I never thought I would even consider the unassisted route. I know there is a whole host of things that can go wrong without supervision, but with the birth of my first, I was so emotionally spent from my in-laws showing up. Throughout my pregnancy, I told my husband I wanted to birth privately, with only medical professionals present, until I am in my recovery room. Instead, as soon as I found out that I would need an induction, I had a series of 11 people from my husband's family show up, along with a few others giving unhelpful advice via text. Some of these people that showed up at the hospital included family members I have never met, since my SIL stepsons were visiting from out of state. I also had my other in-laws show up and give me all sorts of stupid advice about my induction, preventing me from resting. They also arranged for members of the LDS priesthood to give me a priesthood blessing. I am not LDS, so it just wore me out to have more people there, instead of having a spiritual significance (and raised my blood pressure!!).
So, I am not interested in unassisted childbirth to avoid medical intervention. I am ok with that, should there be a real medical need. I just would like to give birth without my husband knowing I am in labor. I have tried talking to him. I have sent my in-laws FB messages, asking for privacy. So far, my in-laws have not responded to my FB messages, and my husband has not talked to them either, despite my many pleas. He says I've made my point, and that I need to quit bringing it up, but he hasn't done anything to ensure that I don't get 11 visitors in the hospital, when I want to rest.
So, how do I go about giving birth unassisted? I like the prenatal care I am getting, so I don't want to quit that. Should I just "oops"? Is there a group on here for that?