For anyone that has just had a MC

amyeva1989

It gets easier.
I promise.
In July I lost my baby and felt as though the world had just crumbled. My heart was broken and my mind was in bits.

I'm now 5 weeks pregnant and feeling positive and calm.

I know how awful it is right now, but I really do promise ... It will all be ok xxx

Alicialooo

Thank you

tennisbabymama

Needed this. Thank you.

Sophia1913

I can definetly attest to this. My first pregnancy was a blighted ovum, ended in a d and c and I got pregnant with my son that very next month. He's now 2. I got pregnant again and had a d and c 3 weeks ago. Looking forward to trying for baby number 2. Hang in there ladies!

jackieoickle

I'm JUST going through a MC now. I'm heart broken but I knew it was coming. I went for my dating ultrasound thinking I was close to 10 weeks, only to find out i was measuring 5 week. My doctor was thinking my dates were off so we waited a few weeks to go for another ultrasound. Fast forward to this past Friday, I began to have cramping and spotting while at work that morning. I went to the hospital, was examined, sent to another hospital to have an ultrasound; no change from my last ultrasound. My doctor said I could let it pass on its own or I could take mistroprostol to pass it quicker. I'm wishing I didn't take the medication because yesterday was like a day from hell. I'm still not 100 % but I'm getting there. I'm scared to try again, I really don't want to go from with this again if it were to happen. I have a beautiful, healthy, perfect 18 month old boy, I'd love to give him a sibling but I'm terrified now to try again. I know it's going to take some time to heal physically and mentally. I'm not sure when or if I'll ever be ready. It was a very tramatic experience for me. And I'm so sorry with anyone else who is going for a loss. It's something you don't every think will happen to you.

Joannak91

Thank you.

angelbab807

I just had a d & c on Friday for a blighted ovum. We should have been almost 9 weeks pregnant. It's hard to understand why these happen, but it's easier knowing you're not the only one going through it. This was our first pregnancy and we weren't really trying just yet. Our plan was to start in October or November and I know everything happens for a reason. My dr told me no sex for 6 weeks, yet at my pre op he said 2 weeks. Not sure if he changed it since I told him I wasn't going back on the pill? How long has everyone else waited before ttc again?

KellieClairedueApril

Thanks. I know it will. I just had my curette yesterday after my baby passing away at 10 weeks. It looked perfectly fine, but its little heart had stopped beating. Tough tough time right now

Sophia1913

angelbab807 said:

I just had a d & c on Friday for a blighted ovum. We should have been almost 9 weeks pregnant. It's hard to understand why these happen, but it's easier knowing you're not the only one going through it. This was our first pregnancy and we weren't really trying just yet. Our plan was to start in October or November and I know everything happens for a reason. My dr told me no sex for 6 weeks, yet at my pre op he said 2 weeks. Not sure if he changed it since I told him I wasn't going back on the pill? How long has everyone else waited before ttc again?

I waited until one cycle passed when I got pregnant with my son. Im doing the same thing this time. It's been 4 weeks since my d and c. Im hoping AF shows any day now.

queen_frostine

I would double-check with the doctor because individual circumstances may vary. My doctor said one cycle, which I'm super-impatient for.

However, I'm guessing you probably don't have to wait that long (which for me will probably be at least six weeks) for sex altogether. I didn't get a clear answer on sex-without-trying myself. Though I think using birth control would be depressing, remind us we failed and ruin the mood.

jessiemalcore

I just found out yesterday I miscarried for the 3rd time (no live children), twice in less than a year. This last cycle we had to do IUI and it worked, we were ecstatic! Due date was my husband's birthday which I saw as a great sign from God. I would have been 8 weeks today, they said it measured about 6wks+2days and no heartbeat. This feels like a slap in the face, I feel hopeless and am now starting to wonder if I will ever be able to carry a child full term. I am scared to death to pass this one at home, last time I was 9 weeks and had a D&C so I didn't have to worry about it. I am scared of severe cramping and actually passing it and seeing it. Feeling lost

tennisbabymama

jessiemalcore said:

I just found out yesterday I miscarried for the 3rd time (no live children), twice in less than a year. This last cycle we had to do IUI and it worked, we were ecstatic! Due date was my husband's birthday which I saw as a great sign from God. I would have been 8 weeks today, they said it measured about 6wks+2days and no heartbeat. This feels like a slap in the face, I feel hopeless and am now starting to wonder if I will ever be able to carry a child full term. I am scared to death to pass this one at home, last time I was 9 weeks and had a D&C so I didn't have to worry about it. I am scared of severe cramping and actually passing it and seeing it. Feeling lost

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Like you, I was also 8 weeks and measured at 6.5 weeks. I naturally miscarried a week ago. I was so nervous about what would happen. Motrin really helped me with cramps and I didn't actually see it when it happened. I looked but it was too hard to see but I knew when it happened. You will be in my thoughts and prayers, please feel free to message me if you need anything at all.

jessiemalcore

Thank you tennisbabymama. I am also very sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you!!!

