Newbie here! This intro is also on the TTC board.

Javagirl74

Hello. I just wanted to see if there is anyone out there who is in the same boat. This is hard for me. Life didn't play out quite as I'd planned.

I am 40 (almost 41) and have never met a man that I could settle down and have kids with. Believe me, I have tried! The thing is, I have always wanted to be a mom. It makes me sad to think that I may not get the opportunity. This yearning is what has been driving me to look for a boyfriend or a husband. I can't sit back and evaluate if I'm in a relationship that is healthy or that will grow because I am so focused on having a family. This, I feel, is just really unhealthy.

So what have I decided to do? Go it alone. Try. I feel like if I at least try (whether it happens or not), I will not have failed. I just got my Mirena removed and I am getting ready to attempt IUI. I have an awesome support system with a lot of friends who are proud of me for going after my dreams.... even if I have to do it on my own. I also feel like I may seek a relationship for all the right reasons after I get this all out of my system.

emsmama15

Good for you!!  I didn't meet my hubby until I was 36 but I always said I'd do it myself if I had to.  I don't know if I'd have had the guts, so I'm SO amazed by you and those who do it!!  This board is super supportive.  I wish you all the luck!!

jennOK

I think it's great. My husband and I got married later than most of our friends. I always said I would do it on my own too if I hadn't settled down by a certain age. I think you're very strong. A great support system is key, and it sounds like you have one. I say go for it.

Tomerine

Welcome and congrats on making a decision to do what's right for you. Wishing you all the best!

thistle8677

Best of luck to you on your decision. In my personal opinion, the desire to be a mother is a beautiful gift, and you don't "need" a partner to be a loving giving parent.
If you want to mother a child, I say go for it!

ladeuce13

Welcome! What a wonderful decision you've made for yourself. I hope all goes well for you and look forward to you sharing your journey with us!!

happyktmom

I think you are brave and amazing!  I say go for it.  I always told myself through all the bums I had been with in my life that no matter what, if I got a baby out if it - it was worth it.  I just wanted the baby.  The good guy can come later!  We're here to support you!

dolphin012

Welcome! I have a couple of friends who are pursuing children on their own (different approaches each). I am so proud of them for continuing to pursue their dreams. They will/are make great parents. Wishing you all the best with your first IUI!! I think you will find this to be a very supportive board, 

KLake42

Welcome!  It's definitely brave to go it alone, but you won't be alone-- there's a whole community of single mamas by choice out there, and I bet you'll be able to connect with some cool women locally who are doing the same thing. 

lyssaroony

Welcome to the group! This is a great place to get support, advice or just vent!

BulgariHeart

Welcome and FX for the IUI!!!!