Intro / 10 days post D&C and ready to move on

LC917

Hi ladies,

I’m new to the bump and I posted last night for the first time on a different board but then I realized I should have introduced myself here first. A little background: my DH and I have been married for almost 5 years but we haven’t started TTC until this year. I got pregnant a couple of months ago but at the first ultrasound I was diagnosed with a MMC at 6 1/2 weeks (should have been 8+). At first I waited to pass naturally, but after over a week of waiting with no symptoms of MC, I started getting anxious and decided to have a D&C. This was 10 days ago and I have my follow-up appointment later this week. It’s felt like such a long wait because I’ve felt physically & emotionally fine since 2 days after the D&C. I feel a little guilty for wanting to move on so soon after a MC, telling myself I should still be grieving… but I feel ready to start TTC again (after AF comes, which could still take a while).

Anyway, thank you for reading and good luck to everyone!

ceclarlinetlo

Hi - I'm sorry you've been through a loss- I don't think you should feel guilty. I firmly believe there is no shame in any of the feelings that come with pregnancy loss. There is no "correct" or "proper" response.

Best of luck to you!

LC917

Thank you!

queenklau

I am sorry for your loss. I agree with PP! Everyone deals differently. It helped me to talk on the bump, especially on the miscarriage and loss forums. I  also did not enjoy being in "limbo" between the D&C and my first AF. We are currently on our first cycle of TTC.

LC917

Thanks @klauerinaking and sorry for your loss as well. I’m not enjoying the “limbo” either… not knowing if it will take 2 months for AF to show up, and having protected sex is no fun. 8-|  Wishing you the best of luck!

MrsGargoyle

I am sorry for your loss, but glad you found this community. One thing to remind yourself is that grief is not linear. Some days we feel fine, others grief hits like a freight train. But, over time, we tend to have more good days than bad. Don't get down on yourself about wanting to move forward, it does not mean that you are disrespecting your lost LO. As long as you aren't pushing yourself too hard because of a driving need to be pregnant again as soon as possible (tied to the denial stage of grief), the simple desire to try again isn't harmful or something to feel guilt over.