I want to get some perspective on this because I know I just gave birth 3 weeks ago so my emotions are a little wonky right now.
My LO has three sets of grandparents: my parents, my husband's mother and step father and my husband's dad and step mother. All three sets of grandparents are within 10 - 15 minutes of our house, except his mom and step father live 5 minutes from us. Prior to giving birth, my MIL told us to keep our house clean (I don't like having visitors, even family, when the house is messy) because she would be stopping by all the time to see her grandson. I responded by saying, "No. I have to sleep when LO sleeps, so there will be times when we are unavailable" and she just ignored my comment. Now that LO is born (he's 3 weeks today) she has been very demanding with us. For instance, she's demanding monthly pictures to add to some frame that she bought, and she's demanding an extra monthly picture so she can send it to her mother who lives in another state. She's also demanding weekly pictures. On top of that she stated at dinner last week that she figures she'll see LO each Wednesday and Saturday or Sunday. She said those would be her "days to see him." I'm sorry but i'm not scheduling out a 3 week old. I'm trying to get my DH to understand that what his mother is doing is not okay. This is our child and we get to say when he'll see family, and it's up to us to send out pictures when we want, not on demand.
Does anyone else have parents/grandparents who live close by? How often do they see your little one? Are all parents/grandparents this demanding?
Re: Demanding MIL
My MIL lives in town and she doesn't boss us...DH doesn't let her. However, she was under the impression that she could just come over whenever she wanted. That's what her daughter let her do.
In fact, she started to after we got home from the hospital. She would just walk in when we had other company and be so loud so that everyone would know she was there. We finally told her she needed to call before she came and that if she didn't get an answer she was not to come over.
One time "she forgot her phone" and DH made her leave because she didn't call. She told everyone that she shouldn't have to call.
It's been a year now and it's better....she at least understands her boundaries but she still doesn't like that she can't come over and take over like she did with her daughter.
My advice to you is let your thoughts and feelings be known now so there's time for her to get used to it.