Hasn't it been established that every time someone brings up the board on posts like these it all goes to shit? Like I'd much rather hear from the people who hate melons. Personally, I love melons. And you Amazon Prime shoppers? I'm well jealous of your internet connection. I couldn't shop online if I wanted to. Complaining about the board here is boring. Do it elsewhere. Like not on the board.
@rain0831boww she was shaming many women who weren't going to BF. Sounds like she's full of ugly opinions.
Point of Correction: the post was asking "Is it bad to not even try to breastfeed just because I don't want to even though I know all the benefits and that it is best for my baby?" [paraphrased]
And my opinion stands that yes, that is bad.
There are plenty of reasons that people can't or don't breastfeed. Knowing what is best for your baby and not even trying to do that just because you don't want to is making a bad parenting choice.
And if you want to play the "That's offensive" card, there are plenty of women who desperately wanted/want to breastfeed and can't, so choosing not to even try is offensive to them.
Now this is some bullshit I can't get behind.
I hate breastfeeding. Tried it, hated it. I was resentful of my baby and not enjoying motherhood. My boobs work just fine. So I formula feed. AND I LOVE IT.
@monaclemere The point is that you TRIED IT. The OP in that thread was a FTM who had never tried it. She had no experience of it, love or hate. She had no resentment or negative effect on her motherhood experience because she had Never Tried It.
And @magburt , read more carefully. I wasn't the one who brought up the BF thread and I certainly didn't relate it to sex/gender disappointment. YOU commented (incorrectly) on it, so I defended my stance on that particular post.
I think some people need to get off their mom-shaming high horses and stop determining what THEY think are 'legitimate' reasons for making a particular parenting choice. Just because someone makes their decision based on something that YOU don't find to be 'legitimate' doesn't mean it's not legitimate to that person.
If I didn't have a husband that was super pro-BFing, I probably wouldn't do it either. I'm a FTM. I've obviously never done it and have no idea whether it would work for me or not. I recognize the benefits. I recognize the difference between BFing and FFing, and personally, I would much prefer to go straight to FFing. Yes, I have my reasons. I may end up on medication for anxiety after birth. I have to go fairly quickly back to a job where I teach 8-hour workshops all day with no breaks whatsoever to pump ... it would be far easier on me not to have to worry about going on a med or not to have to worry about how I would deal with full breasts during the day.
Are those legitimate reasons?
That's a hypothetical question because IT'S NOT YOUR PLACE TO DECIDE! It's mine. Or any other mother out there's decision to decide FOR THEMSELVES.
So think whatever the hell you want, but don't shame another mom for making a different decision because their reasons aren't 'legitimate'. You aren't the legitimate reason police.
ETA: I have strong opinions on many mom issues. The only one that I will even remotely begin to speak passionately about in a way that may sound like I'm belittling or judging is vaccination simply because that is a topic I don't think affects only mom/child. It affects masses ... and those topics I do believe people have a right to get heated about because they actually affect them. Whether or not another mom decides to BF? Not even close something you have the right to have an opinion on.
My UO: I love babies in onesies and sleepers for as long as that works. I know a lot of moms do tiny infant jeans and shoes and whatnot but I think it's so cute and babyish to keep them in the baby clothes in the beginning.
@rain0831boww she was shaming many women who weren't going to BF. Sounds like she's full of ugly opinions.
Point of Correction: the post was asking "Is it bad to not even try to breastfeed just because I don't want to even though I know all the benefits and that it is best for my baby?" [paraphrased]
And my opinion stands that yes, that is bad.
There are plenty of reasons that people can't or don't breastfeed. Knowing what is best for your baby and not even trying to do that just because you don't want to is making a bad parenting choice.
And if you want to play the "That's offensive" card, there are plenty of women who desperately wanted/want to breastfeed and can't, so choosing not to even try is offensive to them.
Now this is some bullshit I can't get behind.
I hate breastfeeding. Tried it, hated it. I was resentful of my baby and not enjoying motherhood. My boobs work just fine. So I formula feed. AND I LOVE IT.
@monaclemere The point is that you TRIED IT. The OP in that thread was a FTM who had never tried it. She had no experience of it, love or hate. She had no resentment or negative effect on her motherhood experience because she had Never Tried It.
And @magburt , read more carefully. I wasn't the one who brought up the BF thread and I certainly didn't relate it to sex/gender disappointment. YOU commented (incorrectly) on it, so I defended my stance on that particular post.
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My UO is overplucked eyebrows or just effed up brows in general. Sometimes I just want to say, "STEP AWAY FROM THE TWEEZERS" to some girls. I know it can be hard to get through that awkward stage of growing them out, but it is so worth it! Great brows are face game changers!
My UO is overplucked eyebrows or just effed up brows in general. Sometimes I just want to say, "STEP AWAY FROM THE TWEEZERS" to some girls. I know it can be hard to get through that awkward stage of growing them out, but it is so worth it! Great brows are face game changers!
Wait, salt on watermelon? Are you joshing me? (does anyone remember THAT term?) ... like, are you going to crack up if I go home and try this and it's actually super terrible? Because I'm tempted to try it.
Re: UO Thursday 7/23
Like I'd much rather hear from the people who hate melons. Personally, I love melons. And you Amazon Prime shoppers? I'm well jealous of your internet connection. I couldn't shop online if I wanted to.
Complaining about the board here is boring. Do it elsewhere. Like not on the board.
@monaclemere The point is that you TRIED IT. The OP in that thread was a FTM who had never tried it. She had no experience of it, love or hate. She had no resentment or negative effect on her motherhood experience because she had Never Tried It.
And @magburt , read more carefully. I wasn't the one who brought up the BF thread and I certainly didn't relate it to sex/gender disappointment. YOU commented (incorrectly) on it, so I defended my stance on that particular post.
ETA: I have strong opinions on many mom issues. The only one that I will even remotely begin to speak passionately about in a way that may sound like I'm belittling or judging is vaccination simply because that is a topic I don't think affects only mom/child. It affects masses ... and those topics I do believe people have a right to get heated about because they actually affect them. Whether or not another mom decides to BF? Not even close something you have the right to have an opinion on.
She was scared about BFing and wasn't sure it was for her.
Jamie
I could nap every day.
@monaclemere The point is that you TRIED IT. The OP in that thread was a FTM who had never tried it. She had no experience of it, love or hate. She had no resentment or negative effect on her motherhood experience because she had Never Tried It.
And @magburt , read more carefully. I wasn't the one who brought up the BF thread and I certainly didn't relate it to sex/gender disappointment. YOU commented (incorrectly) on it, so I defended my stance on that particular post.
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Don't mess with @magburt
Yeah, nothing.
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