I'm tired of posts that basically say, "my husband isn't allowed to step one foot out the door because I'm 34 weeks and might have a baby RIGHT NOW." Or the "I can't go anywhere because I'm 35 weeks and I'm an invalid."
I suppose it's less of a confession and more of an unpopular opinion, but whatever.
I have been off work for two days.... The only time I put pants on in these 48 hours was to run to Walmart so I could replace my vacuum belt. My uniform of undies and t-shirts (mostly my DH's) will be the norm for the next month and a half. Shamelessly I bought $35 worth of candy yesterday, half of it may be gone already.
I've also been avoiding the bump because it's super boring without all of the fun regulars. I feel like I've lost friends. :-q Another reason being I read the redundant posts and only want to comment negative and sarcastic remarks.
I told my employer yesterday that I wasn't returning to work after the baby! It felt amazing and sad all at the same time. My confession is I wish I could tell the other owner to fuck off every time I see him. I get super angry dealing with him and knowing that he knows I'm leaving makes me want to flip on him every time that much more
I'm terrified of how much I'm going to hate my body post baby. I've kept the weight gain pretty moderate (epsite my earlier post about mutiple deserts). I suffered from an eating disorder for five years when I was younger and my body image has never been great. All i want to do is be happy to meet my son..
You are not alone. Pregnancy wreaks some havoc on our bodies in spite of the fact that what we're doing is pretty miraculous. This is especially hard if you've battled and eating disorder or struggled with your weight and body image in the past.
My advice? (Not that you have to take it). Don't spend much time looking in the mirror those first few weeks, and look at your son instead. You will probably still still struggle with how you feel about your body, but there's nothing like looking at that baby in your arms and thinking "wow. I made this!"
@MamaOwl15 My DS is 3. Only just turned 3 at the end of June but that's why I can't get him in preschool. They expect 3 year olds to be potty trained (and it's not like the teachers don't have enough to deal with so I certainly understand).
I'm terrified of how much I'm going to hate my body post baby. I've kept the weight gain pretty moderate (epsite my earlier post about mutiple deserts). I suffered from an eating disorder for five years when I was younger and my body image has never been great. All i want to do is be happy to meet my son..
@floyd1rl, this is totally relatable. I was so fearful of this when I was pregnant with DD that I lost sight of other more important things in the first week or so home. Now that I've seen how a body shifts and changes in the weeks after birth, I have much more confidence in the fact that my body is made to do this. Birth will not ruin you, and you will get your body "back" and be able to enjoy the life you led prior to baby. The hardest part about it all is giving ourselves time.
@mamaowl15 said it so well when she said, "Don't spend much time looking in the mirror those first few weeks, and look at your son instead." A great reminder for ourselves is that it takes our bodies months to shift into this shape, and considering that amount of time, it is incredible how quickly your body can shift back much closer to your pre-baby shape than you might imagine. After that, you can exercise, eat well, and continue to support your body's healthy shape once you've recovered from delivering your LO. Give your body a little time and love, and focus on that little one who will grow up way too quickly.
@satori15, how old is your DS? I have one who is 2 and I have the same fears. He needs so much from me, and he's been throwing a lot of tantrums lately. Plus with no interest in potty training this means twice as many diapers . . . Already overwhelmed with one, I'm wondering how in the world I'll manage two.
My pediatrician recommended that we let go of all thoughts of potty training until things settle down. She said she sees a ton of potty trained 2 year olds go back into diapers when a new baby comes. That or they start having a ton of accidents. We talk about it with DS but we won't really get into it until around Xmas.
I'm terrified of how much I'm going to hate my body post baby. I've kept the weight gain pretty moderate (epsite my earlier post about mutiple deserts). I suffered from an eating disorder for five years when I was younger and my body image has never been great. All i want to do is be happy to meet my son..
My self confidence suffered more than my lady parts did after giving birth to DS. I gained 60 lbs, so I had a lot of weight to lose, but in hindsight I shouldn't have worried at all. I lost it all in 18 months and got back into great shape. By gaining less, I'm sure your road back to normal won't be as long as mine. You will be yourself again!!
My confession is that I kept DS home from a birthday party (with a total lie as an excuse) at a friend's house last weekend because the bday girl had hand foot and mouth disease two weeks before. I've become more of a germaphobe since having kids, but HFM is not something to play around with!
