wassuphoes said:Your Mom is right. Or perhaps more accurately, if your Mom is saying showers are one and done, there's a big chance that other people in the community your Mom lives and associates in believes the same. And further, that your peers from a similar community were raised to believe the same thing. If you yourself are unfamiliar with people having multiple showers, then it is not done in your social circle, and being the first to do so could cause some side eye and judgement from your friends, family and peers. This isn't even touching that someone, seemingly from a community that does not do second showers, would have to offer to host one for you. Plenty of people want to celebrate the baby, be it by visiting with you or giving you a gift for the baby. You could host a sip and see once the baby is born and you are comfortable having guests around baby.
Your Mom is right.
Re: Baby shower twice?
I'm all for a shower for one boy & one girl. After that if a friend offers I'd only accept a sprinkle-with 10 or so guests. I'd do a sip & see with no expectation of gifts after that.
OP I think wassuphoes explained it perfectly. Is your husband from a different community or culture? That may explain his different opinion.