Touch my stomach again, and I'm going to punch you in the face.

AAOReilly

I'm 12 weeks today, and a FTM. Even though I keep hovering around a 3 to 5lb weight gain, I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. The last thing I need is some moron petting my fat. It's not the baby, a**hole. AmIRight?!

gmj3

Thank you! I appreciate the excitement from my friends but really...it's my fat, stop touching me!!

thecubiclee

My FIL always pats my stomach and even kissed it one day! I'm 12 weeks. I'm really close with my in laws but that definitely threw me off and made me uncomfortable.

msd24

In all seriousness though, what is a polite way to ask people not to touch your stomach? Some folks in my family are biiiiiig huggers (I'm not) and I just cringe at the thought of them constantly touching my belly. I know it's going to be an issue!

laalexandra

I'm very blunt and say that's not a baby but gas and water weight. It makes them about as uncomfortable as I feel having them run my fats.

Mrsbearmomma

I love the shirts that are on the internet that say "if you didn't put it there, don't touch it"

bntfroggie

I like the violence approach if you touch my stomach I will hurt you ha ha

SarahFoley725

YESSSS I told my friends I was pregnant when I was about 6 weeks along. One of my friends touched my stomach then and is making a habit of it. I can't stand it. I'm not a very touchy person in general, I'm not big on hugs or anything like that so this makes me NUTS. I'm like girl, the baby isn't up there yet and you don't need to be touching me where it is either. I'm now 10w6d and not showing yet. PLEASE STOP TOUCHING ME

mb0112

At 9.5 weeks I haven't had this problem yet, but am dreading it! I don't think I'm bold enough to follow through with this, but my idea is that if anyone gives my belly an unwelcome rub, I should do the same to their fat belly!

RosyK

Eh. I just let it go. It makes people happy and excited. For me that's a good enough reason to be a little uncomfortable.

lindscnn1

I don't get why people want to touch a tummy when they can't feel anything. As annoying as it is when we are further along, at least I understand why they want to feel my tummy. It is always neat to feel someone else's baby squirming around, especially when it is not your stomach being internally beat up. Luckily for me everyone knows I have an extremely sensitive stomach because of a Tuba breast augmentation. If someone touches my stomach the wrong way I literally drop to the floor in pain.

kfarr26

I'm so freaked out about this. I do not like bring touched by people. I'm uncomfortable even with someone other than my husband touching my arm or putting their arm around my sholder. I've always been very modest and liked my personal space.

I plan on trying to take a step back and as nicely as I can tell them that I'm not comfortable with people touching my stomach. If they still try, I guess I'll have to get more forceful and snarky about it.

I remember one time one of my sister-in-laws told me to feel my first neice kicking around, and I was soooo uncomfortable! I kept telling her I felt weird about it and would rather not, but she kept insisting...omg...I don't see how people just do that without an invitation!

arcanejinx

My MIL touched my stomach quickly last time I saw her but so far no one else has tried. I hate being touched (DH often gets punched during the night when he touches me while I'm sleeping). Thankfully most people in my life know that and I'm already uncomfortable with my body as I put on a lot of weight during my mental health recovery (and part of the reason I didn't try to diet or anything until just before I got pregnant is that I am recovered from an eating disorder).

Working with young children I've heard a lot of mothers gripe about the unwelcome touching and I make a point not even to ask-I think I touched my best friends belly once when she was pregnant as it was the first time the baby was kicking when I was around.

littlemanmomma

thankfully with my first everyone was very polite and asked if it was ok which made me ok with it. well some times. I didn't show much early on so you couldn't really tell i was pregnant until the middle of the second tri. this time around different story so I'm worried that people will start asking to touch my fat/bloat that I am not ok with...and someone may get punched... except DH but he knows where the LO is and like another poster said if you didnt put it there don't touch

jnc07x3

Thankfully I haven't dealt with it this time around but when pregnant with my 4.5 year old it happened a couple times to which I either swatted their hand away and told them I didn't invite them to do so or my personal favorite with my dh's extended family was to touch their stomach back and when questioned why would I do such a thing tell them I thought it was what they wanted since they couldn't keep their hands to themselves (probably one of the millions or reasons part of his extended family hates me)

matteosmom2012

thecubiclee said:

My FIL always pats my stomach and even kissed it one day! I'm 12 weeks. I'm really close with my in laws but that definitely threw me off and made me uncomfortable.

my FIL does the same thing!
X_X

adotgorman

People have touched my belly, it's really sticking out and they say aww you're showing. I say nope just fat, thanks. Lol

jstanton0822

A lady at church did this to me yesterday. 

I didn't even notice until she asked me if people had been doing that alot.

I'm like, "Uhh, actually, you're the first! Congratulations, you touched my fat."

popcornplease

Just move their hand to where baby really is right now- veryyyy low, near the pubic bone.

mrsgav1n

Legit!! I keep saying my belly us still my beer belly just gradually changing into a baby bump. I don't like people I don't know placing their hands on me! What is a polite way to tell someone to back off??!

SparkE82

I am hoping that my natural "resting bitch" face will deter people from trying to touch me.....I have no problems telling people to back off either.

If I know you, and I like you, rub away........otherwise back off!

kfarr26

SparkE82 said:

I am hoping that my natural "resting bitch" face will deter people from trying to touch me.....I have no problems telling people to back off either.

If I know you, and I like you, rub away........otherwise back off!

I also suffer from resting bitch face. I have a pretty nasty evil eye, as well, so it'll go from bad to worse really quick for whoever has the guts to feel me up.

Sometimes I wish I could control my facial expressions better because everyone instantly knows how I feel about something...but I've come to appreciate that people having a healthy level of fear about pissing me off is actually a plus because often I'm too nice to stick up for myself because I don't want to start trouble.

ivyvines6

Ugh I'm just now 9w and my mom is practically violently attacking my stomach. I told her the more she touches me now, the less she gets to actually touch the baby, when it is here.

elledriver88

Touch THEIR stomach if they insist on playing that game. It makes it pleasantly awkward and gets the point across without having to be harsh.

alanna3622

Thank them for caressing your soon-to-be farts.

bagel37

I have mastered the death stare very well. It works.

Plus, I'm 13 weeks, not really showing and I haven't told many people. That seems to help as well

bagel37

Don't touch me!

kynbar5

I just break into some "HammerTime" and make everyone uncomfortable! Haha!