I have 4 BILs and SILs so I think it's natural to like some more than others, but we are very close with two of the families, semi close with another and we don't hear from the last unless they are inviting us to a gift giving event. Sigh. I do feel very lucky to have such a great relationship with the ones we do, though.
My MIL is kind of a crapshoot. I really do love her and know that she has the best of intentions, but she and I are polar opposites. We used to butt heads a whole lot more frequently, but we have both 'grown up' a lot in the last few years and I may even own the (not-so) coveted title of favorite DIL. Definitely not my favorite person, but I could have it a whole lot worse so I try to count my blessings where I can.
My MIL passed away when my husband was in 6th grade. I reaaaally wish I had the opportunity to meet her, and I am jealous of those of you who have amazing MIL's!
My FFFC: I have eaten a LOT of the 'no-no' foods this pregnancy. I stayed away from almost all of them with #1, but this time...not so much. :-S
My DH complains about my pickle selection from the grocery. Like dude nags me about it on the regular. I buy pickles every once in a blue moon. Look son, you want specific pickles get off of me about it take yourself to the store and buy what ever Damn pickles you want. To be honest I have specifically avoided buying the pickles of his choice for over a year now. Can we say passive aggressive much? I suppose this is more twatwaffle. Ah well
So jealous of all the people with good relationships with their MIL. I had a good relationship with her until she found out I was sticking around permanently and "stealing" her baby boy. I still love my FIL and SIL. It's just her and I really thought it was my fault at first and I tried to repair it and tried including her in the wedding planning process. I gave up when she declared war on me and told my mom "I don't know who your daughter is marrying but it's not my baby" and then hung up on her. **sigh**
So jealous of all the people with good relationships with their MIL. I had a good relationship with her until she found out I was sticking around permanently and "stealing" her baby boy. I still love my FIL and SIL. It's just her and I really thought it was my fault at first and I tried to repair it and tried including her in the wedding planning process. I gave up when she declared war on me and told my mom "I don't know who your daughter is marrying but it's not my baby" and then hung up on her. **sigh**
Wooooooww. I'm sorry.
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On the ILs I feel so blessed! We have a great relationship and I really consider them a second family. We lived with them for 2 years and they have never treated me like anything but their own child. Even despite the fact that dh's life did an entire 180 since he met me. (Didn't follow family footsteps in career, location, family timing etc.) Sometimes it takes them awhile to warm to things, but then when they see how happy we are they are always happy for us.
My FFFC is that I am terrified of how fast this pregnancy is going and dreading the end of it. I had serious complications in the third trimester with ds and I am scared of going through it all again. I also have to have a repeat c section and I am anxious about going through the recovery too. Gah! I feel very blessed to be pregnant and can't wait for the baby, but it is going too fast!
Same here- both my FILS are great but both mils are cuckoo!!! MIL abandoned DH and his sibs for her coccaine dealing boyfriend when DHwas just 6. Said bf told her he hated kids and she was the twat waffle willing to give her kids up for drugs- and divorced FIL. When she got pregnant with my baby SIL (She is 23 now) he got mad and gave her the boot. She's tried to make amends over the years but she really has no idea how to be a mom. We try to go see her but she claims she is always working. I've had to do a lot of damage control with DH over psychological issues his mother caused.
SMIL is a whack job in her own right. But I'll save that story for another day.
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I have a love/hate relationship with the baby names board. I love seeing people's name ideas/suggestions, and I vote on all the polls. But I feel like the vocal majority over there has such a rigid naming style and anything outside their pre-approved name selection is deemed outrageous and klassy.
I posted weeks ago about the name Kate. I guess I was asking for it, but I was just wondering what people think of it as a standalone name. Most of the responses were unfavorable. A lot of people said, "She's not going to be a little girl forever. She needs a respectable name to put on a resume." I think that's such a lame excuse. By the time this baby is old enough to be filling out job applications, there are going to be so many Bexleighs and Apples and Mylyk'las that Kate is not going to raise any eyebrows.
All that's to say, I've moved on from the name Kate anyway. Haha. Rant over. (And I realize this will probably get xp'd to the BN board and I'll be mocked and branded as a whiner forever.)
My given name is Kathryn, but I have gone by Kate or Katie my whole life. As an adult, I have never felt the need to use Kathryn even though it is more formal.
Here's mine- with all of my pregnancies I've only used one pregnancy test per baby. I've never fully understood why more than one test is needed if it was positive the first time. I can see going from negative to positive but I don't understand taking 3 and them all being positive then running out and buying 3 more to continue testing. Plus the good ones are expensive and I'd rather buy a burger or some tacos with that cash lol.
