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Lin&say

Hi ladies! Just wanted to stop in and introduce myself. I'm 29 and my husband is 30. We started trying for about 18 solid months after getting married (Nov '10). It really took a toll on our marriage so we took a time out for about a year and a half to get ourselves back on track and to enjoy being married without that stress. Eventually, we went off all forms of protection to see if anything would happen. A couple years later, here we are! Finally got out of my heavy denial that anything was wrong with me and went to the Dr. All of my hormone levels are great. His sperm was fine. I have a normal, almost clockwork, cycle of 26 days so it definitely seems I'm ovulating regularly. I've been horrible about charting lately but my ovulation day was around day 17-18. I told my Dr this because I have been worried about a LP defect...he didn't seem that worried about it (though I still am). 

I went in for my HSG on day 5 of this cycle (everything was normal) and now my body doesn't know what it's doing. Even FF gave up on me and said "I have no clue what's going on" lol. Looks like I probably ovulated day 11 based on temps and OPK. This would be great if it meant I still had a 26 day cycle (and a longer LP) but I know I'll probably end up with AF here in a week. Anyone else have a wonky cycle after an HSG? I was told to give it the old fashioned try this month because of the increased fertility chances but I feel pretty clueless about what comes next...meds? 

Random rant: Went to a friend's get-together a couple weeks ago and heard a girl talk about how TTC was sooo hard and how it's sooo hard on marriage. She had only been trying for TWO WEEKS. It took everything I had not to punch her in the face! On top of that, my best friend is going to start trying soon and she's all "Let's have a baby together! You should try harder!" Oh, thanks for that brilliant advice...I hadn't thought about trying harder. Needless to say, I don't talk to her about my journey anymore. *sigh*

Anyway, hi ladies! Sorry to see you all here but thankful for an understanding place to turn to. 

Windyst

Hi Lindsey! I'm new here too and I did my hsg last Friday. Bled for almost a week. Terrible. Did all my tests and go back to the specialist on the 31st to make a plan of action. I don't know what happens next either and I hope there are other things to try before artificial insemination & invetro. Not that I wouldn't do them but I hope there are other options too. Well good luck and I wish you the best!

I get a lot of this comments too. Very frustrating.

KidShrink

Welcome to the two of you! The plans depend a lot on you and your partner's results, age and preferences. DH and I were 29-30 when we started the whole process, and everything was fine on his side. There were a few possible things wrong on my end, but nothing obvious that would for sure prevent us from conceiving. We therefore started with 'superovulation/ovulation indiction' with Femara and timed intercourse. After 3 failed cycles, we had a surgery to figure things out on my end as there was no good reason for it not to have worked except for thin lining. After a hysteroscopy and laparoscopy, we're doing Femara plus Follistim, and IUI. If nothing has worked by October, we're moving on to IVF. However, some people (because of diagnosis and/or age) will be told to go IVF right away. So things will evolve depending on your results and how your responding, and hopefully it doesn't have to go too far up the fertility treatment ladder for both of you.

CopperLane

Welcome! I've received a lot of awful comments too, most of us with infertity issues have. People who haven't gone through it don't understand it and get really awkward. Ladies get crazy when the topic switches to babies and everyone knows best. My SIL is a prime example, she said everything from I'm too skinny to carry a baby and will most likely miscarry, and I'm not pregnant yet because I'm not sexing on my husband and PCOS is not a problem.

Soooo I get how it feels. You just have to try to mentally separate yourself from those comments and tell yourself there is likely a harmless reason for them. It also doesn't hurt to avoid all conversation with someone who tells you that you are unfit for a pregnancy luckily my SIL lives far away from us and refuses to make the effort to visit. She tried to make plans to visit after my husband ignored her due to her comments (she's an AW and he's the only one who would give in to it). He basically told her she wasn't welcome.

It sounds like your doctor has you on track! Meds are likely next if this cycle doesn't result in pregnancy. Fertility meds are no joke, so that is probably part of the reason your doctor hasn't pushed that yet, which makes me think you have an awesome doctor!