What's your opinion on this new fad

MrsBwIVF

https://www.today.com/parents/push-presents-today-survey-finds-more-moms-are-opposed-t31951

ammnam14

I told my husband long before getting pregnant I wanted to stack my wedding rings, so a ring for each child. I suppose that's my "push present"? Lol. I do think some people can get a little crazy with their demands though.

MrsBwIVF

I dunno, I guess I see my babies as being my "push present". I can't see myself caring about a new necklace or new tv or whatever when I have a couple bundle of joys to hold.

missphil

MrsBwIVF said:

I dunno, I guess I see my babies as being my "push present". I can't see myself caring about a new necklace or new tv or whatever when I have a couple bundle of joys to hold.

This

tesary

I am not into the "push present" trend. The greatest gift to me was watching DH with DD after she was born. Nothing could be more rewarding to me then to see my tough football player husband loving that sweet baby.

ammnam14

That's also true too. But it's also nice to have a little something to represent your kids. My mother had a mothers ring with all of our birthstones and it was beautiful.

jjmace

Never heard of this before...  I want a boob lift for my push present.  It can be on layaway until the time is right! 

Just joking... a little  

mbhurst1

I got one with my first. It was perfect and we picked it out together. It's a diamond necklace with three squares, one for each of us in the family. I haven't taken it off since I got it.

tewinkle27

I've never heard of this, I wouldn't mind a present xD the ring idea for the kids is a great idea!

redfallon

This was around when I was having DD, too (2013). Personally, I think it's a little silly, but to each his own, I suppose.

We had a girl on our BMB who kept bragging about her "baby daddy" getting her a Range Rover as her push present. I think my push present would probably be some Whataburger that DH picked up for me to eat in the hospital.

taysun

I think it seems silly. I would certainly never ask for anything either. If he wanted to get me something, that's nice, but I'd much rather spend the money on stuff we need.

MrsBwIVF

redfallon said:

This was around when I was having DD, too (2013). Personally, I think it's a little silly, but to each his own, I suppose.

We had a girl on our BMB who kept bragging about her "baby daddy" getting her a Range Rover as her push present. I think my push present would probably be some Whataburger that DH picked up for me to eat in the hospital.

WHOA! Can a push present be food??? Cuz if so, I want raw cookie dough, sushi (lots of it) and a beer....

adecembermom2015

Will push for wine and. cheesecake

taysun

Wait, if alcohol counts then I am getting one! BF is buying me a expensive bottle of whiskey!

navyblueladybug

How about lots of take out so I don't have to cook/clean for the first few weeks?! I'd be all for that! I'd never turn down a present

caitlyn5454

I can't see the point of anything expensive, considering you're bringing a baby into the world. But I have to agree with @MrsBwIVF if I get anything as a "push" present, I want food. Specifically a Double Big Mac combo upsized and an Alexander Keith on the side.

amw2133

MrsBwIVF said:

redfallon said:

This was around when I was having DD, too (2013). Personally, I think it's a little silly, but to each his own, I suppose.

We had a girl on our BMB who kept bragging about her "baby daddy" getting her a Range Rover as her push present. I think my push present would probably be some Whataburger that DH picked up for me to eat in the hospital.

WHOA! Can a push present be food??? Cuz if so, I want raw cookie dough, sushi (lots of it) and a beer....

Haha I told hubby almost the exact same thing. I was sushi, a poke bowl, and champagne! Great minds!

MrsBwIVF

What's a poke bowl?
I literally find out about a new to me food every day in this site!

kristen2b

The only push present I would want would be gift cards to all my favorite food places that deliver, and gift certificates to cleaning services. As a matter Of fact I may jump on the push present trend just to get some of those!!!

misamima

I want a tall glass of margarita with shrimp ceviche waiting for me as soon as I push this baby out.

UptownPearl

I haven't heard of this and would never expect some extravagant gift from my husband, but I would be very grateful if he gave me a spa day once I'm ready to get out of the house!

crisobrewha

AudriannaMaria said:

That's also true too. But it's also nice to have a little something to represent your kids. My mother had a mothers ring with all of our birthstones and it was beautiful.

Mine, too!  That's exactly what I want when we are done having children.  I told DH he's only allowed to get me flowers after baby is born.  Anything more than that and I would feel like a brood mare.

stephaniearthurs

My hubby and I didn't do gifts for each other at our wedding and we probably won't do this either! Like PP said, if he buys something that's great, if not oh well (and he needs a lot of hand holding for gifts, so it probably won't happen). This is our first child, so we will be spending a lot of extra money, I don't think this is something I need!

I do like he food and beer idea though!!

leek71983

I wouldn't turn down a gift, but I certainly don't expect him to get me one. I like the spa/food/drink ideas. IPAs...mmmmmhh...I've missed you so.

spottedginger

Quite frankly, I would never say no to jewelry if it was gifted, but I'm not going to suggest, demand, or expect an extravagant gift. Honestly, this is one of the areas for me where it is the thought that counts.  If my hubs has a cold bottle of prosecco waiting in the fridge when we get home, I will be happy and it will be because he thought of me and what I was missing while I grew his child. 

amye02

redfallon said:

This was around when I was having DD, too (2013). Personally, I think it's a little silly, but to each his own, I suppose.

We had a girl on our BMB who kept bragging about her "baby daddy" getting her a Range Rover as her push present. I think my push present would probably be some Whataburger that DH picked up for me to eat in the hospital.

I am so happy other women want food as their push present too! I told SO to bring me oysters, wine and a rare filet mignon as my push present

breezypip

I was going to say I have no desire for a push present since we are spending so much to be ready for the baby already, but then you guys said FOOD....

