The "just you wait" comments are the absolute worst!
My other vent was from back in the first trimester. People would always ask how I was feeling. Sometimes I just said okay and sometimes I was honest (throwing up 4-5 times per day). But some of them just seemed to be asking as an excuse to whine about their own morning sickness. "Oh you think that's bad, mine was SOO much worse." "Oh wow well I was way more sick than you." Well sorry if I don't feel really awful about the morning sickness you experienced THIRTY YEARS AGO (literally) that you wanted to share so bad it's the only reason you even asked how I was feeling.
1. You don't know yours was worse.
2. Why don't we just put them on the table and measure! (is this a size of our man part contest?)
3. Maybe you had bad morning sickness THEN, but I feel like absolute crap RIGHT NOW!!!
I don't think I can take one more.."wow you're so tiny for how far along you are!"
I know I'm not popping out but I don't feel like I need to prove my pregnancy to you!
Deep down though it makes me sad because I love being pregnant, and when people say that it makes me feel like my pregnancy is not legit since I don't look like they expect me to.
For the 'Just you wait' people I keep saying that each baby is different. It's true though. My BFF said, oh you have a girl? You'll see, when she gets older, she will only bond with her dad. Girls don't love their moms the same way. Pffft. I was a total mommy girl.
But if I get one more... "are you having twins?" I will blow my fuze!
People keep asking me that, and my bump is small, so why even go there? The issue here is that I HAD twins, and now I DON'T. Losing twin A was one of the worst moments of my life, and getting used to the fact I'm carrying one instead of two was really hard for me. So, I always smile and say, no, just the one, but inside I am crying. I know they have no way of knowing, but for goodness sake, can they just ask if I know what I'm having?
My youngest is a mama's girl and so was my big sister. I keep hearing the boy will love me more and it gets me so upset. Even when one kid bonds or relates to one parent more it isn't about more/less love. I was a dad's girl and we still have more in common but if anyone ever accused me of loving my mom less I'd slap then.
I am sick to death of everyone's comments and opinions about "just you wait." You are right it's like shut up, it's sucks now and maybe it will suck after baby but please stop giving me unwanted opinions. I also get the whole "how you feeling" well I am working at a job I hate, I am in my 3rd trimester, it's 110 degrees everyday( I live in AZ) and I don't want to be pregnant anymore. So don't ask. I am not trying to be mean or bitchy to people but just leave me alone or help me, but stop getting in my way. Unless your useful to me I don't want to be bothered. Is that so much to ask? In know it sounds harsh but man it feels good to get it off my chest. I don't know anyone else close to me that is pregnant so it's nice to comment on here.
I hate it when people ask how I'm feeling! I've just started saying that I'm fine. I'm tired of saying "no, I hurt everywhere all the time and I am nauseous and hormonal and don't want to talk about it." XP
The "just you wait" comments are the absolute worst!
My other vent was from back in the first trimester. People would always ask how I was feeling. Sometimes I just said okay and sometimes I was honest (throwing up 4-5 times per day). But some of them just seemed to be asking as an excuse to whine about their own morning sickness. "Oh you think that's bad, mine was SOO much worse." "Oh wow well I was way more sick than you." Well sorry if I don't feel really awful about the morning sickness you experienced THIRTY YEARS AGO (literally) that you wanted to share so bad it's the only reason you even asked how I was feeling.
1. You don't know yours was worse.
2. Why don't we just put them on the table and measure! (is this a size of our man part contest?)
3. Maybe you had bad morning sickness THEN, but I feel like absolute crap RIGHT NOW!!!
Thank you that felt good.
My grandma was so bad about this! I have hyperemesis and spent an entire week puking every hour before they finally found something to stop it. She would say crap like "oh when I was pregnant I just thought my morning sickness was the worst, too. Then I heard how other people were." Then she would brag about how she was barely sick. I was like bitch, I've lost 20 pounds this week. I know I have it worse. I still kind of like to throw it back in her face that I'm still puking regularly because I'm still pissed at her for basically telling me to suck it up and that everyone deals with this. Haha right....
I had someone today give me the "just you wait" line. She has no kids. I was just thinking how could you possibly know?! I really do hate how people try to make it seem like the worst thing in the world. I honestly cannot wait to be holding my baby boy even if it means I never get any sleep. Love feeling him squirm around, but I'm so ready for him to be in my arms.
Ugh! I feel this way about all the comments about my plan for my daughter'so birth! So much judgement about how I'm seeing midwives, even though I'm delivering in the hospital! Or if people find out I plan to go medication-free, it's, "Why would you if you can get the drugs?" or, "You'll never make it," or, "It's not like you have anything to prove!" Or when we left our doctor because he wanted me to not even try a VBAC, people asked me why we didn't just go with what he said, or told me a VBAC was too dangerous (so not true!), or why wouldn't I just take the "easy" way out and just agree to another c-section for no reason? I keep telling myself that the people who say things like that just don't understand, have no idea what the actual medical research says, etc. but that's not really helping so much anymore!
