get easier for me?

lwhrmomma

DH and I have had a few casual date nights where we have left LO with family and we've gone out to dinner. We are going down to Atlantic City next month for hubby's birthday and leaving LO with my mom overnight. I think I'm more excited for a full night of sleep than I am for gambling hahaha.

rklinge0

I don't have a problem leaving her. At one month we went to a concert in a different state, I was gone for 8 hrs. We have done 4 casual dates where we just ate out. Also we went to a baseball game on labor day. Next Sun is our anniversary so we are having his parents watch her and doing dinner and bowling.

ksimo6

We spent two nights kid free barfing our brains out. Sexy date. We have also gone to dinner and then wedding as well. We used a high school babysitter for the dinner and it went great. Second kid syndrome... Anyone can keep him alive!

rrcameron21

LO is 11 weeks and we haven't had date night. Yikes! I didn't even realize. LO sleeping in his crib all week has been close enough!! Bow chica bow wowwww.

carajeanp37

I'm such a cliche FTM I have serious anxiety leaving her (and when I'm with her too, but leaving is still hard).. We are going to the subway series tomorrow which means LO will be with my parents for a LONG time considering traffic will be a nightmare getting to and from the stadium. I bought these tickets months ago thinking I'd be ready but I'm very stressed about it now.. Not to mention my poor boobs. I'm sure it will be good for us though, tension is high and sex drive is low, some alone time can't hurt.. Go Yankees?

mypower610

We've been to a wedding, baseball game & 2 date nights. We have both of our parents around our area so it's been easy. She stays with my Mom while I'm at work so the other times she's been with DH's parents. That's definitely easier on us.

aj1327

We've been to a movie and to a baseball game. We're going to a wedding that's about an hour away in November and LO will be staying with Grandma (at our house). It will be our first over night trip. I know I'll be anxious and miss him, but I'm already looking forward to alone time and sleeping!

Edited for spelling

lovethatcolosun

I want one. That is all.

YouAreMySunshine15

Okay. My mom is visiting and giving DH and I our first date night tomorrow. I have a question. I EBF and LO rarely gets a bottle. Will my supply be affected if I pump in the middle of the night and then skip her feeding while we're out tomorrow? She'll obviously get the bottle from grandma. I just don't know if the timing of the pumping/bottle needs to be closer?

krystleshel

Still haven't had one... 14 weeks.

DH's coworker & wife gave us a babysitting coupon & gift card at shower. BUT then they come over to meet her around 2 months old & she doesn't "know how to hold her" & he didn't want to.... So I'm gonna say no for now to them. Moms been too busy to be able to. Ugh. I'd love a dinner & ice cream.

47923ang

Sjeff0816 said:

Okay. My mom is visiting and giving DH and I our first date night tomorrow. I have a question. I EBF and LO rarely gets a bottle. Will my supply be affected if I pump in the middle of the night and then skip her feeding while we're out tomorrow? She'll obviously get the bottle from grandma. I just don't know if the timing of the pumping/bottle needs to be closer?

I can't answer this exactly because I EP.

What I can say with accuracy--because all my milk is measured--is that my supply remains pretty close to the same if I pump 6 times a day, 7 times a day, or 8 times a day. And my supply remains pretty close the the same with pumping gaps of 3 hours and gaps of up to 6 hours. (The 6 hour gaps don't happen that often, only when we're out and about--so once a week or so).

aj1327

Sjeff0816 said:

Okay. My mom is visiting and giving DH and I our first date night tomorrow. I have a question. I EBF and LO rarely gets a bottle. Will my supply be affected if I pump in the middle of the night and then skip her feeding while we're out tomorrow? She'll obviously get the bottle from grandma. I just don't know if the timing of the pumping/bottle needs to be closer?

I've done this from time to time and my supply has remained fine.

I often have to pump when I get home if LO isn't ready to eat because I feel full though.

mjschenk

I would say you should be fine although I would wear pads in case you leak and you're boobs might be pretty tender by the end.

