For my SIL's Baby shower I threw last year, I put "please RSVP by this date" with my phone number. Two people out of the 40 invited RSVP'd, 38 showed up. I followed up with quite a few of them to attempt a head count and never got answers. The date to RSVP by was the week before her shower, I believe that gave people ample time to know their plans. Now for my shower (thrown by my best friend), her number is on the invites with a date to RSVP by. A few people already have, which is awesome, but most of them are calling or texting me to RSVP. I don't mind keeping a list and passing it on, but it would be much easier for my friend to keep one list. I am by no means all about etiquette, but has RSVPing become a lost manner? Is there a way to get people to do so that I don't know about? It's nearly impossible to throw a party with no clue how many people to plan for.
Re: Have people forgotten how to RSVP? (kind of a gripy post)
I'm sorry, OP.
I'm not stuck on etiquette, but I do agree that not RSVPing is rude as hell. Especially when the person (s) show up. What if the host hadn't accounted for you? Even though they should just in case, but still.
Maybe baby shower invites need to come with the RSVP card that wedding invites come with in order for people to take the RSVP seriously?
I always RSVP in a time fashion to events I'm invited to, especially when the person includes a prestamped RSVP card. Its just common courtesy.
My mom and I threw a bridal shower for my cousin, and we spent a lot of money making it really nice. Her guest list had about 30-40 people, and most didn't bother rsvping and had to be tracked down and asked. Some did though, but the day of the shower, only one of her friends showed up. The rest of the guests included me and my mom and a few aunts. About 10 people total. Talk about rude!!!!
Sorry for the long rant, this is apparently a major pet peeve of mine!
I had one person to RSVP to my shower out of 100 invites, but ended up contacting every single person because I found out several people never received theirs. Big issue with the post office. Otherwise, I would've had no clue who was coming or who wasn't.
We also had a couple people that RSVPed but didn't show up. ARGH! i'm hoping not to have to many issue for the baby shower.