How do you deal with In-laws who are unhappy about your pregnancy?

McScheve

I'm at a loss with the people I call my "in-laws"... What's the best approach to dealing with their constant negativity?

BabyBliss2012

They're not happy about the baby news? Is his their first grandchild? Maybe it will hit them when the baby arrives.

saladflambe

I need more information...

nsouplynn

You don't deal with their negativity because don't let it. I will be damned if my in-laws took away the joy of my pregnancy. 

BabyBliss2012

Good one @nsouplynn

kbrands7

Focus on the people who are excited about your pregnancy. Hopefully they'll come around, but sometimes all you can do is wait. When DS was born, my father-in-law was much less excited than my husband had hoped even though it was his first grandchild. He's come around little by little emotionally and loves to see pictures now; he's also a few states away which has contributed to the barrier. DS is nearly 1.5 and he still hasn't met him yet. 

kmalls

Wait so did you already tell them and they're unhappy? Or are they just negative people in general and you're worried they'll be unhappy about your pregnancy?

MrsPrice519

I told my dad last week we were expecting baby #2 and he literally said NOTHING.  Did not speak until he was asked a question about something else.  Then he asked me to not tell my grandparents for a while.  It really upset me but I am just focusing on the positives.  My husband and I are happy and my mom and her parents are happy and that is all that matters to me. 

doozer1345

Honestly I'm all about writing them off. I only surround myself with people who are happy to celebrate with me. The only thing that matters is you and Dad are happy about it. It's like marriage. It's only you and DH so everyone else doesn't matter.

LovingLife!

Ughhhh in laws can be the worst!! You just need to ignore them until they can act like mature adults and share in your excitement. Focus on being happy with your spouse and staying healthy for baby!! 

lest12

I feel your pain. 

Our relationship with my MIL is very strained right now.  She had a really hard time with us becoming our own "family" after DS was born and created a lot of drama and pain around what should have been (and in the end, was) a very special time in our lives and relationship. 

It's been over a month since my husband has spoken to her and I'm not sure when/how he is going to tell her we are expecting. 

Personally I won't be around her, or have her around DS, until some apologies are made and changes in behavior are noticed.  DH is standing by me, though I've left that up to him.  I just can't deal with the negativity and constant fighting that she brought into our home in the first year of my son's life. 

It does make me a little anxious.  I hate setting this type of example for my son but also, it was REALLY bad so I'm not sure what else to do.

Anyway.  I don't know your situation or how bad it is... but you have to be able to detach yourself from negativity.  Nothing good comes from engaging in it.