When do you plan on announcing?? - and intro

maddenmm

Hi Ladies!! I got my first BFP at 10 dpo and have been getting slightly stronger tests ever since. We have been trying for 5 months for baby #2. Our ds just turned 3. H & H 9 months to all of you.

As of right now only DH and my mom know anything. We were planning on announcing to DH's family in one week while on vacation. I think it will be hard to explain why I'm not drinking at the beach but it's also SOOO early.

When are you planning on telling people??

kmalls

We told my parents last night and will tell my brother and SIL tonight. Everyone else will hear it once first tri is over.

Bluejay3030

Congrats and welcome! We plan on telling our best friends this weekend when we see them. I'll be 5.5 weeks, and I also feel like that's so early, but they know me well enough that they would be suspicious as well if I made excuses about not drinking or riding roller coasters (we are going to an amusement park) all weekend long :P

I will probably tell my mom/sister in a few weeks, and not sure about everyone else after that.

MrsPrice519

I have told my immediate family already, but this time around I just want to tell everyone I'm pregnant!  With my DS I told immediate family, but I never had the itch to share early.  Going to try to keep my mouth shut as long as I can!

H&H 9 months to you too!

lest12

We plan on inviting my family over around the end of September and telling them then.  I will be almost 9 weeks.  I want to put a cute "Big Brother" shirt on DS and announce that way.

It will be really hard though.  I am very close to my parents, sister and brother so I don't know how I'm going to hold out that long.  I told them pretty much right away with DS1, but this time I'd like to enjoy the secret a little longer.  I think my mother is already onto me.

We will probably start telling friends and some of my IL's after that and I likely won't really 'announce' on facebook until much later, like when we find out the sex or something.

 

 

bellamamma23

Hi ladies!

We plan to wait as long as possible.  With my first, we told everyone at Thanksgiving dinner only 4 days after my BFP!  I was only 5 weeks.  It was super stressful and everyone was so "involved". 

This time around we want to keep it between us and really savor it all.  I'm not sure how long I can last, but I'd say at least until my 8 week appointment at the end of September. 

mslovesbo

I told my mom on her birthday. Last time we kept it a secret until 14 weeks --- I am not sure why we waited that long. So I know she felt special being in on the secret this early with the two of us.

We will probably tell our close family and friends around 10 weeks and we will wait for any FB announcement until close to our anatomy scan.

I am not sure when I plan to tell work this time around...I hardly ever see my boss anyway...so I'm not sure. We haven't had a meeting together in 6 months and I really don't want to first work meeting to end with "Oh yeah, thanks for being so understanding with DD#1 all last year, we are thrilled she is now a year old and we have gotten more settled into a work/life routine, OH YEAH, and we are now having baby#2 so hopefully you can be understanding for another year and 9 months."

We will see.

lest12

@mslovesbo - I feel you on the work thing.  My office has been having some staffing issues so everyone is really stressed out and miserable.  So I have no desire to tell anyone anything for a while.

jteix1

Last year we were expecting and we told our immediate family as soon as we had our first appointment. Unfortunately we lost our baby at 10 weeks. This time I think we will wait until I have the cerclage done at 12 weeks. It's so hard to keep this secret.

saladflambe

I've told my husband, mother (who will tell my stepfather), father, and stepmom...and I just got my BFP today. They're under strict orders to tell nobody right now. We'll announce to the rest of the family around Thanksgiving I imagine. DH is telling his parents this weekend These are all people who I would want to know if something happened.

mrsjlopez12

My husband I plan on waiting till Christmas time to tell everyone! Both of my SIL are pregnant and due soon.

lalala2004

I'm going to tell my immediate family after my first appointment at 7 weeks. I'll tell more family slowly after that and then announce on Facebook around 12 weeks.

eaorear

Last time around we told all of our family the DAY of my BFP...it was Christmas day, we couldn't help ourselves! This time I would like to wait awhile. I've told one close friend.  Other than that, I think we'll wait until at least 8 weeks, maybe longer. 

laurenmdrn16

I have only told my husband...and my son's daycare teacher! I started sobbing when she told me how great he was with a new little one and I blurted out "He's going to be a great big brother!" and she just looked at me for a moment then said "I guess we'll be getting a new customer next spring!" and winked. I just hope she doesn't say anything at my son's birthday party next weekend @-)

We are waiting until Halloween to tell my mom and sisters and Thanksgiving to tell my husband's family. I just went on and on about how I am at peace that my son will be an only child, so it will be weird when I say that we are expecting!

daizee32

We've told our parents and handful of close friends.  We won't make a general announcement until the end of the first trimester.  This is our first, we've been trying for 2+ years with 1 year doing fertility treatments.  

