Going Back to Work Help

sntdailey

This week is going to be my last week with my baby girl until I go back to work. I am having extreme anxiety and get so emotional just thinking about it. I am also a little jelous of my mother in law who has her own daycare in which my daigjter will be attending. I am jealous because she will be the one with her and not me. What can I do to make this transition a little bit easier?

SashaDenn25

I still have 5 weeks and am freaking out. I just assume it will get easier as time goes, but I really believe this is one those things that just takes time unfortunately.

sntdailey

I hope so. I thought I was emotional during pregnancy but I have since changed my mind since I am more emotional now.

mommyTARDIS

I am 32 weeks and already dreading having to go back, especially since I will only be getting 6-8 weeks (probably more on the 6 weeks side) the though of being with this little guy for 6 weeks straight and then being for for 40 hours a week is very frustrating. I am starting to hate this place, even thought thatere is no real reason to.
I have no clue who will take care of the little guy b/c even though my DH is going to school online, he has one class he goes to, and he will also have a part time job that is while I work.
And switching shifts where I work can be a bear if it is outside of the normal time they make a huge office wide shift change, idk yet if it will even be an option for when I get back.

SashaDenn25

sntdailey said:

I hope so. I thought I was emotional during pregnancy but I have since changed my mind since I am more emotional now.

Oh yea, im way more emotional after having LO. I cried to DH about how she wasnt going to get the love and attention I normally give her once she started daycare. Thank goodness I found an in home provider who I love. She only has 2 other kids, a 2 yr old and a 16mo. She is so sweet and my LO will be the only infant, so I feel like she going to get to be held a lot while running after the other two. While im upset about losing time with LO, I am so happy to have someone give her specialized care rather than being at a daycare with 10 other infants. So just remember since its your MIL keeping her she will get lots more love than daycare and if you cant be there to give it to her, we can be happy someone is!!

Bigboobsmcgee

It's hard but you just have to suck it up and go. I personally love the break and like the adult interaction I get at work but that's just me.

If you truly have to work and there's no other option then just make the best of it. Trust me when I say your child will still love you no matter how long they are with a different caretaker. It will get easier as time goes on so try to make the best of it.

Bigboobsmcgee

mommyTARDIS said:

I am 32 weeks and already dreading having to go back, especially since I will only be getting 6-8 weeks (probably more on the 6 weeks side) the though of being with this little guy for 6 weeks straight and then being for for 40 hours a week is very frustrating. I am starting to hate this place, even thought thatere is no real reason to.
I have no clue who will take care of the little guy b/c even though my DH is going to school online, he has one class he goes to, and he will also have a part time job that is while I work.
And switching shifts where I work can be a bear if it is outside of the normal time they make a huge office wide shift change, idk yet if it will even be an option for when I get back.

You haven't even had the baby and you're already dreading going back to work? No no no no. Your cart is way before the horse. Slow down, relax and don't think about that yet. Your life will be so insane once the baby is here, why make it harder than it needs to be NOW?

jerseygirl227

I am blessed to have two more months with Chloe; but, I have already started getting anxious and crying about going back.  That is until yesterday.  That's when I told myself that I can either be anxious and upset during these next two months, or I can really focus on the time I have with my daughter until I go back.  Of course, this is easier said than done, and I'm not so stupid to think that I will be able to accomplish this every day, but it is my goal.

I also tell myself that going back to work will be good for my family.  I will be bringing in needed funds for our family.  I also read that babies respond very well to the sounds of other babies, which helps in their language/communication development.  So, placing her in day care won't be the worst thing.

I can totally understand your jealousy, but think of it this way: you know your MIL loves your child to the moon and back.  I am already worried about what may happen if my daycare providers don't love my daughter like that (though, really, how they couldn't I just don't know, lol). 

Good luck, and hang in there.

sntdailey

Thank you so much and I hope when the time comes for you to go back to work that ist is smooth sailing. Enjoy the time with Chloe while you can it will come way to fast.

Zarea

I am going back in 2 weeks and feeling very anxious about it. I constantly worry that something will happen, or that she will cry too much. I try telling myself to relax, but it's not really working! I think I'm just gonna cry the whole first day away. I also work 12 hr shifts, close to 14hr by the time you add in the driving, so it makes it extra hard. On the up side, I only have to be away 3 days a week.