So yeah, bring the bagel and lox I've been craving to hospital and I'll be a happy lady!

raq_2020

I think it's fine. Doing things for each other and showing appreciation for your significant other is great. People have different needs for things like this, but I do think it's smart to fill your partner in if you're expecting a gift... Too often we expect our SO's to read our minds and get upset when they cannot!!

I can't think of anything I'll want. Maybe if I see a necklace or something with the birthstone on it on etsy, I'll talk to my husband about it?? It'll be right around xmas sooo I'll be maxed out on gifts probably lol.

hummingbird35

I mean I wouldn't say no. I think my 'push presents' are going to be the things we're buying that we sort of need but really mostly want, like a deep freezer & a rocking armchair. That doesn't mean I'm not excited about them though! Also booze. 

yl1m32015

I think the idea is nice, but I wouldn't expect anything big. I told DH a nice gesture would be a mommy charm for my charm bracelet or something witj the babies birthstone. Nothing big or expensive, just a token.

AJo32

I told my hubby what a push present was and he laughed out loud! He said he figured the baby was gift enough. We're not big into gift giving between the two of us anyway (birthdays are usually a card and dinner and Christmas might be something we need for the house or even nothing at all depending on the year). That being said, I think it's a nice gesture to gift some sort of keepsake, but I won't be disappointed if I don't get anything either. He's right, baby girl is more than enough of a gift!

duckinoven

My hubs laughs about it, I'm all for a good bottle of champagne after baby!

kidcapri100

I'm also just learning about this whole "push present" phenomenon. Actually my husband was the first to bring it up when one of his coworkers asked what he was planning on purchasing for this "push present". Strange huh? I kid you not, these men literally bought their wives watches and handbags for delivering a baby...blows my mind (and how is a handbag symbolic to the birth of your child?!?)

I'm not for it nor against it. If it's something my husband wants to do then I won't tell him no and would graciously accept the gift, but at the same time I have absolutely no expectations. This has been a physically, mentally and emotionally trying pregnancy so far - honestly for me the greatest gift is a healthy baby. But I could see how he would want to give a gift (he enjoys giving gifts as do I) or do something nice as it's been a pretty hard past few months!

I actually love the food idea... Please give me all of the champagne, sushi, cured meats, unpasteurized cheeses please

I just want cart blanche to eat my face off.

CMDD

I feel it's really to each their own kind of deal. I'd love it, I also wouldn't even notice if I didnt get one. So I guess i'm pretty meh about the issue :P

Stephanieshort2

I think demanding a gift is a little tacky, but I would absolutely love a ring with my son's birthstone. If hubby doesn't get me one, not a big deal. I will eventually get around to buying one myself!

bluelily9

Haha, this is great! After my DS was born I semi demanded my 2 favorite donuts from a local place brought into the hospital. Isn't the baby gift??? I'm sorry but my husband deserves a present for putting up with..."Ugh, my boobs hurt... Is this weird?... Can you fetch me (whatever)... Do my feet look bigger?... I can't eat that, please make me this..." Etc

AlejandraN2

This is a big thing where I live and it's actually been around for a while - at least since last time I was had a baby (2013). I'd say from the moms in my area and the mom groups I see, about 8/10 have gotten some pretty expensive "push" presents. But it could just be a NY thing. Personally, I never felt right asking for a material thing for having a baby- i'd rather just have a partner who's a real partner and takes care of the baby as much as I do.  Which I'm thankful to have in my hubby - who by the way had never heard of such a thing. He asked me if I wanted anything after I explained it, and I said no. A massage or spa day after does sound nice though - but not as a reward for pushing and giving birth. Just as a day for you to relax and regroup. I don't expect anything this time either though. 

I'm realizing the above may come off as judgy but it's totally not, i've oohed and aahed over my friends' "push" presents. It's just not my thing i guess. 

Melissadmag

This is my first time hearing about it and honestly I don't think I would mind one way or the other. I wouldn't be offended if DH didn't get me anything (other than flowers lol) but if he were to get me something I'd hope it would be more along the lines of some really nice photos of her the day she was born, or maybe a family portrait, or maybe a little charm bracelet with charms for me, hubbs, and baby on it. (not an expensive one though, just a nice little charm bracelet.) I'm really not a big jewelry person at all so there would be no point in DH getting me a diamond ring or anything.....besides that seems, I don't know, cold to me? I don't know how to properly express how strange I would find that other than I would much rather have pictures than a ring. It would feel less like a reward if that makes sense? Like thanks for cooking and pushing my baby out, hope this ring evens us out now for everything you went through. I dunno, I know that's not the point of it. I would just be more comfortable with flowers and pictures, or maybe a nice spa appointment for a couple weeks after baby is born to have my hair, and nails done and get a well deserved massage. Eh, I'm not going to worry about it though, I could really care less about getting anything other than my healthy baby Everything else is just noise at that point. 

Blake&Blair

 I honestly can't grasp why people are so offended over push presents and "zomg the BABY is the GIFT".  Yea, well thats great for you but I want the presents

Ken122014

I agree with a little token. I'd like a ring, necklace or bracelet- but like others said, nothing too expensive, because, yes, our daughter is the true gift. I also like the idea of a bottle of wine waiting for me at home

BostonBaby1

When I first got married to DH and we first started trying, I was insistent that this was something that he had to do and he thought it was ridiculous. However, as our marriage has continued, I realize that I will continue to receive fine jewelry and diamonds regularly without having to push a baby out.

To summarize, push presents are nice but I get diamonds anyway which is nicer!

Also, have I mentioned how much I love my husband?