I just took one too. When I went to my doctor she said "how many tests have you done - 600??" I said um, no, just one and she was like oh... And gave me a strange look! We must be in the minority! I totally agree, if it's positive how many positives do you need?! Going back to look at my one positive test 25 million times to check... Now that's a different matter!
My FFFC: I have eaten a LOT of the 'no-no' foods this pregnancy. I stayed away from almost all of them with #1, but this time...not so much. :-S
I eat all the foods on the "no-list" too. Sushi, rare steak, soft boiled and runny eggs, unpasteurized cheese, raw milk from my friend's cows, coldcuts, fish … I'm seriously more worried about the cucumbers that are killing people. Like I wash the shit out if my fruits and veggies! Or picking up some nasty bug from the shopping cart handle at the market, waiting area at a restaurant, my kid bringing some illness home from kindergarten, etc.
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Here's mine- with all of my pregnancies I've only used one pregnancy test per baby. I've never fully understood why more than one test is needed if it was positive the first time. I can see going from negative to positive but I don't understand taking 3 and them all being positive then running out and buying 3 more to continue testing. Plus the good ones are expensive and I'd rather buy a burger or some tacos with that cash lol.
I'm assuming you haven't experienced a miscarriage or infertility.
Here's mine- with all of my pregnancies I've only used one pregnancy test per baby. I've never fully understood why more than one test is needed if it was positive the first time. I can see going from negative to positive but I don't understand taking 3 and them all being positive then running out and buying 3 more to continue testing. Plus the good ones are expensive and I'd rather buy a burger or some tacos with that cash lol.
I'm assuming you haven't experienced a miscarriage or infertility.
My post wasn't meant to be a stab at anyone. And yes, I have experienced a miscarriage. I'm not sure what made you take my post the way you did as the pp's just said their reasoning without hard feelings. Have a great day
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My FFFC: I have eaten a LOT of the 'no-no' foods this pregnancy. I stayed away from almost all of them with #1, but this time...not so much. :-S
I eat all the foods on the "no-list" too. Sushi, rare steak, soft boiled and runny eggs, unpasteurized cheese, raw milk from my friend's cows, coldcuts, fish … I'm seriously more worried about the cucumbers that are killing people. Like I wash the shit out if my fruits and veggies! Or picking up some nasty bug from the shopping cart handle at the market, waiting area at a restaurant, my kid bringing some illness home from kindergarten, etc.
Seriously!!! Ugh. Last year my daughter was sick alllll the time and it wasn't from my husband or I, it was from her cousin who was in kindergarten. Cold/flu season sucks!
We did 3-4 test but, on different days over a week or so.....we had just suffered a chemical pregnancy the month before though so before going through another ER nightmare we decided to confirm it a cpl times to make sure it was sticking! Some people I've seen though are super obsessed about POTS!
I took two pregnancy tests, becuase the 1st one the line was so light that DH said it didnt count! My FFFC - im pretty sure im over my 1st tri exhaustion, but im feeling extra lazy this week so ive been blaming it on my pregnancy to get out of household chores! Bad i know but ive picked myself back up this weekend
One test with each pregnancy. Also I did experience a miscarriage for what that's worth. I had a friend that spent so much on tests and I also couldn't understand why.
I too have been eating things I shouldn't but I don't go crazy, usually order my burgers medium rare and I have pushed that back to medium ha ha
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I know it's not Friday anymore and it's too early for next Friday but this one has been weighing on my conscience.
I can't click on the threads about loses. I want to express my condolences but I'm such an emotional wreck lately I don't even want to read them. I've got two more weeks until I can hear LO's heart beat again and possibly an ultrasound. I can't handle the wait as it is and seeing those threads makes even more anxious.
@soxfan9968 I totally get what you mean. I've clicked on a few to offer help/condolences and I feel heartbroken for these women. I think the worry never goes away! I am going to be on edge till I hear the heartbeat on Tuesday! And then again until I hear it again...
@soxfan9968 I can completely understand what you're saying and it's just like the whole thing about getting all into the news and the terrible things happening. Yes, they happen and they happen everyday but I do find that if I don't read the terrible things that they're not constantly on my mind. This isn't to be mean or passive it's (for me at least) to be as stress free as possible because pregnancy is a stressful time on it's own without adding to it. Edited for spelling.
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@ecwk I'm hoping we'll feel better once we can feel them moving around but doc already gave me a heads up I probably won't feel it until later than usual because of LO's placenta placement. sigh...
Lol I think the worry never goes away. I kept thinking after each milestone I'd be less anxious but there is always something to worry about. Once you feel baby moving you'll worry "are they moving enough" "did I feel enough kicks today" lol it is endless in pregnancy and soon you will have the baby and worry about them too. You can't help but worry when you love someone so much.
