Fearing I am to become a single parent

bwilliams542

It is looking more and more each day like I will be a single parent myself . Last week I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me , we're both under the age of 25 so I guess it shouldn't be a surprise. But then again last night I found there to be yet another young lady he's been showing interest in. Upon discovering I was pregnant I became very ill , and was in the hospital for 4 months leaving me unable to complete high school . My family shunned me and forced me to the abortion clinic where I refused termination. I don't know what I was expecting to come out of being pregnant at 18. But I'm a firm believer in accepting responsibilities for me actions. I've given up everything for him and this relationship now I don't know what to do .. Any advice ? Can anyone relate ? I am 23 weeks now and things seem absolutely hopeless. Im spending my days crying and down. I don't want to harm my baby with my unhappiness ..

20thirteen

Oh, mama.  It's ok.  I'm sorry about what's happening, but it'll be alright.  There are many resources for single mothers, you should look into them.  You can start with insurance.  I don't know if you have a job, but I don't remember having a job with benefits until I was at least 23 or 24.  If you don't, look into www.allkidscovered.com.  This, I believe, covers you during your pregnancy and will cover the baby when (s)he comes.  I have it for my DD and its been a lifesaver.  For childcare, you could sign up for subsidized daycare through DHS.  You could also look for housing through DHS if you are in need of a place to go.  Sign up for WIC (food stamps).  Of course, DHS and WIC will only take you if you are eligible, allkids I believe will take you and/or baby just by signing up.

If you plan on going back to school, there are resources for that too, however, I'm not sure how to go about a GED as I did not go through that.  But, after the GED, there are scholarships for single parents to go to college.

There are also organizations to help pregnant women with so many different things.  You should try googling "pregnancy helpline".

Sending love your way

marloabarrett

I realized I was going to be s single parent when I was 12 weeks pregnant. I know how exhausting just thinking about that can be. There ARE many resources out there so tap in to them. You sound like a tough young lady ... And I would bet that you're tougher than any of these obstacles being thrown your way. The most important thing in your world right now is that little baby. Keep your chin up.

kyraaD

here's my opinion:
you dont want to harm your baby with your unhappiness. but staying in a relationship because you're scared to do it alone is going to make you very unhappy. you cant give your child your full attention if you're worrying about your cheating boyfriend. & honestly, once a cheater, always a cheater. he will not change.
you need to do what is best for your child, but tou also need to take care of you so you can fully give your love & attention to your kid. like other girls have said, there are plenty of resources out there to help young mothers who are in situations like yours.

take some time to get your ducks in a row, take your child, & leave. keep the father in his/her life, but get out of that relationship! you cant build a family with someone who is undevoted to you. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. be strong! you can do it.