So after
@DylansCandyBar nicely pointed me in the directions of the Miss Manners site, I found this page on baby showers:
https://entertainmentguide.local.com/miss-manners-baby-shower-etiquette-10098.html
It states that registries are in bad form. I have never been to a baby shower, nor heard of a baby shower without there being a registry. So I guess wanted to know more about everyone's personal opinions on registries.
Is there ever time when they are acceptable?
If they are not, how did they evolve into a nationally recognized thing ( as in you can go to buy buy baby and do the whole zap gun thing)?
Did you or will you have a registry, why or why not?
I thought this may be a good discussion starter since the board's been a little dead lately.
Just ladies, please remember it is okay to disagree
Re: Registry Rules
Registries make it easy for others to see what had already been purchased. It's a guideline for those who want to ensure thier gift won't go to waste. Also registries make return easier on the new mom, because most won't require a receipt so long as u were registered at the store.
I had a registry, but by the time my shower rolled around, I had purchased the majority on my own. I did also request that the registry not be put on the invitation, just because I'm not a huge fan of that.
I don't always buy off baby registries, sometimes I make gifts or I give something that I think the mother will find useful that she didn't register for. And I know that despite not registering for clothes, people will buy me baby clothes and toys and books and other things I didn't register for. Moms-to-be should obviously be grateful for whatever they get and not expect people to buy off a registry, but it's expected now that people have an idea as to what mom wants, especially since this can include out of town relatives and the such. You can't tell people what to buy you, but some people appreciate a guideline as far as what a mom to be wants and needs (and already has)..
I plan to make a baby registry when the time comes, for myself... and if a shower is offered to me I will gladly share my registry info to be included with the invitations.
I had a bridal registry for my bridal shower, NOT my wedding. I have never heard nor seen registery info on or with a wedding invitation, but if I did I would totally side eye that because it's not appropriate.
It should never be mentioned on anything wedding related, unless someone directly asks where I'm registered. But since it's understood that showers are gift giving events that are not hosted by the bride or mother-to-be, it would be appropriate on a shower invitation.
I have registered during each of my pregnancies. The first was shared in my shower invitation. The second was strictly for myself and my husband. And my registry this time around will be the same. It's just a checklist of things we still need to get.
But if they don't ask, I don't mention it.
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