KLG8806

We're going to tell our parents after our first appointment at the end of September.    I've already told a few girlfriends -- all of whom either have been or currently are pregnant and i went to for advice-- but we'll be telling our best friends in the beginning of october and then we'll be doing a public announcement on FB around Halloween, I think.  Maybe Thanksgiving.  I don't think I could hold out until Christmas time like I had wanted to!! 

We're going to tell our parents with mugs that say "the best moms get turned into grandmas" and "the best dads get turned into grandpas" .  I'm going to tell my two closest girlfriends when we go pumpkin picking and wine tasting in the beginning of october.  I"m going to write on a wine glass "This is my Aunt's wine... back off!" and stick a copy of the sonogram in there  

I just want to tell the world!  I'm so excited!!

concreteayngel

Hi Everybody! I got my first BFP at 13dpo, after trying for 8 months. The day we found out was also the day we had plans to celebrate MIL's birthday. We told her, because she knew we were struggling to conceive and there really isn't a better gift than news of a grandbaby! She was so excited that she couldn't keep her mouth shut and spilled the beans within about 5 minutes, so now all the IL's are in the loop lol. If I wasn't so excited, I'd be pissed, but what can you do? 

A week after that was MY mom's bday, and I told her then. Also told my bff and his mom, because they are family to me. Everyone else will find out during the 2nd trimester. H&H pregnancies to all of you! 

girlmom2018

We told my parents at 5 weeks and plan on telling my husband's family at around 10 weeks after we hear the HB. We won't be posting anything on Facebook until after the anatomy scan, but will tell out friends after the first trimester is over. 

For some reason I am not as eager to share the news as I was with my first pregnancy.

 

Bluejay3030

concreteayngel said:

Hi Everybody! I got my first BFP at 13dpo, after trying for 8 months. The day we found out was also the day we had plans to celebrate MIL's birthday. We told her, because she knew we were struggling to conceive and there really isn't a better gift than news of a grandbaby! She was so excited that she couldn't keep her mouth shut and spilled the beans within about 5 minutes, so now all the IL's are in the loop lol. If I wasn't so excited, I'd be pissed, but what can you do? 

A week after that was MY mom's bday, and I told her then. Also told my bff and his mom, because they are family to me. Everyone else will find out during the 2nd trimester. H&H pregnancies to all of you! 

@concreteayngel - I laughed when I read this because the same happened to me on my last pregnancy. I told my mom I was pregnant very early on because I wanted to cheer her up on my late dad's birthday. I begged her not to tell anyone, so naturally she immediately shared with everyone she knew :-O . At first I as mortified, but I was too excited to be truly mad.

Edit: b/c TB freaked out over my choice of smiley??

laurenmdrn16

lanafish13 said:

For some reason I am not as eager to share the news as I was with my first pregnancy.

 

This is so me, too. Maybe I am just so nervous about having a second when we really weren't planning on it...

Uhlease13

I'm so tossed up about who/when to tell!! Dh wants to tell the world right now but he knows I want to wait. His parents are visiting from out of town this weekend so we do plan to tell them this weekend! Not sure about my fam. As for everybody else, no clue, hoping to hold out for the fb post until Christmas!

rinaroo11

We are planning to tell all of our parents on my birthday (sept 11th)
And then the rest of our close family on thanksgiving (October 13th in Canada) and announce it on Facebook after that. Ill be 11 weeks by then and we both agreed that would be a good time.

lootsflash

I want to wait until the first ultrasound in a few more weeks to tell. Only me and hubby know right now. I'm really excited to tell my 4 y/o dd. Hope I can keep my mouth shut!
As for my boss, he's also my Dr. Since he has been helping me with our fertility problems, he shouldn't be surprised.

LoverOfCities

Congrats to you!

We told both sets of parents right away. I told my best friend. Everyone else will be waiting a bit. We've had a previous 12 week loss, so I'm a little apprehensive about sharing with the world and will likely wait until more towards the 16 week mark or so. I'm not sure.  Right now we're just enjoying our secret.

becca050110

Congrats!! We may wait until 12 weeks to tell close family. The rest we are doing at 20 weeks so we can announce gender

mystisaki

We told my partners boys a few days ago. His mom was in town over the weekend and figured it out. The rest of my family won't know until after my appointment in a few weeks. I am going to tell a few select people at work at this time too. The rest of the world will find out when they find out.

This is my first and I am excited but after having a bio Chem miscarriage in Feb I am terrified to tell people.

mhc13

I'm comfortable telling my closest friends and immediate family. These would be the same people I'd lean on if we lost the pregnancy. Everyone else after 1st tri is over.

