Dealing with the down days

ladeuce13

I'm just full of emotions today. I left my chiro's office at lunch today and burst into tears in my car ... For no good reason! He's a perfectly lovely person and it was a good visit. I've had my headphones in all day at work and just can't deal with people (which is very different from my usual work persona). Maybe I'm just putting too much of myself into this whole TTC thing.

How do you all deal with the down days?

thistle8677

@kaydeeaya I'm sorry you had a rough day. 

Are you feeling better today?

>:D<

MntnGirl

@kaydeeaya there was another post about giving in to the feelings you're having. If you feel like crying - let it out. I also make sure DH knows when I am feeling extra emotional so that he behaves accordingly. And I try to watch a movie or videos on YouTube (happy or sad) that will make me cry. Then there's also ice cream. 

Hope you're having a better day!

ladeuce13

Thanks @thistle8677 and @MntnGirl - much better day today. Not sure what made the difference. If I'd been at home, I'd have all kinds of coping mechanisms, but at work sometimes, it's extra challenging. 

And hey - it's Friday afternoon. Can't beat that.

thistle8677

@Kaydeeaye I hope you have an amazing weekend and that you do something to nurture yourself. TTC is a roller coaster, as you know...you're allowed to have rough days or weeks.

Love your new photo!

emsmama15

Take care of yourself @Kaydeeaye!  TTC is stressful and emotional.  It's okay to cry.  

Tomerine

I hope you have a good weekend, too. And know that we've all been there (some of us very recently!). I'm starting to think the down days are necessary to maintaining the stamina TTC requires. You need a break so you can be ready to keep trying. Hugs.

ladeuce13

Thanks everyone for the hugs and the care

Yesterday was a challenge. I was at a dragon boat festival, which was also a pledge drive for breast cancer screening equipment at our local hospital. There were a number of breast cancer survivor teams and there was a lovely carnation ceremony where all the cancer survivors gathered on the dock and threw their pink carnations into the lake, in memory of those who lost their fight. During the ceremony, the woman on the loudspeaker was talking about the treatments that these women have been through, including some losing their breasts which she said "strikes at the heart of what it means to be a woman." It hit me in that moment, feeling like my (our) TTC struggle hits me at the heart of what it means to be a woman too . . . having so much trouble doing something that comes so naturally to so many. I couldn't help but just bawl, right there on the beach. (Of course, I'm not comparing my struggle to cancer at all . . . just wanted to give background to the comment). It was an emotional ceremony for many, so at least I didn't feel out of place showing my emotion in front of my team of coworkers! 

Today, by contrast, was a lovely, rejuvenating day. Lots of tasks at home, but good to keep me feeling productive with some "me time" in between.

@thistle8677 thanks I thought it was time to change my picture - and that's one of my faves.

thistle8677

@Kaydeeaye sending you a big cyber hug. >:D<

KLake42

Yesterday was rough for me.  I exercised, hard.  (Well, hard for me). 

Loud music (on headphones, with some naughty language that others can't hear) and lots of sweat.  It's like a reset button for me.  Plus, I've dealt with depression in my life, and I can't overstate how useful the it is to release all the endorphins.  It definitely lifted the weight in my chest.

@Kaydeeaye, I'm glad things improved.

ladeuce13

@KLake42 That kind of workout is always a great release for me too. Way to manage your stress and frustration!