So not sure how to handle this situation but I"m reaching my breaking point and need some advice. I"m going to try to keep this short but want to give you as much background info. I have a friend who only lives about a mile from me. In May 2014, she was passing by my house, walking actually with her family (husband and one kid), and saw me outside of my house in tears. I was on the phone with the nurse because I was going through a miscarriage. She stopped over and asked what's wrong. I was so distressed that I told her. In Feb 2014, she miscarried as well and told me about it when it happened. So since then, she has been on this journey with me while TTC since the miscarriage. She has been TTC also and had three IUIs and got pregnant. She is now about 12 weeks. Just so you know she is the most caring, genuine, kindest person you will ever meet and has a huge heart. I know that she is also bored as hell since she is a stay at home with one kid and a full time nanny. So since I started seeing a fertility specialist in July, she has been all over me. I mean I get a text almost daily "How did the blood test go?" Ummmm, I don't know, it was just a blood test. "How do you feel?" "when's your next appointment?" etc. Honestly, I am worried and obsessing now over this TWW that the last thing I need is someone texting me constantly asking about my every move. I mean she will ask me on a monday, for example, when my next blood test/US is and I tell her friday at 9am. No joke, Friday at 9:05am I get a text "How did it go?" Most of the time, I don't even have a chance to talk to my husband first about test results or whatever because she's all over it. She has also offered to take me for my HSG. So, she is a great friend, but it's just getting to be too much. Of course, I can say "Do you mind just not bringing it up all the time? I promise I will tell you things when I'm ready." But I feel like that could cause some tension. I mean should I ignore the texts? What do I do? Throughout the text conversations, I have even changed the subject but that tactic has not worked. sigh.
Re: Advice needed
You don't want what your feeling to grow so you start distancing yourself from a friend who can actually understand what you are going through. I think she will completely understand and appreciate you telling her. I'm sure the last thing she wants to do is contribute any stress over a process she personally knows is stressful.
I actually have the complete opposite problem. I have a friend I tried to open to about it. I was telling her about my first RE appointment and she shut me down and told me she was grossed out. I literally only told her I was excited everything went well on that appointment and I was excited I had 2 mature follicles. I completely can't understand how that is gross. Anyway, I've kinda shut her out completely, which is the last thing I want to do, but I can't stop thinking about it without feeling angry and hurt. I know I need to talk to her about it but I don't see it really changing anything. I'll still feel like I can't even talk to my "best friend" about one of the most important and stressful parts of my life! Grr..oh well! That's why we have these boards, right?
@riveridgional maybe you should talk to your friend and ask her if there is a specific reason she doesn't want to talk about it? Tell her how you feel. Not everyone will understand thank God for these boards but it's really nice when family and friends understand. Hopefully both of your friends will be more in tune with what you need from them
@MKLEWIS2010 I'll take your advice when I talk to her. That's a good question to ask.
TTC- since we got married (off and on)
TTC with focus: Since July 2015
December 2015: Starting 1st IVF cycle
January 2016: Retrieval
March 2016: Pending Transfer (I have 3 PGS tested embryos waiting for a womb)
April 2016: BFP, the old fashioned way.
TTC- since we got married (off and on)
TTC with focus: Since July 2015
December 2015: Starting 1st IVF cycle
January 2016: Retrieval
March 2016: Pending Transfer (I have 3 PGS tested embryos waiting for a womb)
April 2016: BFP, the old fashioned way.
My realtor is the only person I know and she did everything. Clomid, IUI, IVF - nothing worked. She ended up adopting 2 kids.
So you could say I really enjoy this forum
TTC- since we got married (off and on)
TTC with focus: Since July 2015
December 2015: Starting 1st IVF cycle
January 2016: Retrieval
March 2016: Pending Transfer (I have 3 PGS tested embryos waiting for a womb)
April 2016: BFP, the old fashioned way.
I've been talking with my husband about this group and how great it is, and he seemed a little envious. He's been lucky though to have one male colleague go through the same thing, so at least he's got him to talk to.
TTC- since we got married (off and on)
TTC with focus: Since July 2015
December 2015: Starting 1st IVF cycle
January 2016: Retrieval
March 2016: Pending Transfer (I have 3 PGS tested embryos waiting for a womb)
April 2016: BFP, the old fashioned way.
Forgot to tag you @AMT&THC