Kbchavez23

We had a date night of dinner and bowling when LO was about 8 weeks, and we went to see Dierks Bentley about 3 weeks ago. I could go for a date night every 2 weeks but we don't have many options for a sitter

klkonwi

@Sjeff0816 your supply is well established by now and a few instances of pumping instead of feeding will not affect it.

YouAreMySunshine15

Thank you!

virginiaunicorn11

DH and I schlep LO everywhere with us. Neither of us want to leave him, and we both want him to be EBF. However I do wish we could go see a movie or a play. The drive-in idea is great!

I think this works for us because we are both stay at home parents right now*. We get alone time during every nap, and we use that time pretty well.

[*We aren't trust fund kids - we are just planners, using up 8 years of accrued sick and vacation time.]

MaliKaela

We didn't really go on dates pre-baby. Pretty lame, right? Neither of us has much of a desire to do anything where we live so baby hasn't changed much for us in that department.

HoosOnFirst

@amccoy129 enjoy that wedding! We did that in August - left LO with MIL, went to a wedding and stayed over. OMG it was so great to eat an uninterrupted meal, have some drinks, and sleep in in the morning! DH and I were not in a great place relationship wise at that time, and boy did it help.

We then decided to say yes to all weddings this year. We have another one next weekend although we aren't staying over (boo) so we might regret it. But I figure it's a free fancy meal!

HayesRN13

We take LO to grandma and gramps at least once every two weeks since he was about 4 weeks old.. Dinner and or movie usually (at 4 weeks was just a quick dinner then we rushed back to him) but now we take our time and add in a movie, and maybe head back to our house for some "alone time" before we pick him up I really believe this is very important

lindsladle15

HayesRN13 said:

We take LO to grandma and gramps at least once every two weeks since he was about 4 weeks old.. Dinner and or movie usually (at 4 weeks was just a quick dinner then we rushed back to him) but now we take our time and add in a movie, and maybe head back to our house for some "alone time" before we pick him up I really believe this is very important

Amen! Dates are very important for so many reasons.

HoosOnFirst

We decided that we might skip the wedding we have this Saturday and still bring LO to my aunt's house so that we can have a date night instead (not that a wedding isn't a date night, but we don't need to put on stuffy clothes!)

HayesRN13

Bump

theletlers

Is there anyone else out there who hasn't left LO with anyone besides DH/SO? We go out occasionally and just take LO with us, but I haven't left him with anyone else. I worry right now about being gone because he won't take a bottle and only sleeps for like half hour or so for naps. We have a lot of family and friends who keep offering to babysit and I feel like it's getting awkward because we never say yes. I just feel like if we are going out I like having LO there too!
As a side note DH works in the evenings and on his days off honestly prefers to stay home. He is more of a homebody.

virginiaunicorn11

^ Me.
Well, I left him at the temple daycare during High Holy Days services twice, but it was only for 2 hours, and I checked on him twice (because he is EBF).

mlindzz

At 3 months, we left LO with my sister for an hour so se could grab java together at Starbucks.

Lame, I know. We should step it up.

janat1717

@theletlers Only DH has watched my guy while I'm gone. I've found that if it is just for a couple of hours he waits til I'm home and then eats... Takes a bottle just knows if I'm not there he might as well wait as it's never that long.

addingon

We have a hot date planned for tonight! I can't believe it's the first one. I never would have thought we'd wait this long, but whatever. We're going to a swanky steak place and then bar hopping around the trendy hipster part of town. We probably won't even be out that late, but it'll seem like we're real grown ups again ;;)

mamameghan

We went out for our anniversary in August and then last weekend. I've been feeling really overwhelmed lately and missing my old self. Now the girls keep me hopping almost 24 hours a day. One of the babies tatted teething and I just about lost it. Thankfully my mom just told me, I'm coming into town and please let me take your kids. I struggle to ask people for help, I just like to do it. So anyways, thanks to my moms loving pushiness we got out for a much needed dinner!