Is it too soon to announce my little bean to more than just my family?

maetheforcebewithyou

I am only 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant, I have only told my close friends and family so far but ive been dying to tell more than just them for days now! I guess im just overly excited but do i really have to follow the tradition of waiting 3 months or would it be not so bad if i told people now? What does everyone else think? When did you tell people?

MommyMoe326

It's really up to you. I have told my siblings, parents and in-laws, but no one else. I have also had 1 MC so I am waiting until week 12-14 to reveal to anyone else.  

Carazona5

The reason people don't tell right away is incase something happens but I feel like even if it does, I would tell close friends and family anyway. So I want to tell family and friends but my DH is a little more hesitant so I'm trying my best to keep my mouth shut but I did tell one sister in law since she told me she's pregnant 2 days before I found out and hers is really early too. And my mom.

mumidi

Up to you entirely.  I'm pretty excited to tell people.  We've only told my cousin and her husband so far. We'll tell in-laws soon and then after we tell our daughter we'll tell most everyone else (actually she'll probably tell everyone she's been asking to be a big sister for a few months now).

littleredx2

That decision is definitely up to you. I always wait until after the first ultrasound at 8 weeks to tell but that's just my comfort level. For me, I won't tell anyone but close family/friends until even closer to 2nd trimester just because I wounldn't want to have to "untell" the world so to speak if God forbid something happened. But I would want my close family/friends support if that should happen so feel comfortable telling the sooner.

MrsCayEye

It's totally your decision. A lot of people choose to wait until the risk of mc is lower, but others want to share right away. Whatever you feel comfortable with is fine.

Brandi81012

That decision is up to you and your SO. Some people proclaim to world right after the POAS, others wait a long time. Up to you! We will tell parents and sibs after our 1st appt then the rest of our family and friends around 12 weeks!

sarahufl

You can tell anyone you want! It really is up to you. 

I didn't tell anyone the last time I was pregnant. So when my parents called me to wish me happy birthday, H had to tell them I was in the ER having surgery for an ectopic. That was a great birthday..... his family never knew (mostly bc I didn't want them to know). I feel uncomfortable having to share my grief with people- especially H's family, so the idea of them knowing doesn't set well with me.

I told a handful of my closest friends and 2 people from work this time (they are really good friends of mine and the 2 people who will have to cover for me if something comes up. They also covered for me the week I was out for my surgery). I think we will tell family around 14 weeks, but we'll see.

I am also very private and not interested in discussing my pregnancy with anyone. Basically ever. So the idea of people knowing so early makes me cringe. More months for the annoying questions.

clgregson

I've been telling people! I'm so excited, and I know that if something tragic happens--heaven forbid!--the people I've told would be there to support me in my grief.

geminioftwo

It's up to you. There aren't rules to this. Everyone can do what they please as they please.  

Jizzill

clgregson said:

I've been telling people! I'm so excited, and I know that if something tragic happens--heaven forbid!--the people I've told would be there to support me in my grief.

I agree with this.  If you are excited to tell people, I would share with people who are close with you.  

We shared with a few very close friends before experiencing a MC.  While it was hard to 'untell' people, I needed their support and I think it would have been worse if nobody knew my pain.  

Of course I hope you nothing but health and happiness!!!

imrachellea

I told my students at 8 weeks when I was pregnant with DD. This time we're not telling family until after our first ultrasound at 12 weeks (for 2 reasons, 1 is just to have a secret between us for a while, 2 is because since my DD my SIL has had 2 later term MCs, so we want to be sensitive to her) and we may not announce publicly (though not keep it a secret either) until we know the sex. It's really up to you.

MT2015MT

I've announced early (8 weeks) and had to untell a few weeks later. And you know what? I wouldn't change a thing. We had the most amazing support system during a very difficult time in our life.

So, having "been there" I say enjoy every minute, tell who you want, and live it up

yodiggity

I've only told my best friend and my sister. My bf has only told his roommate/best friend. I made him tell him since he's going to be moving in with me in the next few months. He wants to wait until the first appt. We will tell my parents the weekend after the first appt and his parents that following weekend.

yodiggity

I think it's ok too. I'm just terrified of a jinx. It's still hard to grasp the reality here. I am still in shock I think.

myndihallberg

We told EVERYONE! We told work, our friends, family, just everyone. Then at 12 weeks we had a miscarriage and had to untell everyone which was super hard and each time is was like we were living through it again. This time we told family only because I need the support if it happens again. Other than that were waiting until the second trimester.

JuddFamily12

clgregson said:

I've been telling people! I'm so excited, and I know that if something tragic happens--heaven forbid!--the people I've told would be there to support me in my grief.

My thoughts exactly! I've been telling everyone I work with and after my first ultrasound I will make a big announcement. It's super exciting being pregnant and to not tell anyone is super hard!

klingonboxer

We're not telling anyone until at least 9 weeks, when my first appt is- then we'll tell our parents. Everyone else will find out when they notice that i've got a giant bump, although we might actually tell our six housemates earlier, around 12-15 weeks maybe (we live in a coop). But then, I'm a super private person, so to each their own!

pinottoparenthood

It's up to you... just think about whether or not you would want to have to tell all of these people if, heaven forbid, you were to lose the pregnancy... and remember, once you tell a certain number of people, everyone will know. We told our parents already, but will hold off to tell anyone else for awhile. I am a private person and while I may confide in a few close friends if anything happens, I don't want the whole world knowing my business. I know it's exciting, but just be sure to think it through.