Due Date Reactions

PilotWife2B

is anyone else getting the "oh no! That is so close to Christmas!" Or "I hope your baby won't resent you for having him/her on that date." Sigh... I know there are positives but why do people have to be so negative some times. I want a shirt that says,"Positive comments only"

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com

What good is that comment? Seriously the more pregnant I get the more people piss me off. If it's not supportive or nice don't say it! We are prego with hormones raging! Don't tell me stupid stuff and be like "oh yea well I was only thinking of you" no you weren't! The baby will come when it comes- we didn't plan the due date and some of us had no control over when we got pregnant- I can see why you are aggravated I haven't even had those comments but it makes me mad! Lol

c000501

I've had many comments similar and in addition to what I'm missing out on....um that's temporary and fine with me to have our baby. Sometimes it would be nice for people to just say congratulations and ride the positive train and stop before they piss off more pregnant women. I always tell my husband a pregnant and new mom never forget. Certain things still will set me off because I just remember it in certain situations with my son.... He's now 9.

fiorip

I haven't received comments about it, but people complaining about December babies annoys me. A child is a blessing at anytime. I'm a December baby myself and I've never felt I've missed anything because my bday isn't in the summer or because it's right in the middle of the holidays, if anything, it makes me love Christmas twice at much! I look forward to the holiday season, people are so happy on my bday because of the holiday spirit.

I did however get the "if it's born the same day you were your bday will be ruined forever" (mine is December 26th). I didn't take offense on it because it came from someone that had this happened to him. His daughter was born on his birthday and for the last four years he just doesn't get to celebrate his birthday anymore, a couple of those years his own father has forgotten his bday because it's now his first grandchild's bday. I'm not worried about that happening though, my due date is December 15th and even so, I'd be happy to skip a bday celebration for my own child, I can't wait to have this baby in my arms.

daylynj

Yup my grandmother...this weekend in fact! She said "you can't have a December baby! That's too close to Christmas and thanksgiving!" Mind you, I'm due the 5th, and she knows this. I just politely stated that I don't care, I'm just blessed with this baby and dh and myself will make it a point that my sons birthday doesn't get lost in the shuffle regardless of when he comes.

@lmgagliardi@hotmail.com I'm right there with you, the more pregnant I get, the more people irritate the bejeesus out of me!

yllomssim

That's a terrible thing to say to you!! EDD Dec 29. Also being a manager retail worker I was nervous to tell my manager that I'd be absent for one of the busiest times of year. He's the biggest family man though and not even worried! No family have said any comments, they just think of it as an extra Christmas or new years present! I'm showing a bit but not when I am in my frumpy work uniform, but once I am showing more and strangers start asking me I am sure I'll get a few comments of that sort! Just need to remind myself to "smile and nod, smile and nod, smile and nod", whenever someone says something I don't want to hear! I can be a bit rude and sarcastic sometimes so I hope I can just control that a bit with strangers...

ersimmons

Another one that has really made me angry is looking for day cares. Several daycares have said that the time frame I'm looking for child care (late March) is really one of the worst times to get child care and that I should plan for a more opportune time next pregnancy. I'm sorry next time, I'll plan my surprise pregnancy around your availability better....

stephaniearthurs

It's funny! I've made that comment myself! Baby is due dec. 27th! And I do worry a little about the holidays over shadowing it's birthday/not having the big fun parties I used to have! I only think of this because my brother was born Jan. 1st, and it's very hard for my mom to get friends to come! That being said, she has his party on the first! I would try and have it earlier!!

Melissadmag

I keep getting people saying, Oh a Christmas baby!" Which is just weird for a couple of reasons. My due date is December 10th, a full 2 weeks before Christmas, and I am Jewish, so it is actually going to be born on Hanukkah, a holiday that we will actually celebrate and is relevant to our lives lol. 

rdilts

My due date is December 24th. When I tell people they say oh how great! Then they think about it for a moment and say oh that is right at Christmas, how do you feel about that? How do you think I feel people? Happy, grateful that I am bringing another life into this world, Thankful that I was able to have another baby after I had a Tubal Reversal so my husband can have a child of his own! My daughters are really excited and they don't seem to mind that I may be in the hospital for Christmas, they keep telling me that it is my Christmas present from God . They are such great girls. It does make me angry the more pregnant I get that people say comments like that. It is what it is and it can't be changed.

