Early intro- chromosome concerns

boxtonmom1014

Hi.

I have 2 boys, both conceived through IVF. We went through 4 years of infertility treatments (plus one year of ttc naturally) including 4 IUIs, 4 IVFs and 1 FET (3 of those 5 with PGD) before my eldest was born. My husband has a chromosomal inversion (on only one half of his 2nd chromosome pair- so not balanced) that they think is why we had so much trouble. In 8 years I never had a spontaneous pregnancy...  until now.

We weren't preventing mostly because we didn't think it could happen though I always wanted a third.

When we saw a geneticist before we had my eldest they basically laid everything out for us, so I feel like I'm pretty informed of how this could go... I could miscarry in 1st tri, I could have a baby with a deletion or insertion, I could have a baby with an inversion similar to my husbands, or I could have a baby with no chromosomal issues. They explained that 1) though there are 4 possibility, meiosis is random so it's not a 25% chance of each and 2) Though they can't know anything for sure, with "natural fertilization" there may be a lower incidence of having an embryo affected by the inversion since the sperm would likely be slower/less efficient swimmers.
So with all of that... I'm having a hard time not being nervous all the time. I'm just trying to take it one day at a time but I dread going to the OB (my appointment is on Wednesday) to be told it's not a viable pregnancy. And even if all looks good, I fear I'm just going to worry until my a/s... and potentially beyond. (I'm anxious under regular circumstances. I had panic attacks through the first trimester of my pregnancy with my son...)

I want to be excited because it is amazing to think I could have another baby... But it's hard to ignore my worries.

I've been trying to find the most helpful place to post and chat. I'm just looking to vent and for support I guess. I'd love to hear from anyone who has had inversions as well, especially on the dad's side.

djdawn29a

I have never had this issue or heard of it for that matter, but I do know how bad the anxiety can be while waiting for answers. Just try to stay calm and remember that u have no control over what happens, so the worry will do u no good. Whatever will be, will be. And take a couple deep breaths.sending out positive vibes.