I know it's not Friday anymore and it's too early for next Friday but this one has been weighing on my conscience.
I can't click on the threads about loses. I want to express my condolences but I'm such an emotional wreck lately I don't even want to read them. I've got two more weeks until I can hear LO's heart beat again and possibly an ultrasound. I can't handle the wait as it is and seeing those threads makes even more anxious.
I'm the opposite, I find myself reading through loss-support boards and blogs that women who have lost pregnancies or children to tragedy have written. It's really morbid and masochistic, and I only ever seem to do it while pregnant, but it's happened all three pregnancies.
It's almost as if I think that I can somehow buffer myself and my family from tragedy by suffering vicariously through the losses that others have had to bear. Which is insane, I realize. But it also reminds me to cherish my time with my loved ones, and to squeeze my little ones a little more tightly every day.
As for peeing on a stick, my first baby and this last one were surprises (both conceived while using birth control!) So I took both tests that came in the box, just to be sure I wasn't hallucinating. Actually, with this current babe I actually used an ovulation strip left over from the middle kiddo. I was supposed to start my period any day and knew that ovulation strips often pick up the hCG and give a strong test line, which was exactly what happened with mine.
For the middle kiddo we knew that we wanted an early summer baby to fit into my work schedule, so I bought a ton of wondfo ovulation and pregnancy strips because I knew I would be obsessively peeing on sticks and I didn't want to spend a fortune. We got lucky and caught the second cycle after I had my IUD removed, and our little Junebug just turned 2 this summer!
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I have 4 BILs and SILs so I think it's natural to like some more than others, but we are very close with two of the families, semi close with another and we don't hear from the last unless they are inviting us to a gift giving event. Sigh. I do feel very lucky to have such a great relationship with the ones we do, though.
My MIL is kind of a crapshoot. I really do love her and know that she has the best of intentions, but she and I are polar opposites. We used to butt heads a whole lot more frequently, but we have both 'grown up' a lot in the last few years and I may even own the (not-so) coveted title of favorite DIL. Definitely not my favorite person, but I could have it a whole lot worse so I try to count my blessings where I can.
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My FFFC: I have eaten a LOT of the 'no-no' foods this pregnancy. I stayed away from almost all of them with #1, but this time...not so much. :-S
My FFFC is that I am terrified of how fast this pregnancy is going and dreading the end of it. I had serious complications in the third trimester with ds and I am scared of going through it all again. I also have to have a repeat c section and I am anxious about going through the recovery too. Gah! I feel very blessed to be pregnant and can't wait for the baby, but it is going too fast!
SMIL is a whack job in her own right. But I'll save that story for another day.
But, I was so nervous at my first appointment that I wasn't really pregnant and that it was all in head.
I wish I just had taken a second. lol
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My post wasn't meant to be a stab at anyone. And yes, I have experienced a miscarriage. I'm not sure what made you take my post the way you did as the pp's just said their reasoning without hard feelings. Have a great day
I too have been eating things I shouldn't but I don't go crazy, usually order my burgers medium rare and I have pushed that back to medium ha ha
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
I can't click on the threads about loses. I want to express my condolences but I'm such an emotional wreck lately I don't even want to read them. I've got two more weeks until I can hear LO's heart beat again and possibly an ultrasound. I can't handle the wait as it is and seeing those threads makes even more anxious.
@soxfan9968
I totally get what you mean. I've clicked on a few to offer help/condolences and I feel heartbroken for these women. I think the worry never goes away! I am going to be on edge till I hear the heartbeat on Tuesday! And then again until I hear it again...
Edited for spelling.
@ecwk I'm 13weeks 3 days and if I could I'd probably countdown the seconds too!! Ha ha!!
It's almost as if I think that I can somehow buffer myself and my family from tragedy by suffering vicariously through the losses that others have had to bear. Which is insane, I realize. But it also reminds me to cherish my time with my loved ones, and to squeeze my little ones a little more tightly every day.
As for peeing on a stick, my first baby and this last one were surprises (both conceived while using birth control!) So I took both tests that came in the box, just to be sure I wasn't hallucinating. Actually, with this current babe I actually used an ovulation strip left over from the middle kiddo. I was supposed to start my period any day and knew that ovulation strips often pick up the hCG and give a strong test line, which was exactly what happened with mine.
For the middle kiddo we knew that we wanted an early summer baby to fit into my work schedule, so I bought a ton of wondfo ovulation and pregnancy strips because I knew I would be obsessively peeing on sticks and I didn't want to spend a fortune. We got lucky and caught the second cycle after I had my IUD removed, and our little Junebug just turned 2 this summer!