My 2 year old is getting lots of behavior reports at daycare. He recently moved up to the 2-year-old class. He is the youngest. Most of the others are almost a year older than him. A couple are almost a year and a half older because they are still potty training and haven't moved them up.
There is one girl that is a couple of months older than him. Because they are developmentally at the same stage, they tend to gravitate towards each other to play. The "bigger kids" can talk and tend to play together. The problem is that my son and this other child are in a power struggle and don't play well together. They have very similar strong personalities. Neither one will back down. Since they don't communicate well verbally yet, they act out physically toward one another, biting (the other child mostly does this) hitting and kicking (more my child) They are equally to blame.
I'm concerned with this behavior. I have spoken with the teacher and daycare director. They both asked me for suggestions on what to do. They told me they like to redirect, but with this starting to happen on an almost daily basis, I'm concerned they aren't intervening and redirecting at the first signs of behavior. It seems to me they are letting it escalate too far before stepping in.
I suggested time out. She told me they don't like that. I also asked about possibly separating them in different classes. The director told me there is a child with an even stronger personality in the other class, and she thinks it will be even worse. All I can think is keep them away from one another.
I'm a teacher for goodness sake, but I'm at a loss here . My child is very active. I have a feeling he may be overstimulated. Do you think a sensory bin could work? When they can tell he is getting out of control/wild, they set him down with the bin I've made and let him calm down with it? I could change out bins every month to keep it interesting. I'm grasping at straws here. Ideas? Suggestions?