Treblelily

We've told just a few close friends. I'm going to see my parents this weekend to announce it to them. I bought a multi photo frame and in the middle frame put a sign that says "amazing parents get promoted to grandparents". I can't wait to see the expression on their faces when they open it!

We were planning on waiting another month until telling more people, but we might give in and tell sooner. Somehow people are guessing! We just got engaged this past weekend and when I called my sister to announce it she said she thought I was going to say that I'm pregnant.! I had to bite my tongue from saying "well actually... That too!"

BabyVDM

I'm not planning on telling anyone for as long as I can avoid it.  It's complicated....

My family lives far away so they might not know until I send the newborn pictures. I just want to let this baby cook and keep it to myself. 

BabyVDM

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BabyVDM

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BabyVDM said:

I'm not planning on telling anyone for as long as I can avoid it.  It's complicated....

My family lives far away so they might not know until I send the newborn pictures. I just want to let this baby cook and keep it to myself. 

I just don't wan to hear anyone's thoughts on the idea that I'm having a 3rd child when the twins are only 18mths.  It's hard enough for me to wrap my head around the logistics of it all I don't need the extra feedback.

BeansMom2014

I just got my BFP yesterday. I'm about 4 weeks along...I think. This is our second and we waited 10 weeks to tell with our first but my family is in town this weekend for Labor day and I'd love to tell them. I'll probably wait until Halloween to tell friends/coworkers. 

sincerelymom

It's refreshing to hear everyone on here who is spilling the beans early! I just want to tell everyone, even though I know there is risk. I am 5 weeks tomorrow!

So far I told my mom and dad... And my mom told her mom and siblings and a couple friends.

Then we told my in-laws and siblings. And I told two close friends and one work friend.

I am hoping that I am basically done now with the super early tellings. I think I will tell the rest of my family mid-September and then announce it publicly around Halloween. I will also probably tell my boss around Hallpween since he'll be going on a two week vacation in November and I think it might be super obvious by the time he gets back!

I can't believe some of you are waiting until Christmas, there is no WAY I could make it that long!

nhsquared1020

We too are at 5 weeks and have told our close friends and family because like others have said, we would need their support if something happened. I would love to announce around Halloween but my best friend is getting married so I don't want to over shadow her news so may be waiting until Thanksgiving!! Would love to make it to Christmas but being our first, we are just so excited!!! :x

Amberjean503

Got my BFP yesterday! DH and I are so excited, we've been trying for almost 2 years. I'm a mechanic so I had to tell my managers at work cause it effects the type of work I can do. We plan on telling family and friends around 10 weeks (10/10) his grandpas birthday is that week so we will let him know he's a great grandpa for the first time! I'm so excited to plan everything out! We plan on announcing on fb around Halloween, I'll be about 13 weeks then (: H&H 9 months!

dsmith211

My dads birthday is in about a month (October 1) so depending on when my first appointment ends up being we'll probably tell all of our immediate family at his party bc everyone will be there.

For everyone else we plan on waiting as long as possible before we tell but my work has a lot of happy hour/social events so it may not be very long before people figure it out.

gooberdoofus95

We have already told our close family member but will wait until after the 1st trimester to tell everyone else like a FB announcement kinda thing!

MrsMcB08

We told our parents a couple days after taking the test. We will tell closer friends and family in a few weeks. And the rest of the world when I begin to show. 

mariaalene

I'd like to wait till at least 20 weeks. But with the holidays, if I start showing I'll have to say something earlier. I can't just show up to dinner all huge like o yea btw I'm pregnant. At thanksgiving I'll be 15.5 weeks... And it is sweatshirt season... I might make it to Christmas!

dsmith211

To our families - after my first appointment just after 10 weeks.

Everyone else - probably not much longer after that bc DH is getting antsy. I'm kinda wanting to wait to around Thanksgiving which would put me just shy of 16 weeks but it may be closer to 13-14 if DH keeps poking me.

laurenmdrn16

I think I am doing it backwards because I have told the most random people of all, but not people who would make sense like, oh I don't know, my mom!

With my son, my mom knew immediately because I freaked out when I was bleeding around 6 weeks and she drove me to my OB appointment since MH was working. Now, everything is going great (fingers crossed!) so I haven't really had to explain any weird symptoms or freak outs. I did tell my younger sister, but only after she guessed.

But I also told the sub nurse for our school district (random) and my nurse leader just like "Oh, yeah it is a nice day out and I am pregnant!" I am outta control people and need to be stopped! I have intense verbal diarrhea and am just spilling to anyone!