Jeez. Enough already. I'm pretty sure OP stated she knew she was lucky that the baby was healthy and that was most important.
Not everything on this board has to be a contest over who has it the worst and who's suffered the most.
I never enjoy my anatomy scan, I work in a NICU where all the things that can go wrong and be found during that scan are right in my face. I'm constantly reminded of the potential problems and how devastating it can be-- but I totally understand people having expectations of getting a good look at their baby and getting good pictures. It's ok to feel bummed when it didn't turn out as good as you hoped. Yes, others have gotten worse news. That doesn't mean people can't be dissatisfied with an experience that didn't measure up.
This isn't the point of an anatomy scan. It's not for a parent's enjoyment or experience. This is strictly for medical purposes. Not for funsies.
I guess you didn't bother to read my post. I know that. I work in a huge NICU that cares for the sickest newborns imaginable. I 100% understand the purpose of the anatomy scan and am faced with the reality of it every day. But even with my knowledge and experience, I can still be understanding and sympathetic that someone was hoping for an enjoyable experience where they get a good look at their baby and get a few keepsake photos.
Get over yourself.
FFS. So just because you have knowledge and experience and sympathize with OP, my point (along with everyone else on the thread) should be disregarded?
And if you did read my initial post, I was kind enough to recommend getting another ultrasound to get the experience she so badly missed out on.
So no, I will not get over myself.
You ladies are savage, leave OP alone! Maybe she didn't word it right but I believe she got that the first or maybe the third time. This could be her first and she could have been told by friends all there wonderful experiences and had high expectations. Hence " disappointment" You sound like you guys are shaming a child honestly it's pretty over the top. I also have no idea what you're going on about with the title being wrong because I didn't think anything was wrong with baby reading it? Disappointed with the experience . Well that's exactly what this post is about hey. If something was wrong with baby im sure it would say, devastated, or advice, or anyone been in a similar situation and name said problem like others posted. Not disappointed with expierience. Put the claws away ladies.
I have not read an attack in any of these posts so I have no clue what you are talking about to "put the claws away". People and myself are sharing OPINIONS and theyay not agree with OP and even the title of the post. So what...this is a place of conflicting opinions.
I think like many have said the point of the ultrasound is not to get pictures of baby but to get a clean bill of health for baby....that is all.
I dont feel bad for the op at all. If she had taken the time to look around the board on the day she posted this tread there were 3 or 4 different posts of women (myself included) who had not so perfect news. So her post was very poorly timed and insenstitive to those who had real worrys and concerns. I also notice she never offered support to said women just came on to rant about how rubbish her pics were and how far away the screen was. Also hasnt replyed back to anyone, which leads me to believe she was just trying to stir the pot! Rant over
Jeez. Enough already. I'm pretty sure OP stated she knew she was lucky that the baby was healthy and that was most important.
Not everything on this board has to be a contest over who has it the worst and who's suffered the most.
I never enjoy my anatomy scan, I work in a NICU where all the things that can go wrong and be found during that scan are right in my face. I'm constantly reminded of the potential problems and how devastating it can be-- but I totally understand people having expectations of getting a good look at their baby and getting good pictures. It's ok to feel bummed when it didn't turn out as good as you hoped. Yes, others have gotten worse news. That doesn't mean people can't be dissatisfied with an experience that didn't measure up.
This isn't the point of an anatomy scan. It's not for a parent's enjoyment or experience. This is strictly for medical purposes. Not for funsies.
I guess you didn't bother to read my post. I know that. I work in a huge NICU that cares for the sickest newborns imaginable. I 100% understand the purpose of the anatomy scan and am faced with the reality of it every day. But even with my knowledge and experience, I can still be understanding and sympathetic that someone was hoping for an enjoyable experience where they get a good look at their baby and get a few keepsake photos.
Get over yourself.
FFS. So just because you have knowledge and experience and sympathize with OP, my point (along with everyone else on the thread) should be disregarded?
And if you did read my initial post, I was kind enough to recommend getting another ultrasound to get the experience she so badly missed out on.
So no, I will not get over myself.
So I guess I should disregard my experience and knowledge so you can be right?
Like PPs have said, if you're looking for an "experience" go to a private ultrasound clinic/boutique. If you're so disappointed with the pictures you received, I'm sure you would be willing to pay for more. Its unfortunate others have chosen to be rude to those trying to reassure you that your experience isn't unusual and offer suggestions to help you get what you were expecting.
Jeez. Enough already. I'm pretty sure OP stated she knew she was lucky that the baby was healthy and that was most important.
Not everything on this board has to be a contest over who has it the worst and who's suffered the most.
I never enjoy my anatomy scan, I work in a NICU where all the things that can go wrong and be found during that scan are right in my face. I'm constantly reminded of the potential problems and how devastating it can be-- but I totally understand people having expectations of getting a good look at their baby and getting good pictures. It's ok to feel bummed when it didn't turn out as good as you hoped. Yes, others have gotten worse news. That doesn't mean people can't be dissatisfied with an experience that didn't measure up.
This isn't the point of an anatomy scan. It's not for a parent's enjoyment or experience. This is strictly for medical purposes. Not for funsies.
I guess you didn't bother to read my post. I know that. I work in a huge NICU that cares for the sickest newborns imaginable. I 100% understand the purpose of the anatomy scan and am faced with the reality of it every day. But even with my knowledge and experience, I can still be understanding and sympathetic that someone was hoping for an enjoyable experience where they get a good look at their baby and get a few keepsake photos.
