Is it baby season in your social circle?

bmo88

Geesh, it's like the baby train has come through and got everyone pregnant. Don't get me wrong, I am happy for them, but I literally have 5 friends who announced they are pregnant in the past 3 weeks...and it's kind of driving me crazy. That's not including the "acquaintances" on Facebook who have announced in the past month. I guess it must be that time of year and time of life (I am 27), but by goodness, it's sooooo difficult to distract myself from the idea of having a baby when everyone is having a baby. I think I am going to take a break from Facebook for a little while. So, how is it in your social circle?

HookEmNelson

Pregnancies pop up all around me, and it does make the wait just that much harder. I know now is not the right time and I also know my time will come around. I'll eventually be one of the pregnancies that will be announced. One day, y'all. We will get there!

Xstatic3333

I'm sort of in between-half of my best friends have their kids already, and the other half aren't married yet. It'll probably just be me and one other going for her second TTC around the same time.

Hang in there! We'll get there soon :-)

bmo88

HookEmNelsonXstatic3333  Thanks for the responses ladies!

I know the time will come and I will likely be the only one pregnant at that time in our social circle (or they will be on baby #2)...but it can just be so hard to be patient. 

It's like when we were waiting to get engaged. DH wanted it to be a surprise and he waited 7 months after we formally discussed it to propose (keep in mind we dated for 9 years before getting engaged). I had been perfectly fine for 8 1/2 years, but it felt like the longest 7 months of my life, so did the 11 months of engagement until the wedding.

Now that we have discussed and agreed to move up our timeline and start TTC next September, it is going to feel like the longest 12 months...ugh...life is awfully cyclical in nature. 

There is  one couple left in our social circle that isn't pregnant...yet. They are a little younger than us and just bought a home. I know she wants to start trying soon, but they may be strapped financially a little after the home purchase. I wish them the best, but it would be a slight bummer if they become pregnant in the next twelve months...leaving us as the only childless couple in our circle. But, our time will come, eventually.

HookEmNelson

Here is a crazy example of being in a social circle with others being pregnant:
So I was really active with my BMB back in 2011, that lead to a FB group. All of the DFW ladies got together a few times and had play dates. The last play date that all 11 mom's and babes attended (our kids were 2), I was the only one not pregnant. One of my friends even announced her pregnancy there. All eyes and questions were on me. That was 2 years ago and we are now just getting the thought of a second baby in our heads, hah!

bmo88

HookEmNelson: Ugh, that would be difficult. It's crazy because I have other friends (who aren't that close) who have had kids over the years and I really just didn't care/pay attention when they announced. Now that babies are on the brain, I feel like I see pregnant women everywhere (I saw 4 today), everyone is announcing on facebook and I actually have a habit at glancing at women's mid-sections to see if they are pregnant (I know it sounds crazy). It like when we were waiting to get engaged and I would glance at women's ring finger unconciously to see if they were married/engaged.

als1982

All of my girlfriends from college are done having kids (intentional pregnancies anyways!)  We haven't had a new baby in our circle in more than a year.  I was the last to get married and will be the last to have kids.  That said, I have a long list of incredible travel and life experiences that their choices didn't afford them, experiences I wouldn't trade for the world.

jenfarm3

i'm seeing pregnancies and births all over my facebook, but i wouldn't necessarily say that they're in my "circle." in my immediate friend circle, i will probably be the first or one of the first (one other friend couple got married a few months before us and may be trying, but idk.) if so, they may beat us. but yeah. 

seeing all these babies and stuff on FB is definitely revving my fever though. sigh.

JenandJosh1310

Most of my friends have already had their childen as they all wanted to be done by 30...i just finally decided i wanted one at 30! Im hoping if/when it happens they will be good resources for advice and help since they each have a few. Its so hard to be patient and i feel like we keep running into so many financial issues/home issues that make me so scared to through a baby into the mix but i want one so bad! Patience is not one of my virtues.

emmaaa

As far as my social circle, I have one friend who is currently expecting. I think DH and I will be next (unless there is another surprise) so I'm not surrounded my many pregnant people. However, everyone I know from HS that I'm friends with on FB are having babies or already had a baby. I'm about to be 25 so I guess it's about that time.

CrunchyMidwife

I have 3 friends with a LO over 1. 5 who have one under 1. And 2 that are pregnant.

gabpepsi

I will probably be the first of my friends to get PG (hopefully) -- and definitely the first to TTC.

Most of my friends are either just getting engaged/married (not that you need to be, but ya know, tradition I guess) or are not interested in having kids. I've been with DH for almost 8 years and married for 3. We've worked really hard to pay off debt and don't necessarily value material things the way a lot of our peers do so we'd rather start a family than buy fancier cars that we don't really need.

I think my friends will be excited for me and I'm hoping the new life phase will probably introduce me to new lifelong friends.

HookEmNelson

@gabpepsi I had to.

gabpepsi

@HookEmNelson

Yayayayay

charmedlifex3

Actually- I'll be the LAST. All of my friends have older children.

Their kiddos are heading off to school now. Most of my friends had little ones about 4-6 years ago.

So while we won't have play group, at least I can pick their brains!

Blonde1817

I have two cousins my age who are currently pregnant, and a couple of distant friends who are pregnant ... mostly due this fall.  Only one of my close girlfriends is pregnant and none have kids yet, but I think it is definitely coming very soon! Nearly all are married and a few have just bought houses in the suburbs, so I think the baby rush is coming!

Shiva14

Last year seemed to be the year for babies in my circle (myself included) with 3 co workers, one close friend and my husband's cousin all having babies. This year it's only a few here and there. One if my good childhood friends confided that she will be TTC next summer, so I'm hoping we might be pregnant together. She lives in Europe though so we won't be able to have play dates more than once a year.