4puddleducks

DS's birthday is just a few days before Christmas. At 3 years old, he thinks it is awesome. He ends up with 3 days of birthday gifts and two days of Christmas between our little family, my family and my in-laws. It is literally over a week of celebrating something every other day. By the end though, he is normally a little tired of opening presents. My parents held back a few Christmas presents for us to give him in mid-February since he was overwhelmed. We just make sure that his birthday is a BIG DEAL for him and the whole family. I always do something with balloons for when he first wakes up.

cedixon2

I generally just give the month my twinnies are due. If I can carry them to 36 week that makes their arrival around the 1st of Dec. I end up with less questions the less info I volunteer. But ya bday and anni are the 14&15... Then Christmas on the 25th, lol. I feel like December will be busy and blessed and if my twinnies come out strong and healthy I could care less if no one tells me happy b day anymore. Those girls will be gift enough.

fprobst

Yes! The original due date is Christmas eve, but they pushed it to the 18th  anyway, My husband have a lot of decorating to do, or we may decorate early.  All I know, it will be hectic

mbhurst1

Yeah, I usually get a mix of both reactions.  I already have one December baby, so two is not going to be fun, but we will manage and it is the way God intended it.  We will just be broke in Decembers!

momotheflyinglemur

If you can't say something nice, don't say nothin' at all. -Thumper

We have a lot of December birthdays in my family so the two presents versus one present won't really be an issue for our baby, because our direct family is already used to giving a birthday and a xmas present to these December babies. I am part of my offices Party Planning Committee and I have been told that I have to make it to the Christmas party, which is two days before my due date! The head of the group says that I will help out and work on stuff until the beginning of December and then I have to relax and do nothing so that I don't over exert myself and go into labor early. Her exact words "Your water can break AT the party, but not a minute sooner!"

mashlew

fiorip said:

I haven't received comments about it, but people complaining about December babies annoys me. A child is a blessing at anytime. I'm a December baby myself and I've never felt I've missed anything because my bday isn't in the summer or because it's right in the middle of the holidays, if anything, it makes me love Christmas twice at much! I look forward to the holiday season, people are so happy on my bday because of the holiday spirit.

I did however get the "if it's born the same day you were your bday will be ruined forever" (mine is December 26th). I didn't take offense on it because it came from someone that had this happened to him. His daughter was born on his birthday and for the last four years he just doesn't get to celebrate his birthday anymore, a couple of those years his own father has forgotten his bday because it's now his first grandchild's bday. I'm not worried about that happening though, my due date is December 15th and even so, I'd be happy to skip a bday celebration for my own child, I can't wait to have this baby in my arms.

Omg that's the same reaction my babe gets . His birthday is December 24th and our due date it December 15th . Family always brings up the fact that his birthday will basically be irrelevant now . I just think it doesn't matter . My side of the family is very into celebrating every single holiday and birthday no matter how close it is to others , we will always celebrate and get into the spirit out of love !

grkgdss00

I usually just say i'm due in December and not the actual date (12/28) to avoid comments. But I did get one from my sister at the beginning, "Oh No, not another December baby..." since we already have 5+ December birthdays. Like, geez! Nothing I can do about that now, sorry to inconvenience you! I like what @fiorip stated above "a child is a blessing at any time" - I think i'm going to use that from now on and that will shut them up

meansallison

My mom's response when I told her I'm due December 27th "how do you expect me to get time off for that". I'm thrilled to have a Christmas baby, there's no better gift!

keiragann

I get the whole "oh no not another December baby." My DH is a December, his brother, and our neice and nephew who are twins.  I keep saying at least its at the beginning of December My MIL says we can only get pregnant in March.  It is a running joke now that we will all have to take the month of March off from sex. 

