Miscarriage at 8 weeks

bnava5662

I missed carried last Thursday 8/272015 (It was a planned pregnancy) and had a d and c. I feel empty like apart of me was taken. I feel numb and so hurt. I have a 4yr old and she was so excited it was hard to explain to her that baby moved to a better place. People say it not really a baby because it was a blighted ovum no fetus but I feel different.it was my baby. I spoke to the baby on my way home, sang songs, prayed, read stories with the baby big sister . I hate this feeling, I wanna cry, crawl in a hole. I need help any advise. Prayer or something

valleric

For me, time made me feel better. I'm 4 1/2 months post mc. For awhile I cried every day, then every other, now it's about one a week to a week and a half. Going on this message board helped me, since I don't have anyone else in my life close to me who has been through this. The hardest times were when my husband would cry. We wanted his so badly and tried for almost a year. Let your feelings out and have good cries in the shower!

WaitingMay14

I miscarried on 8/1 it does get easier. The loss is always there. My condolences hang in there.

peregrinefalconx

I've never viewed a blighted ovum as "not a baby". You were still pregnant and suffered the loss--so I think those people are misinformed. It doesn't make you less sad to think that way, so why belittle the loss?

It does get better and easier as time goes on. I also went through the full hormonal changes around 4-6 weeks and it was very difficult, so if you start feeling worse, I think it's normal. But then it gets better. Best of luck to you and take care of yourself.

mshambach

My husband and I miscarried last month with the same type of pregnancy. To the mother and family it doesn't matter what it's labeled as, there were dreams that we create and hopes that we have. It begins to get easier as you believe that this loss has a purpose or a reason that we just don't know yet. Keep your spirit high and love in your heart!

snarky14jd

I miscarried on 7/2 and I'm still finding myself sad and angry. Time does help. Hugs

angelbab807

I feel the same way. I found out earlier this week that I have a blighted ovum as well and was 8 wks. It really is hard to process as to why it happened and how to handle my feelings. This was our first pregnancy and I'm scheduled for a d and c. My prayers are with you.

eyeseerivers

I miscarried at 8 weeks too, back in March. This month is the first month trying again for Baby #2. I'm sorry for your loss. Time does make things a little better, but there's not a moment that passes by that I don't think about my angel.

mrsmommya

I also have a 3 yr old and really am more sad for her and the thought that she has had something taken away from her. I can't imagine my life with one child....hoping with time I will find joy in the ordinary again.

erin4daniel

Oh I understand that pain too well! This was not just tissue, this was your baby! People want to think it's just "a blob" but the bible says God created us in our mothers womb and that's where life begins- not at delivery! Ofcourse you love your baby! I am certain you will see your baby in heaven and I fully believe God had something good in mind when He ushered your baby directly into heaven where there is no sickness or morning or death. Maybe to protect him from the pitfalls of life in an imperfect world. I don't think we will know that answer for certain. When your baby is now, there is only love and joy in heaven and your baby, though not in your arms, will always be a part of you and always in your heart. I encourage you to fully feel every emotion you experience and please reach out to me if you need someone, who knows what this feels like, to talk to. You are not alone and you sound like a true mother; a nurturer and fierce lover of her babies!
PS protect yourself from well meaning but possibly ignorant people who always know how to say the wrong thing. It's not intentional but that was always hard for me.