Get over yourself.
FFS. So just because you have knowledge and experience and sympathize with OP, my point (along with everyone else on the thread) should be disregarded?
And if you did read my initial post, I was kind enough to recommend getting another ultrasound to get the experience she so badly missed out on.
So no, I will not get over myself.
So I guess I should disregard my experience and knowledge so you can be right?
Do what the freak you want. You're obviously trying to stir the pot. What are you even trying to prove me wrong about?
Like I said, just because you have the knowledge and experience, it doesn't mean other people's points about the subject are invalid. That's great you sympathize with OP, but don't come on here telling people enough is enough. It doesn't make you any better than anyone else here.
Do what the freak you want. You're obviously trying to stir the pot. What are you even trying to prove me wrong about?
Like I said, just because you have the knowledge and experience, it doesn't mean other people's points about the subject are invalid. That's great you sympathize with OP, but don't come on here telling people enough is enough. It doesn't make you any better than anyone else here.
Do what the freak you want. You're obviously trying to stir the pot. What are you even trying to prove me wrong about?
Like I said, just because you have the knowledge and experience, it doesn't mean other people's points about the subject are invalid. That's great you sympathize with OP, but don't come on here telling people enough is enough. It doesn't make you any better than anyone else here.
Not trying to stir the pot at all, just offering a different perspective so OP knows there are people who get where she's coming from. Creating drama seems to be what you're all about.
And I certainly never said I'm better than anyone else. Sometimes people find it helpful to know other's backgrounds and experience with a topic, so they know they aren't just talking out of their ass. If you feel intimidated, that's your problem.
Because I'm not blowing sunshine and rainbow up anyone's butt? It's called having big girl panties on and dealing with life. And I'm far from feeling intimated, so feel free to get off your high horse.
I'm actually pretty fabulous with an amazing personality.
I agree with @monaclemere. Whatever happens during your anatomy scan is your "experience". Yes, it is done for medical reasons, but that doesn't mean it can't be pleasant. In fact, many medical offices cater to making it more pleasant for the patient and family with big screen TVs and extra seating. It is not unreasonable to expect that you might have a pleasant, or at least not unpleasant, experience, especially since many women do and have even posted on here about it.
This is yet another example from the list of "just be grateful" responses that seem to keep recurring on this board. People are entitled to their feelings, whatever they may be. You can always find someone who has/has had it worse, but that doesn't invalidate your own reality. Perspective is one thing, but these responses go beyond that.
This is absolutely not about being grateful. It's about the purpose of an AS. The purpose is to check on the health and development of the baby, not for cute pictures.
Let's be real - there isn't anything I'll say that hasn't been said. But, seriously, even on the first page or two of posts, it's pretty clear these don't go over well. Why? Oh, I don't know, because it's not about novelty and not everyone is so lucky to have perfectly healthy babies. Oh yeah! I'm one of those Moms with not-good results facing lifetime challenges. Have I ever created a thread about it? Nope. Why? Because it isn't appropriate for me to pity myself in public forum to make it all about me. Do I want sympathy? Hell no! But you get my point? Let's GTFO with this nonsense and move on with happy, healthy pregnancies and stop the pity parties. No one wants to attend.
Big screen TV's and extra seating? Catering to the patient experience? Eeek... No wonder health care costs so much in the US.
At my hospital only the tech has a screen! She only shows me the baby for a very short amount of time and goes on with her business. The boutiques have extra screening and comfy couches though.
Re: Disappointed with 20 week scan experience
FFS. So just because you have knowledge and experience and sympathize with OP, my point (along with everyone else on the thread) should be disregarded? And if you did read my initial post, I was kind enough to recommend getting another ultrasound to get the experience she so badly missed out on. So no, I will not get over myself.
I think like many have said the point of the ultrasound is not to get pictures of baby but to get a clean bill of health for baby....that is all.
Its unfortunate others have chosen to be rude to those trying to reassure you that your experience isn't unusual and offer suggestions to help you get what you were expecting.
Do what the freak you want. You're obviously trying to stir the pot. What are you even trying to prove me wrong about?
Like I said, just because you have the knowledge and experience, it doesn't mean other people's points about the subject are invalid. That's great you sympathize with OP, but don't come on here telling people enough is enough. It doesn't make you any better than anyone else here.
Because I'm not blowing sunshine and rainbow up anyone's butt? It's called having big girl panties on and dealing with life. And I'm far from feeling intimated, so feel free to get off your high horse.
I'm actually pretty fabulous with an amazing personality.
This is yet another example from the list of "just be grateful" responses that seem to keep recurring on this board. People are entitled to their feelings, whatever they may be. You can always find someone who has/has had it worse, but that doesn't invalidate your own reality. Perspective is one thing, but these responses go beyond that.
The UOs continue. They are following me.
Let's be real - there isn't anything I'll say that hasn't been said. But, seriously, even on the first page or two of posts, it's pretty clear these don't go over well. Why? Oh, I don't know, because it's not about novelty and not everyone is so lucky to have perfectly healthy babies. Oh yeah! I'm one of those Moms with not-good results facing lifetime challenges. Have I ever created a thread about it? Nope. Why? Because it isn't appropriate for me to pity myself in public forum to make it all about me. Do I want sympathy? Hell no! But you get my point? Let's GTFO with this nonsense and move on with happy, healthy pregnancies and stop the pity parties. No one wants to attend.
You need to learn how to work the system like others, obvi.