Sooo Annoyed! VENT!

krn0405

14 days ago, my Dr. told me, "You'll have this baby in 7-10 days.  Things are ready, no way you'll make it to your due date." My due date is 8/5/2015.  Well, I am still pregnant! Let me say very clearly that I I'm not mad at him because it was a logical guess based off of his medical knowledge.  Things were ready I was having contractions, was dilated, cervix is soft, no mucus plug - doc could feel the head. I just wish he didnt put a number of days on it because since then I have been so excited every day thinking it's "today"... I've pretty much given up hope and am now just waiting and in in for the time that I am - it is what it is!  

I am however furious, frustrated and SO annoyed with my MIL. She calls, texts and group messages myself and if i dont answer (which I dont because I am WORKING) she calls, texts and group messages my husband.  I dont know why she needs to ask every single day (like clock work) what the baby update is. No update is NO UPDATE.  It's like shes fearful I am going to be in the hospital dilated at 10cm and pushing this baby out before we call her. She's seriously the 1st phone call DH is going to make once I'm admitted into the L&D unit! I just cant take it anymore. Needing to provide an update everyday is making me upset because it's just confirming that my hopes were up because my DR though babby would be here already..  Everybody is asking and it's wonderful that they care so much and we're blessed that this baby is coming into a world where so many love us - but I have to update DH, my work, my mom, my MIL, my grandma, and friends every day!

Nobody is more excited than I am to get this baby here but all of the questions and daily updates are driving me MAD!

benmel31

Can your husband just tell her, no update is no news?  That would really frustrate me, especially since you are still trying to work because you haven't hit your due date.  

But, just remember, it is coming from a good place, it just sounds like enough is enough.  

laylababe3

I'd be going crazy, too! I agree on the "no update means no baby" idea..
I'm working til the end too.. makes everything just a little more intolerable, doesn't it?

Lizover23

jessandandy09

have DH tell her that she is the first call and you will promise to call her right away and until then, you need some space because end of pregnancy hormones are kicking your butt.  (see that way you pump her up and blame the pregnancy rather than letting her know she is annoying.)

With my first LO, I went into the DR. for my exam at my due date, they checked me and I was dilated to a 4, the stripped my membranes and said I would deliver within the next 24 hours so call my family!  All of my family traveled down to St. Louis (My family had a 4 hour trip, my husbands family came from Minnesota) and we waited for 11 more days!  ELEVEN!!!! So I feel your pain and disappointment!  Good luck :-)

AshK1027

The waiting is enough to drive some mamas bonkers, but to have to deliver updates daily? Bonkers x10. Send out a text every morning saying baby isn't here & go on with your day. Maybe they'll leave you alone the rest of the day.

Or have DH let MIL know she'll be in the loop but to give y'all some breathing room.

jlsweets

Sorry your doctors told you that. I hate when I hear that, they should just remain neutral.

My MIL does the same thing and with my first it drove me insane but now with my second I just know how excited she is and I honestly don't think she has a clue how annoying it is ha. I now just fu*k with her and every time she asks if it's baby time or how am I feeling I just send back random pictures haha! She doesn't reply when I do that and it ends the conversation. If she asks how I'm feeling ill send a pic of a whale if she asks if baby is coming I send a pic of a random baby saying ah he/she is here! Gotta have fun with them to keep your sanity

CaliforniaDream87

I don't know why any doctor would tell their patient that. That's horrible. As far as your MIL, your H needs to step in and tell her to relax. You guys will let her know when it's time.

She just seems super excited!

deviduke412

This ^^ I can't believe a doctor would put a time limit on delivery like that. Why they would think they possess that power, I'm unsure? Good news is that you still have time. I'm due Aug 4th and understand the anticipation and excitement. As far as MIL, what others suggested sounds good. Let her know she's first on the call list and not hearing from you means no news to share. I would personally go nuts Bc DH and I have decided not to inform anyone until after our son is born. Good luck!

3JTMom

That would be frustrating. Have you told her that she is the FIRST call? Does she trust that your DH will definitely call her? Maybe some reassurances would help her not to ask so frequently.