On Hold

Sporty1216

Just left a dr appointment for DH at which the dr. Recommended skipping this month (we already skipped last month) in terms of trying to conceive due to some meds DH has been taking. I left the office in tears and am beyond frustrated. Obviously, I don't want to try to conceive if these meds really do pose a potential threat to a baby, but it's just so frustrating. And I don't know that she had evidence to suggest it would be harmful, but said "if I were you..." So now the thought is there and I would always wonder if that was the cause if something did go wrong. Anyway. Just needed to vent. DH doesn't get it. Thanks, gals.

thistle8677

I'm so sorry.
Can you get a second opinion from your dr about this as well?
Not trying to give you false hope, I'm just really skeptical of any dr giving advice on ttc, especially if that dr isn't an expert on the topic.

Just an idea.
If there's one thing I can't stand, is a know-it-all, and if there's a chance this person is one of them, it would be good to know all your facts.
(Do I sound like a know-it-all?)
:-/

lyssaroony

@Sporty1216, I am so sorry!! I understand your frustration and apprehension though. I am praying for you!

Carazona5

How frustrating a month can seem like such a long time with this!

Sporty1216

Thanks, gals. I did leave a message with the urologist, so we'll see what he says. But, in the meantime, trying to make peace with waiting.... Appreciate the support and prayers.

bookworm40

Being on the bench is so hard. We were out for a couple months due to DH and some issues and every day seemed like the longest day. Hang in there and get some quality time together and concentrate on your marriage. That's what we did and it helped a lot. Hoping you get some clarity soon.

jlo1019

Sorry you have to wait; 2 months is forever in this game. Much hugs and prayers to you

SaltyStar09

Sorry to hear this.  It's so frustrating, all the waiting.  

Sporty1216

Thanks, all. And thanks for your experience with this too, @Cupcakegal930 Since my parents are visiting this week and next, we should definitely take a couple of nights for ourselves. I am tempted to feel angry at DH, even though it's not his fault. Gotta keep that in check. Trying to think of this as a month to really focus on and invest in our marriage is a good idea! Thank you.

bookworm40

@Sporty1216 this may sound corny but get your DH the book "what to expect when she's not expecting" by Marc Sedaka. It's short and the writer is a comedian so it reads very funny. It really opened my DH's eyes to what women go through. And my DH is NOT a reader but he read it for me and I appreciated it. It really helped open the lines of communication.

Sporty1216

Thanks for the suggestion! I will definitely look it up! My DH isn't a reader either, but short and by a comedian are good selling points.