MommyTimesThree3

Thank you for your post. We just found out yesterday that our baby no longer had a heart beat. I should have been 15 weeks tomorrow. Baby measured 14 weeks. The news is devastating. I never imagined losing a baby after the 12 week mark. I'm terrified to let nature take its course. I don't think I'm strong enough to handle it

nicoletessa326

Today should have been 8 weeks for me. I started to miscarry a week ago while at work. I'm a nurse at a hospital, so I was able to just go down to the ER. They said I was likely miscarrying, but the OB docs wanted to see me in 2 days to recheck my hcg levels. They had been at the 4-5 week range. Then 2 days later, I got the news that my hcg levels had dropped significantly. I was devastated. The next day, I had a scan and it showed that my body had taken care of the miscarriage itself. I was grateful that I didn't see anything and that I didn't need a d&c. But a week later, I'm still a mess. This was my first pregnancy and I was so excited. I feel like my heart breaks a little more each day that passes.

SonyaL9

I am just so sorry for your loss and reading everyone's stories, I miscarried in July and honestly it felt like my world was ending, I didn't even want to get out of bed in a morning, we'd had weeks of excitement and then it was all gone.
All I can say ladies is take a bit of time for yourself and it will get better. We're now trying again and feeling really positive for future! Love to you all x

snkelso

I believe I miscarried last month at 4w5d & the same thing appears to be happening again today (again at 4w5d). I've been bleeding all day & tested negative this morning. Unlike last month, no tissue so far. Will be calling doctor on Monday.

lblair80

Thank you so much for this. I had a D&C this morning and am feeling devastated. This was my first pregnancy and it's just very hard to deal right now.

PR7777

It's been 3 weeks since we found out our baby was no more and two weeks since my m/c. I still cry my eyes out from the emptiness I feel. My heart goes out to you. Lots of love!

mjjc7709

@nicoletessa326 I had a miscarriage recently as well, and I am a nurse, too! I have to say that I'm glad I'm in a profession that allows me to put my pain aside to care for others.

However, I do find myself feeling depressed when I get home because I find myself thinking about my losses (I've had 2 miscarriages so far this year). My husband tells me I'm strong but I still hurt so much; we don't have any children yet.

I'm also having difficulty feeling happy for friends who are pregnant and who have given birth recently. I hate that I'm bitter, but I can't help it, especially when loved ones who do know about it, don't bother to ask how I'm doing. I find myself isolated a lot, my own choosing I guess. This is probably why I find comfort when I work.

Do you find yourself feeling like this too?

&grateful

thank you for sharing this.  i needed the reminder of hopeful day, as well.

Vms126

I hope. I wouldn't have my 18 month old son if I didn't have my first miscarriage 3 months before he was conceived. I can't imagine my life with a different child. I'm hopeful that I have another beautiful rainbow baby around the corner for me.

ocean134

I am going through my miscarriage now. I started spotting over a week ago and the spotting turned to full on bleeding and then the cramps started. I had an US on Monday and saw the heartbeat. I measured 5w4d but was 7w. Tuesday morning the cramps started to get stronger and I knew. By bedtime, the pregnancy was lost. Went for a US today and it was confirmed. My DH and I are devastated. It was our first pregnancy. We are waiting for the green light to try again.

Bookhousegirl

Thank you for this. I went for my first ultrasound last week, was supposed to be 7 weeks, baby only measured 5 weeks 5 days. We were hoping it was a late ovulation (although deep down I knew it wasn't) but I just got confirmation that my levels have begun to drop. I will wait to see if I start to miscarry naturally since I will stop the progesterone that they had put me on, but a part of me wants to take the medication to get it over with faster. I am absolutely devastated and so fearful that this could happen again, but I am hopeful that I will get my rainbow baby soon!

nzmama84

I'm sorry to hear all these stories. We went for our 12w US today and the peanut only measured 6w. I had and have no symptoms of miscarriage so am waiting for an appointment at the hospital, likely to have a D&C. I had my pregnancy announcement all ready to go because I firmly believed it was going to be good news this morning.

The only thing I can say is to stay positive. I'm keeping my eyes on the prize so will use that to stop myself slipping into a black hole. Take some time out and trust that things will work out in the end. Sending my love to everyone x

Bizliz35

I'm awaiting a natural miscarriage following a blighted ovum. First pregnancy and I am absolutely devestated. Scared of the unknown, what the pass will be like. Got caught as soon as I came off the pill so never had a proper cycle. Everything happens for a reason and although painful these threads remind me that it will get easier. As soon as pass is over and I've had a cycle I intend to try again (wait and see what happens rather than try) we will get our 2016 baby xxx

ssnova

I just went through our mc at 12 weeks, our baby measured 10 weeks, it was the hardest and most heartbreaking thing we have ever been through. I had her naturally at home it was painful physically but mentally much worse, but I'm glad we did it that way. I had no control over what happened to our baby but at least I could control how she came in this world, that time was important for us to see her and grieve and to try and make as much sense of what was happening as we could. That is not to make a judgement on anyone who has had a D&C or taken medication to progress the labor, I'm just stating the way I had to do it for me and I think every mom out there going though a mc just has to find the way that's going to be easiest on their hearts.

MillerTime0513

Thank you. I just want time to fast forward right now. It hasn't even been a week but I feel like it's been forever.

iamtheoracle

Thank you.

meweiss

Thank you for this. I found out last night that baby's heart stopped beating around 7 weeks 4 days, I should have been 8 weeks 6 days. D&C scheduled for tomorrow morning and it's our second loss in a row.Thanks for the positive thoughts.

lapistos

Just had MC yesterday and I'm so devastated. My life felt empty and lost. Feeling apathy.. That my sons death is my death too. My first child. For 8 years my husband and I trying so hard.
Just blessed to have a wonderful and supportive husband -and our family are so supportive all through this loss.

lapistos

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lapistos

I feel for you.