My name is Susanna and I just gave birth to my beautiful baby girl on August 31st at 9:56 in the morning when I was only 31 weeks. My water broke 2 nights before and they tried to get my contractions to calm down but they didnt.
It's been a Rollercoaster and a blur ever since. We live an hour away from the hospital and I feel worthless and like a horrible mother not always being there all the time. On top of that I have been pumping which I had decided before hand was something I wanted to do exclusively. Breastfeeding wasn't for me, for many reason and my husband and I decided at least I could pump for a few months and see how it went. Well I'm a new mother and never have pumped before. Nobody explained anything to me... well I was at the hospital tonight and I was pumping the nurse decided to tell me I wasn't getting enough for how many days it had been. I explained nobody explained anything to me. She proceeded to roll her eyes and in a very condescending way told me the right way to pump.... she made me feel stupid and like I was incapable of taking care of my child... I now can't stop crying and just feel worse then ever... I don't know what to do.
I'm also sick of everyone assuming I'm breastfeeding and then when finding out I'm not making it out like it's the worst thing in the world and someone should take my baby away.
I'm scared and depressed.. someone tell me I'm doing okay.
Re: Preemie/Depression/Breastfeeding
Quitting pumping was the BEST thing I've ever done! I was so much happier and less stressed. Scientists make formula to be just as good as breastmilk.
I have 2 sisters and I was the only one that was fed breastmilk. One of my sisters is a scientist and MD. The other is a computer programmer. I didn't even finish college. So yea formula makes you develop just fine.
There was another couple in my NICU room. The husband would say hi but the wife was always in a bad mood and storming around and never said anything. I saw her come in one day and hand her milk to the nurse. It was just a couple drops. The nurse said "is there any more?" There wasn't. I knew why that woman was always upset. She felt the same way I did. I wanted to tell her it's ok to quit, but I never said anything.
So I'm telling everyone else. It's ok to quit.
You have a valuable resource. Do your best. Maybe you can pump & ff supplement.
I'm sorry they were so mean to you. Remember it's your life; their job. They have 10 people a day to say it to & can be heartless sounding. They may want a baby too and can't conceive. Maybe they're jealous.