FFC: My small town doesn't have a McDonalds so when I go to my weekly prenatal appts in the city, I get McDonalds every time. No shame, no regrets. Mmmmmmmm....can't wait for next week...
@satori15, how old is your DS? I have one who is 2 and I have the same fears. He needs so much from me, and he's been throwing a lot of tantrums lately. Plus with no interest in potty training this means twice as many diapers . . . Already overwhelmed with one, I'm wondering how in the world I'll manage two.
My pediatrician recommended that we let go of all thoughts of potty training until things settle down. She said she sees a ton of potty trained 2 year olds go back into diapers when a new baby comes. That or they start having a ton of accidents. We talk about it with DS but we won't really get into it until around Xmas.
I read somewhere not to attempt potty training for 90 days before or after the new sibling's birth. I'm sure the exact time frame doesn't matter as much as just giving the big sister or brother plenty of time to adjust. I'm thinking maybe tackling potty training with DS will be my New Years resolution. That way he will have plenty of time to adjust to DD being around, but it'll be before I'd expect her to start teething (one stressful milestone at a time!).
I'm terrified of how much I'm going to hate my body post baby. I've kept the weight gain pretty moderate (epsite my earlier post about mutiple deserts). I suffered from an eating disorder for five years when I was younger and my body image has never been great. All i want to do is be happy to meet my son..
My self confidence suffered more than my lady parts did after giving birth to DS. I gained 60 lbs, so I had a lot of weight to lose, but in hindsight I shouldn't have worried at all. I lost it all in 18 months and got back into great shape. By gaining less, I'm sure your road back to normal won't be as long as mine. You will be yourself again!!
My confession is that I kept DS home from a birthday party (with a total lie as an excuse) at a friend's house last weekend because the bday girl had hand foot and mouth disease two weeks before. I've become more of a germaphobe since having kids, but HFM is not something to play around with!
I don't blame you. My son caught it last year when he was in preschool from a kid in his class. It's nothing to play with!
I'm terrified of how much I'm going to hate my body post baby. I've kept the weight gain pretty moderate (epsite my earlier post about mutiple deserts). I suffered from an eating disorder for five years when I was younger and my body image has never been great. All i want to do is be happy to meet my son..
My self confidence suffered more than my lady parts did after giving birth to DS. I gained 60 lbs, so I had a lot of weight to lose, but in hindsight I shouldn't have worried at all. I lost it all in 18 months and got back into great shape. By gaining less, I'm sure your road back to normal won't be as long as mine. You will be yourself again!!
My confession is that I kept DS home from a birthday party (with a total lie as an excuse) at a friend's house last weekend because the bday girl had hand foot and mouth disease two weeks before. I've become more of a germaphobe since having kids, but HFM is not something to play around with!
Hand foot and mouth is so miserable for a little one, and as a mom, it is SO hard to watch your child go through! I would be tempted to do the same thing you did. DD had it last winter and it was the one illness that made me cry as a mom as I couldn't help her feel better any faster.
@CCasey2015@LiveNLove44 SO sorry your LOs had to deal with HFM! Two toddlers we know have had it in the past few weeks and in both cases, the parents got it too, and were absolutely miserable. Not something I want to deal with right now at 32 weeks or see DS go through. Here's to good health the rest of our pregnancies!!
Re: Hold your flames...FFFC
I suppose it's less of a confession and more of an unpopular opinion, but whatever.
I've also been avoiding the bump because it's super boring without all of the fun regulars. I feel like I've lost friends. :-q Another reason being I read the redundant posts and only want to comment negative and sarcastic remarks.
You are not alone. Pregnancy wreaks some havoc on our bodies in spite of the fact that what we're doing is pretty miraculous. This is especially hard if you've battled and eating disorder or struggled with your weight and body image in the past.
My advice? (Not that you have to take it). Don't spend much time looking in the mirror those first few weeks, and look at your son instead. You will probably still still struggle with how you feel about your body, but there's nothing like looking at that baby in your arms and thinking "wow. I made this!"
My confession is that I kept DS home from a birthday party (with a total lie as an excuse) at a friend's house last weekend because the bday girl had hand foot and mouth disease two weeks before. I've become more of a germaphobe since having kids, but HFM is not something to play around with!