Hello!

Sporty1216

Hi there--

I've been debating about joining a new board, but decided the time is right! I am 40 and have one LO who was born in April 2014. DH and I have been trying to conceive a sibling for about 7 months with no luck. I went to my OB a few weeks ago and we will be doing testing for me and for DH in the next week or so. I feel guilty sometimes for wanting a sibling for my LO so badly since I know how very fortunate we are to have him. And I don't think DH understands how deep my longing is. Anyway. Everyone knows we want another--but we aren't really talking to people about where we are with that process. I need to be able to do that--so I hope it's okay to jump in with you all.

dolphin012

Welcome Sporty216! 

thistle8677

Welcome to the boards and best of luck!

emsmama15

Welcome @Sporty1216.  I know exactly how you feel.  Someone very wise told me "Don't ever let anyone belittle your pain or your desire for a second child.  Only you know what your vision and dream for your family is and how many children that includes."  It felt like this statement gave me the permission I needed to really grieve and be sad that this process is taking so damn long!!  And my hubby, while he wants another, doesn't get how deeply I feel we NEED to have another...  So, I get it...

Good luck!!

Sporty1216

Ah, thank you @emsmama15 ! Those words brought tears to my eyes. I needed to hear that tonight. Thank you.

happyktmom

YES!  We all need to be able to talk about our personal journey and sometimes this is the best way to do it! 
I am in the same boat - turning 37 next month and I have a 31/2yo.  It took 2 years to talk my husband into having another and I feel like he's only one foot in now because it's gotten difficult.  Our difficulties aren't really because I'm AMA but because I have PCOS. 
Good luck with your testing! 

Knottie16743552

Welcome and best of luck! I'm sure you'll find everyone here awesome and supportive.

Tomerine

Welcome! I also understand being grateful for having one child, but sad and frustrated at the process it seems to be taking to have a second. And also understand not talking to anyone in your day to day life about it. It's really helpful to have a forum like this. Even when I don't have time to post right away, I enjoy reading and feeling some commaraderie. Good luck!

lyssaroony

Welcome @Sporty1216 and Good luck!!

AMDR1979

Welcome to the board and best of luck!

KirstenAlecia

welcome!

Designermomma

Welcome @Sporty1216! I used to be in the same boat. You are not alone. It took almost 4 years of trying to have our second and I only talked to one friend about it. I am so glad I found the bump now to get all kinds of advice and thoughts about things I don't talk about with many IRL.