Vent

HeatherC21

Tonight is the first night DD has slept 6 straight hrs since this whole sleep regression/growth spurt started. She was a regular 8 hr sleeper and then started waking every 3 hrs to nurse. I fed her at 10:30 last night and woke up at 4:30 to a soaking wet shirt and rock hard boobs! There was no way I was waking her so I went downstairs to pump. In the middle of this she started waking up so I woke my DH to tell him I needed help. (Not a happy camper) So he comes down and is just sitting on the couch with her staring at me and telling me I need to plan better and why didn't I just feed her instead of pumping. I pumped 17oz and still wasn't drained. I don't think a dream feed would have given me much relief. He doesn't get up with her at night so I don't think asking him to get up this one time was a lot to ask. And I know he will sleep in until around 11 because he usually does on the weekend while I will be up with her in another hour. Sorry for the rant just tired and frustrated.

tdart14

You could always tell him all this.... you know, so that he has the opportunity to understand how you feel.

DMEL

An adult who has an infant that Sleeps until 11 am wouldn't fly in my house

I would talk to your husband about helping out more. It's his kid too.

saric83

Oh, I would be SO pissed.  

But on the plus side, 17 ounces in one pump?!?!  Whoa lucky mama!  I EP, and my late night/early morning pump is the best, and that is only about 9 ounces. 

HeatherC21

saric83 said:

Oh, I would be SO pissed.  

But on the plus side, 17 ounces in one pump?!?!  Whoa lucky mama!  I EP, and my late night/early morning pump is the best, and that is only about 9 ounces. 

I think all the middle of the night feedings have increased my supply, most of the time I'll barely get 6 oz.

MrsWhiteToBe

Jesus Christ 17oz??!? Was some of it blood?

cassietegtmeier

Me and my husband got in a huge fight this morning because he was still in bed at 11 too. I wanted to light the bed on fire, with him in it.

jodi1008

My 3 yo's dad was the same way except it was an every day always type of behavior.... Nothing pissed me off more than seeing him lay around and be unhelpful in any way possible all the time. It sounds like your husbands are helpful more times than not so maybe tell him how you feel so he can step up and do what he's supposed to and he will be understanding about it hopefully They helped make these babies with us... They can do everything too. If my son wakes in the night I feed him in our bed where my husband is and most times he actually gets him from his room and brings him to me. He doesn't mind he usually just cuddles with me and waits for our son to fall back asleep. Hopefully it gets better! Some men need some training especially if it's their first child. Combined this is our 3rd go around. We each have a son and then one son together.

mars8k

You have every right to be pissed, We were on a 4 hour train ride yesterday and i was holding the baby through boarding and for the first hour and a half, then she started fussing so i had him hold her while i warmed her bottle i gave the glass of water with the bottle in it to my niece to hold while i packed her diaper bag, dd was screaming her head off and then he yelled at my niece to give him the bottle that i just took out of the cooler! I tole him to wait cause it's cold and he said "so you want her to die?" Wth?! She fed 2 hours ago i'm not starving her! I snapper back that it's so nice that i'm doing everything and he's the 1 who's angry! I took dd away from him and she calmed down and waited patiently for the bottle to warm up. I'm still hating on him and not talking to him unless i have to, there were people sitting there! Not that it would've been ok that he yells at me if we were alone