Re-intro, waiting to miscarry

MWoodside

Well, I hoped to never return to this board after my 2nd tri loss in 2012 but here I am.

My current pregnancy hasn't ended yet, but was deemed not viable yesterday. I feel like this stressful scenario just continues on.

Short version: this pg was a total shocker. I hadn't yet had a period after weaning my youngest child (our rainbow baby). I have fertility challenges so all three of my prior pg have been very orchestrated with medical involvement. We were over the moon about this pg. betas looked excellent. without getting into the minutia, my first 3 scans have shown progress but still behind in terms of growth. Yesterday's scan showed no change from a week ago. Still a hb of 63 (very low) and no growth from last week. Dr said this will end in loss, he has never seen another outcome with this scenario.

So basically I'm waiting for the heart to stop and to miscarry. Has anyone been in this position? I'm so nervous it will take weeks to stop and this will be dragged out. I just want to move forward at this point. I'm mentally exhausted from inconclusive scans for a month already and now more waiting.

aleciaj79

I'm waiting to miscarry. No heartbeat at 9 weeks scan and baby measured 6+3. Im 7 weeks post confirmation of non viable pregnancy and still waiting to miscarry. Im wanting my body to take care of it without intervention unless I need it. Personally I would wait until the pregnancy is non viable. If you know the heart is still beating I wouldn't intervene until you're sure this pregnancy is unable to continue. I definitely understand your frustration and anxiety, stay strong xx

MWoodside

Oh yes I'm definitely waiting until the heartbeat stops. Otherwise it would be abortion.

AL_TwinCities

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a CP at 6 weeks so cannot offer any advice in this situation, but I wanted to give an internet hug. >:D<

ALC08

My 2nd pregnancy i had to go in twice a week for blood work and u/s. After 3 weeks the u/s showed no growth so i was told i would miscarry again. I waited 2-3 weeks for it to happen. It was so hard just wondering every day 'will it happen today'. My dr did give me xanax to help with my nerves and i had pain meds from my first MC. I just couldn't make myself take anything until i had symptoms. I needed the xanax at times though. I hope you are past this part and working on the healing process. So sorry for your losses!

mamadeebs77

Im sorry for your loss. I am six weeks and also waiting to miscarry with a possible ectopic- currently they cannot find the pregncy but my hcg continues to rise. They have told me for sure I will not have this baby. I feel the same- i just want this to end so i can put everything behind me and stop going to medical appointments every two days. I am so frustrated.

DanyTargaryen

@MWoodside - I just went through this in the past couple weeks. I got my BFP in early July then started spotting a couple weeks later. Even though the drs & nurses didn't think it was a problem because it was brown they brought me in for an early ultrasound at 7 weeks. Baby was only measuring 6 weeks and had a slow and irregular heartbeat.

The dr was very honest with me and said that based on his experience he did not believe the pregnancy was viable and that I would come back the following week for a follow-up ultrasound. I went back in at what was supposed to be 8 weeks but baby only measured 6+1 and the heartbeat was gone.

So in my situation we knew baby was gone within a week of finding out things did not look good.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish no one had to experience a loss ever. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions. I'm finding that talking about what's going on is helping me through the situation so I'm more than willing to talk.

DrKariC

I'm also waiting to miscarry - though not the same situation as yours as I never saw the heartbeat and so didn't have to wait for it to stop. I wish I could tell you how long it'll take but I pray it'll be not to drawn out for all of us. 

She's (I feel like it was a girl) still sitting in there the size of 6 weeks with no HB, and I should be at 8 weeks now. I have a confirmatory US in 5 days, but I'm certain about my dates and I don't really have pregnancy symptoms at all, so I know she's gone. 

It's the most terrible limbo - I never even thought about how there's this wait time with miscarriage, I always kind of thought once it happened it would happen all at once. 

Prayers for you all.

liloriole2000

@DrKariC - I'm in your exact same boat. I have my confirmation US today. I think I actually have some peace that we never saw the HB. Part of me feels like there was no pain for our little one these first 7 weeks and that makes things just a bit easier. 

Prayers to everyone as we live through these experiences. 

natnleo

I had an ectopic in January 2015 and now was diagnosed with a blighted ovum. I was 11 weeks and was hoping to naturally miscarry. But nothing happened. My doc gave me methotrexate pills. And now waiting to miscarry. My hcg levels were being monitored as I had the ectopic in January levels started low 31 but we're doubling doc thought it was a normal pregnancy. Until I had an ultrasound. There was an empty sac no fetal pole no yolk sac and no fetus. I was devastated. I felt like all our happiness was taken away. I had pregnancy symptoms up until 10 weeks. My boobs still hurt but everything else went away. I just pray the next time will be a rainbow baby.