You won't find very much sympathy here, use the search function to look for "gender disappointment," and look over past conversations on this board. I'm sorry you're having those feelings, but to me it is a little bittersweet to find out the sex when you've been imagining both possibilities - now you have to let to go of the dream that won't happen and get ready for what will be.
I think it's very normal and you should allow yourself time to let go of the dream you had so you can replace it with your new dream. I promise you will get over it.
Believe it or not, I was looking forward to both a boy and a girl so much that once I found out I was having a girl I was surprised that, while I was ecstatic it was a girl, I was still sad it wasn't a boy. I had great ideas for both genders and I had to let go of one of them.
You just need some time to readjust. I think how you are feeling is normal. I agree with the previous poster - I wanted it to be both a boy and a girl--- I was so so excited when I bit in and saw pink and at the same time was like oh it's sad that that I'm not having a boy in addition --- so weird because it was only one baby so I'm not sure what I was expecting. Anyway fast forward 1 month and I can't imagine having anything other than a girl and it's amazing and even better is that so far she is healthy and that is the best part of it. You just need to get used to things. For me, finding out the gender made having a baby feel so much more real so I think the realness of the situation might also be part of what you are feeling weird about.
You feel the way you feel.. it's not a huge deal nor do you need to feel guilty. But I 100% agree with PPs.. you just need a little time to adjust your mindset and you'll find yourself super excited for your little girl! After a while that's just what she is and you can't picture anything else. Congrats on a healthy baby girl!
I agree with @ChrissyD1203, it could just be feelings of everything becoming real. I went through something similar when I found out our twins are both girls. We don't plan on having any more children after this so I'll never have the experience of having a son. But on the other hand I am so over the moon excited to have two girls - I never had a sister so I think my feelings come from the unknown as well. All I know is the bother/sister dynamic. And husband's an only child! Could this be sort of what you're feeling? Not disappointment, more like a fear of the unknown?
I'm not saying it's not normal, because there are post like this on every single month, but I have a hard time relating.
I was scared shitless of my AS. I was terrified they would find something wrong. I loved the thought of having a girl or a boy (I already have a son). I was thrilled and cried happy tears when they said everything looks healthy with my second son.
I can see fun things about have a girl or boy. I've already been asked several times if we "will try for a girl! Squee!" And honestly it pisses me off. We may decide to have a third, and if it's another healthy boy I will be equally thrilled.
It's a child who had no choice in its DNA. I will love him just the way he is.
Again, this isn't to shame you. There are always post like this, but try to have some perspective when you are feeling anything but joy about your daughter.
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I was scared shitless of my AS. I was terrified they would find something wrong. I loved the thought of having a girl or a boy (I already have a son). I was thrilled and cried happy tears when they said everything looks healthy with my second son.
I can see fun things about have a girl or boy. I've already been asked several times if we "will try for a girl! Squee!" And honestly it pisses me off. We may decide to have a third, and if it's another healthy boy I will be equally thrilled.
It's a child who had no choice in its DNA. I will love him just the way he is.
Again, this isn't to shame you. There are always post like this, but try to have some perspective when you are feeling anything but joy about your daughter.
Married: 7.23.11
DD:10.17.12
EDD #2!:1.17.16
Married: 7.23.11
DD:10.17.12
EDD #2!:1.17.16
I was so sure it was going to be an orange one.
Married: 7.23.11
DD:10.17.12
EDD #2!:1.17.16
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP