Big family on the brain.

steph1923

What would you do if your whole life you wanted a large family and your husband was well aware of this even before you married and now you have 2 children and wanted a third and all of a sudden he didn't. Not way , foot down , not budging. Do you just say fine you win? Something that you know you'll always want in your heart and he says no. This is a real struggle. I don't want it to ruin my marriage but I'll always regret it. Just wondering if anyone else went through thus.

HookEmNelson

I have not gone through this, but it definitely sounds like y'all now have different wants. I would highly suggest communicating as much as possible and/or going to find someone to talk to.
Did your husband say why he doesn't want another one?

Designermomma

I'm going through something similar now. DH wanted 3, I just 2 but now after having 2, I want 1 more and he doesn't. I keep hoping he'll change his mind again. He is concerned financially and energy wise so I'm trying to prove how I can handle it all in hopes of persuading him. Talk to him about his reasoning so maybe you can understand where he is coming from at least. I hope someone else can talk to getting through this. I'm right there with you and it's hard.

steph1923

My husbands response to not having another is he doesn't want to go through the baby stage again. He thinks it insane enough and he's not interested in adding more. I understand where he's coming from ( we have a 1 year old and 3 year old so it's crazy ) but I just think another babies is just another blessing and more love. I'm not worried about finances and we're still young enough to have another. I just don't know. I look at the future and I just tell him these crazy baby stages aren't forever and I know that but I think he's not looking ahead.

MrsRo731

Do you still have time to have another? Also, how old are your 2 children? If you're still in the baby/toddler stage that may just be a little overwhelming for him. Maybe you can agree to revisit having a 3rd in a couple years. That's what my parents did; they had my brother and my sister within 2 years and then took a long break and had me 12 years later. I'm not saying you have to wait that long, but maybe at least see if he would be open to it in the future vs now. 

patriciahomol

I haven't experienced this personally but if it were me I would sit down with dh and discuss why you want more and find out why he doesn't. He might have real concerns, maybe he just doesn't want another right now. Or maybe something else is the concern. It would be best to find that out now.