My FI and I just had ours,and I love this OB/GYN, feel completely comfortable with her, and trust her.
My FI just met her for the first time, and had a different experience with her. She is really direct and blunt (which is one of the reasons I really love this doc!). But she ended up offending my FI. My FI asked her if there was anything we could do to increase our chances to conceive, and she responded to just "have sex, stop stressing, and see what happens". She further explained that some couples get pregnant right away, and others it can take awhile. She said that if we don't get pregnant in the first 6-9 months, then to come back and see her and we can start testing to see if we have any issues. My FI was pissed off that she wasn't testing us immediately for problems. She explained that it is not necessary to test unless you have problems getting pregnant, but my FI was furious.
My FI was venting about this for the entire day after our appointment, and he said he doesn't like her at all. He said he was expecting to leave with a plan on how to get pregnant, and we didn't get that because she only told us to have sex. I personally don't understand what he wanted to hear, but I didn't find her answer ridiculous.
She also made sure I was taking prenatals (I am), discussed when I would stop my BCP by asking how regular my periods were without BCP, and was talking to me about the stress of my job and telling me that this probably isn't the best job for me (I agree with her). She also had the nurse draw blood to do genetic testing (I'm Jewish).
But at this point, my FI had already written her off.
Have any of you guys experienced this? I don't know what to do. My FI said he'll still go with me to all appointments but he is done talking to her or asking her any questions.
I almost feel like I need to find a different OB/GYN that my FI likes, but this OB/GYN has been named one of the best in our area 7 years in a row, and I honestly don't want to find someone else.
I'm hoping he'll calm down after a few days, and realize that he is overreacting. But I also know that if we don't get pregnant immediately, then he is going to stress and probably fly off the handle about it because "she didn't give us a plan". This is stressing me out, and putting a lot of pressure on me.