Help me relax!

Crystal520

Hey everyone!

So we just found out we are expecting baby #1 finally after almost 6 years of TTCing. Exactly four years ago, we went through this and it ended in a miscarriage August 1st 2011. Weird I know. I still can't wrap my mind around it and just how crazy the timing is. We almost got to the point of giving up and accepting it was never going to happen and now......... Anyway, every little cramp, pinch, twinge sends me to the bathroom freaking out. I have taken at least six tests and I stare and analyze them like crazy. I keep Googling things (I know...Google is not my friend right now). Our first prenatal appointment is August 6th and I'm thinking about calling my dr to see if I can at least have labs done earlier. What do you ladies think?

Please help calm me down. I'm trying to relax but I'm terrified of another loss. 

mommytobe2122

You know while your body is changing you can feel it sometimes with the abdominal pain so don't worry for example at week 1-2 your uterus is just size of your fist but at week 6 it doubles its size so it's totally normal to feel it even have some spotting and if you can make an early appointment make it just to relief yourself. Stay positive how many weeks you are along right now?

Kpetri55

Drink a lot of water! Those little cramps will go away! Be positive, that alone goes very far.

Parker16772

Try not to worry...which I know is easier said than done because I do too! I have had some light cramping this week and did very early with my first pregnancy too. My doctor (going off last pregnancy) said not too worry unless they are strong period like cramps. 

Kristin83

Oh Crystal that is such a long time to wait!  I am so happy for you!

I also lost my last pregnancy and I understand the anxiety.  Unfortunately there's not much to do but wait.  And the phrase "try to relax" does nothing. 

I would definitely call your doc and ask, if it makes you feel better.  Do whatever makes you feel better.

One time on the bump, a poster said something like "don't worry about a miscarriage if it hasn't happened yet.  You're pregnant TODAY.  Just enjoy today."   I really try to follow that. 

skruhmin

This chart has helped me whenever I have a doubt.  Getting over that fear is very hard especially after loss and fertility issues.  Take one day at a time and thank God every day you go to bed and you are still pregnant because YOU ARE!!

Crystal520

Hey everyone,

I appreciate all the replies but unfortunately I am most likely going through a miscarriage.

I started cramping and pink spotting yesterday morning and it turned into full on bleeding a couple hours later. We went to the hospital and my BETA was 19 and my cervix was closed but blood and mucus material is passing through. The cramping increased throughout the rest of the day as well as the bleeding along with passing clots. 

Today I am still having some bleeding and cramping. I'm sad, mad and all kinds of emotions. I'm trying to stay positive and think "maybe all this getting healthy and losing weight is the key but we just aren't there yet". I was talking to my husband today and we are planning on doing another fertility workup in a month or so. 

Thank you for all your replies again. I look forward to when I can come back to TheBump in the hopefully near future

OneRainDrop

@Crystal520, sending prayers your way! I wish there was more I could do, but know you've got lots of ladies sending well wishes and prayers in your family's direction!

Crystal520

@OneRainDrop Thank you