docandyaffa

PilotWife2B said:

is anyone else getting the "oh no! That is so close to Christmas!" Or "I hope your baby won't resent you for having him/her on that date." Sigh... I know there are positives but why do people have to be so negative some times. I want a shirt that says,"Positive comments only"

I am confused, why would someone say..."I hope your baby won't resent you for having him/her on that date"? 

meansallison

My mom's response when I told her I'm due December 27th "how do you expect me to get time off for that". I'm thrilled to have a Christmas baby, there's no better gift!

meansallison

Double post, sorry!

airheademmy

My due date is December 23. I've had tons of people make comments like "Oh a Christmas baby!" but none of them are negative. I think it will work out, because most of my family members have days off around that time. And my sister will be home from college. So it will be convenient for visiting etc. Also, it will be easier for DH to get off work.

The one thing I worry about is that the doctors won't be happy about working on Christmas. I'm just hoping they are used to it already and won't mind. I definitely don't want the "B Team" of docs for my delivery. (I realize this is probably not how it works, just something that keeps crossing my mind.)

ammnam14

My due date is 12/26 and everyone is thrilled. My husband is the only one that has said the baby won't get a birthday party because it's so close to Christmas. But that's nonsense. Haha

grkgdss00

airheademmy said:

The one thing I worry about is that the doctors won't be happy about working on Christmas. I'm just hoping they are used to it already and won't mind. I definitely don't want the "B Team" of docs for my delivery. (I realize this is probably not how it works, just something that keeps crossing my mind.)

Not only that, if you are trying to find a doula... GOOD LUCK! I've already been through my top 5 picks and all are unavailable.

Mizuiro007

I've decided people will always find something to comment on. With my first it was all the things we'd be giving up or the "well, you're screwed now" comments. This time it's "don't you know how to stop that by now?" Or "you two have been busy".

"Water off a duck's back" has become a very definite mantra for me this pregnancy.

Btw, my son was born over due and arrived the day before my birthday. I don't feel like I've missed anything. I like low key celebrations so it's always been a small, intimate get together with my mom and grandparents. Now I get to share that and it's such a joy. Plus, the nurses felt bad I was in the hospital on my birthday and had no visitors (I planned it that way) so I was brought lots of cupcakes.

Gingermom15

"He will never like his birthday or get any gifts. Try to have him sooner". How about no? The nerve of some people really get me. Nothing is wrong with a December birthday because every birthday is a blessing.

daylynj

Today I was asked by an acquaintance at work if we are finding out the sex, and I politely replied that we did and he's a boy. She makes a face and goes "ugh. Why would you find out???" Excuse me, but its not your place to tell me that nor say it all offensively. I respect people who don't find out and know many people who don't find out but doing so felt right for us.

I'm not sure why it's a free for all for people to make whatever comments they'd like to a pregnant woman. Or maybe I'm just really sensitive today

danapackla

Our baby is due 12/2. It also happens to be my youngest brother's birthday. Over the years, I think our parents made some great decisions to keep his birthday special and separate from all of the holidays. 

They NEVER wrapped any presents in Christmas paper!!!

We always waited to put up the tree/decorations until after his birthday. (I understand this isn't reasonable for those of you due later in the month, but an idea none the less.)

He was always allowed to decide if he wanted to celebrate with his friends right at his birthday, or if he wanted to have a 1/2 birthday party in June.

I do think it is important to separate a birthday from holidays for children, because they are different and meaningful celebrations, and we are all sooooo excited that these kiddos are being born!

mbecca11

Part of me is excited that my baby will be born close to Christmas (DD 12/16) because she's going to be the most perfect Christmas present I could ever ask for, but the other part of me is anxious/nervous/kind of dreading her coming that close to Christmas just because I know it will be hard when planning parties and presents and stuff.

Luckily I haven't had anyone make any rude comments. But my sister does joke and say that she's gonna be late & make her arrival on Christmas Eve, just because I was a week and a half late when I was born and SO was also late.

