Working and Hating it.....:(

patriciahomol

I've been working full time sine my ds was 6 weeks old. At first I was completely at peace with this but recently I feel so sad when I look at my 3.5 year old and know that I only spend about 4 hours a night with him and weekends. I think SO and I would be fine if I either stopped working or worked extremely part time, but he won't even consider it. We don't pay for childcare now, my dad watches him(retired), so thats not a factor. My so says I just want to stay home to be lazy, but thats not it! I hate missing this time in my lo's life, and we want to start ttc in january, I want to be home more with the new one, instead of working M-F 8-5. blah. rant over lol.

SharonB222

I understand. My two cents are to find a way that those 4 hrs a night and weekends are all the more fulfilling for you, or find flex-time or less time. My DD is about to turn 4 and I work "reduced" full-time; it's a b*tch - paid less, somehow still responsible for just as much ... but I wouldn't trade those two afternoons a week for anything. My boss (a single dad) suggested it. Bless him.

Perfect Sonnet

I agree with the above.  Also, try to look at it is quality vs. quantity.  Your son isn't going to remember you spending x amount of hours with him per day.  He is going to remember all the things you did together and the fun you had.

nmcarreiro

Hi, My baby is six mo old and I retur to work this week. I work nights 11-7a.m. I know I should be thankful for all the time I have been home but I am just depressed and am very weepy!, I would stay home for good if it weren't for benefits

mommymegan831

I would try to just live off of your SO's salary until you have your next LO.  I'm a teacher so I go through a roller coaster of emotions every year.  Every summer I wonder how do I work?  As soon as I get back, I think it's not so bad.  This year I'm feeling so overwhelemed.  MY daughter will go into kindergarden in September.  I thought it would be nice to be home when they're little, but I don't know how I'm going to do this.  I have a 3 year old too, so I'm going to have 2 drop off, rush after school to get my daughter then  go back for my son.  I want to be involved in her school activities, but I still want to be a good teacher for the kids I teach.  With the age gap you're going to have, with them in 2 different places, I'd stay home if you can, or work very part time.  BTW< it's summer so I'm also in that "how do I work" stage.  I'm sure I'll get into a routine after a few weeks.

GillianB32

If I were you I would listen to my heart and do all I can to switch to a part-time job..There's a very inspiring book called The four hour work week. I have read it twice and I am pretty sure you can find something in it for you! Good luck and keep us posted!