Exactly!!! Is is so hard for people to bring a little positivity into this amazing event!? Why not just support your decisions!?
Because everyone is smarter than a pregnant lady duh!
I haven't had too many "just wait" comments..but the guys my husband works with are always saying dumb stuff like "oh I love my kids but ...." Some terrible thing their kid has done blah blah blah. So annoying! Like if you have nothing good to say about my daughter STFU
I'm already not sleeping so when they tell me "Just you wait, you're never going to sleep again!" I just tell them to look at the bags under my eyes.
I get an unusual just you wait and it makes me crazy. I have a very large Kate Spade tote that my mom got discounted and gave me for Christmas. I carry it everywhere and I love it. But I constantly hear, "You love that purse, but just you wait till that baby gets here and those fancy things that you love so much will be a thing of the past. It will be too hard carrying that purse and a diaper bag so enjoy it while it lasts!" I know that once the baby gets here I will be using the diaper bag as my purse for the most part, I've accepted that. But let me enjoy carrying the purse I wanted for years while I still can please! Is that too much to ask?
Because for the rest of your life, you're going to have to carry a diaper bag everywhere you go . . . Because your kid will be an infant forever!
No, really, after the first year and a half or so, you'll need the diaper bag and a smaller purse or just your wallet. Then you can downsize to a toddler-sized backpack with a couple diapers in it and you can carry your tote again!
People act like the newborn and toddler stages last forever, but really, you'll get to wear heels, dry-clean-only fabrics and expensive jewelry again. Just less often in the beginning. Sand with having expensive/not baby-proof decorations in your home. Kids eventually get to an age where they can comply with "don't touch" or "no shoes on the couch."
I hate it when people ask how I'm feeling! I've just started saying that I'm fine. I'm tired of saying "no, I hurt everywhere all the time and I am nauseous and hormonal and don't want to talk about it." XP
I hate the condescending head tilt "How are you feeling..." comments. Always from people I don't associate with on a regular basis. They don't really want to hear about it anyway.
And I have actually heard it's easier to sleep after baby is here because you actually can fall asleep when you need to. Being forced to be awake and not being able to fall asleep are totally different things.
We have decided to go the one and done route. I am trying to take it all in with the pregnancy since this will be the only time. If I ever mention that to anyone the first thing out of their mouth is "Just you wait, you can't have just one. You'll change your mind." Nope, pretty sure it's possible to have an only child and that it doesn't mean that I will raise some selfish, lonely, socially inept demon spawn. It just means I have to be intentional about making sure he has other kids around to share with and play with and I am pretty sure everyone does this anyway.
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@BlueTopazBride, we are in the same boat. I get a lot of raised eyebrows when I tell people we just plan on one. Pretty sure people we know well were surprised enough that we decided to have one at all, so I haven't gotten a lot of pushback from people we're close to. It's the randoms who are super annoying about it. My daughter will be just fine, thank you. Plus she has her furry siblings to keep her company
I hate when I hear "Oh, you're only 28 weeks? You're just getting started." EXCUSE ME????? I've been homing and growing a baby inside me from smaller than a pin prick to now around 3 lbs for TWENTY EIGHT weeks and you're going to tell me it's just starting?? B*tch, I'm close to the end thank you very much. I usually will say, "Actually, only a few weeks and I'll be holding her in my arms."
Don't even get me started on "just you wait" comments... Do people not realize the amount of hormones in our bodies right now? I would be scared in fear of getting hit to say some of the comments I've heard.
Re: If I get one more...(rant!!)
I know I'm not popping out but I don't feel like I need to prove my pregnancy to you!
Deep down though it makes me sad because I love being pregnant, and when people say that it makes me feel like my pregnancy is not legit since I don't look like they expect me to.
I had someone today give me the "just you wait" line. She has no kids. I was just thinking how could you possibly know?! I really do hate how people try to make it seem like the worst thing in the world. I honestly cannot wait to be holding my baby boy even if it means I never get any sleep. Love feeling him squirm around, but I'm so ready for him to be in my arms.
Because everyone is smarter than a pregnant lady duh!
No, really, after the first year and a half or so, you'll need the diaper bag and a smaller purse or just your wallet. Then you can downsize to a toddler-sized backpack with a couple diapers in it and you can carry your tote again!
People act like the newborn and toddler stages last forever, but really, you'll get to wear heels, dry-clean-only fabrics and expensive jewelry again. Just less often in the beginning. Sand with having expensive/not baby-proof decorations in your home. Kids eventually get to an age where they can comply with "don't touch" or "no shoes on the couch."
And I have actually heard it's easier to sleep after baby is here because you actually can fall asleep when you need to. Being forced to be awake and not being able to fall asleep are totally different things.
Don't even get me started on "just you wait" comments... Do people not realize the amount of hormones in our bodies right now? I would be scared in fear of getting hit to say some of the comments I've heard.