Praying our little girl decides to be nice to mommy and maybe come a week or two early... The farthest I can get from Christmas with her still being perfectly happy & healthy the better! Haha

groovylocks

Some people say that. It doesn't bother me. I have a very overt and flippant sense of humour so usually i just make jokes right along with them. 

rmfrye12

Baby is due 12/24.... And every one I tell that to has some sort of comment, but ultimately, a baby is the greatest Christmas gift we could ask for and all that matters is a healthy baby!! My birthday is 12/5 and I couldn't be happier to share a birth month with my child ☺️

SunnyD2015

Our last baby was born on December 28th.  He will be 4 this year.  We still celebrate his birthday just like the other two boys.  But, we tend to push the big celebration back a couple weeks.  We have a cake and he opens a gift from mom and dad on his actual birthday and then the big celebration happens mid-January.  

We don't make a big deal out of it.  I got a lot of comments too last time.  This time it looks like it might be a mid-November delivery because of my complications but this baby is a blessing no matter when it was conceived.  

r&bc

I've come to the conclusion that it may be a cultural thing perhaps?
My husband's family and my Anglo friends are kind of saying the "oh so soon to Christmas...? Won't that make it difficult for the holidays & for birthdays?"

On the other hand my Hispanic family is very happy to be getting the little one in December. What better time to have a baby that when everybody is off from school or work and the festivities have just started?? I think of it as "that baby will be lucky because on its birthday it will probably be usually on vacation for ever and ever!!"

Bubbz

My husband has a Dec 23rd birthday and he's always HATED it, so there is an air of "why THEN" around our house. I can't blame him, really! He feels he always got "screwed" out of a proper birthday as a kid.

I am just taking bets on what important date the baby (due the 19th) will crash:

The 15th, my grandmother's birthday? (I'd like this, actually--she passed this year.)
The 18th, my grandparent's wedding anniversary?
The 22nd, Yule?
The 23rd, husband's birthday?
Christmas Eve or Christmas?

haylierm

Haha love the idea of the t shirt! You could probably sell those on here easily. I'm quite a bit earlier in December but I've gotten this comment a bit. More so because I have many birthdays in October, mine and thanksgiving in November, and then a few birthdays in December as well as those holidays. So we have joked a bit that we wish it would have been January since no birthdays or holidays there. But your child will RESENT you? Give me a break! Lol mom and dad, how dare you have sex 9 months before Christmas!?!!? 8-|

jrm2149

I get the Christmas baby comments (due Dec 27) but I smile and just say we are excited! I also say that it will be an eventful Christmas! I actually have heard a few times that, "you better get it in before Jan. 1". I guess where I work people are all about their tax money!!

Court11152325

I am a professor, so all the reactions to my due date (12/17) are - "you timed that perfectly" since this falls right between semesters. And my dept is being awesome about letting me teach online until late February in the spring. No comments about being close to Christmas, fortunately. And I'm not sure I'd care all that much. November and December are my favorite months!

RSB1982

I haven't gotten any negative comments either.  I have actually been the one to bring up the fear of Christmas overshadowing birthdays, and my friends have had nothing but nice things to say.  One friend actually suggested that the baby will probably get even more attention and presents to 'overcompensate' for the December birthday, ha!   @Court11152325 what do you teach?  My DH is a college professor too, he teaches Finance.  We have also gotten the 'wow, thats great timing' comments from his colleagues.  

mltarrio

Yes, I am due on Christmas Day, and I have gotten so many comments about how "terrible" it is to have to share a birthday with a holiday. Like what a "hardship" it will be on the child. I want to smack these people... HARD. 

If they had any idea how long it took me to make this baby, how much effort and time went in to trying to have her, and how grateful I am that we have a healthy baby on the way, they would never be so insensitive and stupid. 

Jenichael1217

One of my good friends has been trying to get pregnant since November. After dh and I had a condom break in March, she and I were laughing about the possibility that we could both be pregnant at the same time (which would have been crazy as she and I are partner teachers-our students would lose both teachers at once). She told me that they had actually talked about not trying that month to avoid having a December birthday. I still giggle a little when I think about how silly that is.

I do think dh is a little bummed that she's due in December because Christmas is the one time of year he gets to see his family when we visit them in Arizona. It may be that he goes two years without seeing them because my brother in law is disabled and his parents can't really leave him alone.