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Baby dust? A poll.... (trigger warning?)

VTKatieVTKatie member
edited July 2015 in Trying to Get Pregnant
First, this is not meant to offend. I am just trying to get a grasp on this. Let me start off by saying I have never used the phrase. I find it completely douchey. But I saw some very intense responses with regards to the use of the term, and it caught me off guard. I understand there are a lot of sensitive people that participate on these boards, and many that have lost children. But is the term "baby dust" ever actually associated to a lost child? I lost my mom a few years ago and she was cremated and I never think of her as "mom dust", it just seems very strange to me......what are your thoughts on the term?

Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl

Baby dust? A poll.... (trigger warning?) 192 votes

It's very offensive
29% 57 votes
I think it's ridiculous....people are just trying to start sh*t
22% 43 votes
I wouldn't say it because it's a lame
47% 92 votes
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Re: Baby dust? A poll.... (trigger warning?)

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  • Malibu45Malibu45 member
    edited July 2015
  • hboazhboaz member
    edited July 2015
    VTKatie said:

    First, this is not meant to offend. I am just trying to get a grasp on this. Let me start off by saying I have never used the phrase. I find it completely douchey. But I saw some very intense responses with regards to the use of the term, and it caught me off guard. I understand there are a lot of sensitive people that participate on these boards, and many that have lost children. But is the term "baby dust" ever actually associated to a lost child? I lost my mom a few years ago and she was cremated and I never think of her as "mom dust", it just seems very strange to me......what are your thoughts on the term?

    Also, QFP.
    Me - 30; DH - 30
    TTC #1 since June 2015
    3/16 - Started infertility testing
    4/16 - SA results: borderline low count/morph
    8/16 - Ultrasound and HSG: all clear! Prescribed Bromocriptine for elevated Prolactin levels.
    9/16 - Prolactin down to normal levels! 

    IUI #1 - 9/21/16 - Clomid 50mg, Estrace, Ovidrel, Progesterone/Estradiol - 4 follies - BFP! EDD 6/15/17 Team PINK!


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  • hboaz said:
    Why does it matter? And why, if you are aware that people here may find it offensive, would you make an entire post dedicated to it?


    Because I have been a member of TB community for years and want to know people's honest opinions' on the matter.  People get offended for a myriad of reasons and I just want to understand where it comes from. 

    Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl

  • I had no idea I'm sorry. I used to be on a different site and people used it to give good luck vibes while TTC
  • Malibu45 said:

    ?

    Why the dirty delete?
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  • Because I wanted to take it back after I realized what it meant on this site. It wasn't a dirty delete. I had an honest question.
  • hboazhboaz member
    edited July 2015
    VTKatie said:


    hboaz said:

    Why does it matter? And why, if you are aware that people here may find it offensive, would you make an entire post dedicated to it?




    Because I have been a member of TB community for years and want to know people's honest opinions' on the matter.  People get offended for a myriad of reasons and I just want to understand where it comes from. 


    You know where it comes from. You said so in your original post. Even if only one person found it offensive, don't you think it's rather insensitive to make an entire post about it, knowing full well that that term is not appreciated here?
    Me - 30; DH - 30
    TTC #1 since June 2015
    3/16 - Started infertility testing
    4/16 - SA results: borderline low count/morph
    8/16 - Ultrasound and HSG: all clear! Prescribed Bromocriptine for elevated Prolactin levels.
    9/16 - Prolactin down to normal levels! 

    IUI #1 - 9/21/16 - Clomid 50mg, Estrace, Ovidrel, Progesterone/Estradiol - 4 follies - BFP! EDD 6/15/17 Team PINK!


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  • Every community has their own culture around this term. On this community, it is considered very offensive. Regardless of your own personal views, the culture of the community is what matters. Would you walk into a friend's house and deliberately do something that offends them just because you personally don't find it offensive? No? Then don't do it here.
    And this is the type of response I am looking for. Just an explanation of feelings around why things like this are/aren't accepted.  I am not looking for justification. 

    Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl

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  • Malibu45 said:

    Because I wanted to take it back after I realized what it meant on this site. It wasn't a dirty delete. I had an honest question.

    When you delete your original post = dirty delete. Doesn't matter if it's an honest, asinine, silly, or legitimate question.

    It's considered rude. You've already been quoted so it didn't matter anyways.
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    DD: 10/17/13
    TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
    Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)

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  • So sorry I was rude
  • Once, again, I don't use the term, nor am I justifying it's use.  I am just trying to understand if it's actually offensive, or if a select few are  trying to stir up drama whenever possible. Last year I was a very active participant on the TB and people used this term on multiple boards. It's only been since I came back over the last month that I have seen this negative response to it.  I am not condoning it's use, just wondering where it came from.

    Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl

  • I am glad to see most people in the poll are like me, in the "lame" camp.   But I do think most people are missing my point. In a group that is supposed to be supportive, I think there are a lot more legitimized things to correct than a stupid term that nobody actually uses to refer to the loss of their child.

    Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl


  • I am glad to see most people in the poll are like me, in the "lame" camp.   But I do think most people are missing my point. In a group that is supposed to be supportive, I think there are a lot more legitimized things to correct than a stupid term that nobody actually uses to refer to the loss of their child.
    Maybe you should do this poll over on the loss board (I'm being facetious, absolutely don't do that) and see how many of them find it to be a "stupid" term. Do you not understand that all sorts of people lurk on this board that are not "part" of the TTGP community? I had never heard of baby dust before this this site but once I saw that THIS... THIS community AS A WHOLE found it offensive I made sure to never use it. Because like you stated, this is a suppose to be a supportive community and I support and respect my fellow members who have had the tragic horror of loosing their sweet babies. This poll is offensive.


    BUT this isn't a loss board, it's a board about trying to get pregnant. And if you have experienced a loss, and are lurking on a board about women trying to get pregnant, I imagine your skin is thick enough that some stupid term isn't going to wreck your entire day.  If I had posted this on the loss board, I could understand the backlash.

    I stand by my thought that this is a ridiculous thing to call someone out on, and just one more way to turn off new participants.  I was here before most of you, I chose not to leave after the mass exodus.  If this poll is SO offensive and disgusts you so much, prepare for motherhood. You will need skin a lot thicker than that.


    Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl

  • So many post its....lol.

    Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl

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