I've never read this. I have read people saying they feel detached and/or are having a rough pregnancy that is hard to enjoy, but that is different. I am totally in love with this baby inside me, to answer your question.
I've seen it on other pregnancy websites. It's there, they're blaming their babies for taking their lives away. But I'm so happy to finally read some mommy's saying that they love the little one inside of them:)
I haven't read that either! Crazy! I will say for me it doesn't feel real still because I really haven't had many symptoms and haven't felt movement. I guess I thought I would feel more pregnant. Whatever that means haha. But that doesn't mean I'm not excited or don't love the baby.
You quoted someone who experienced postpartum depression and most of the women on that thread didn't feel a connection or bond w their babies while pregnant but felt an instant love and connection once born. If you really want to know, why not ask the ACTUAL women saying this on netmums
"I can never understand how you could love someone you have never met. I hated being pregnant both times and didnt feel any love for my unborn babies. When ds was born I didnt get the instentanious rush of love either,weeks and weeks went by and I used to look at him and think 'do I love you' I took me ages,i ended up being diagnosed wit PND but ds is nearly 3 now and I love him more than anything."
I don't get the point of this post. Is it just random musings based on what you read elsewhere?
I know sometimes it's hard for women to connect to the baby before he/she is born and they worry about how they'll feel once it gets here and those are natural feelings. Even if someone doesn't feel that rush of love once the baby arrives that's also normal. For some women it takes longer and I know women like that and after it "clicked" they would do anything for that little baby and couldn't remember a time that they weren't totally in love.
You ladies need to chill. You take it like you are being personally offended. I was curious, but it looks like some of you are incapable of having an input without feeling a level of superiority simply because you don't see the point. If you didn't see a point, simple, you wouldn't reply.
The problem is you don't have a point. You're just randomly bringing things up that you've "seen" elsewhere. Also, it's unsettling that you clearly didn't lurk during your "please use this time to lurk" period. If you had, you'd realize there is no one on this board that has expressed anything but love for their children.
***Trying to conceive since 9/12- m/c 2/13 from natural conception.
IVF success 10/14 with m/c 11/14. FET success 4/15***
Okay.... @HRojas77 I only said I don't get the point because I would like to reply with something helpful and I thought you or someone else could clarify. Nor was I responding with any sort of sense of superiority. When you sent me a snarky PM I was going to let it go, but then you just rudely replied to another person who was just as confused as to why you posted this as I was and I couldn't hold back. So, to end your curiosity, the feelings you're reading about on other forums are not common on this forum although I am sure they are not uncommon in general. Don't assume just because people are confused by what you are seeking in response to an original post and voice their confusion that they are acting out a sense of superiority because at least in my case, you were wrong. Have a nice night!
By who's judgment do I not have a point? For me, I had a point, and that's all that matters. Thank you for your input though! If it makes you feel a level of power for agreeing with the crowd rather than standing on your own. I won't judge you...nor do I judge any other woman who posts something absolutely pointless but purely emotional. I suppose this is the wrong crowd, where you can't feel free to ask without a fear of being hated on.
I asked a clear question at the end. Very clear. "Do you feel for your unborn baby?" But only ONE of you ladies actually responded to my question. So...answer me that.
Oh you figured me out... I just go with the crowd. I mean, it couldn't possibly be that you're just in the wrong here with a random post. Nope, I'm sure that is not possible at all.
This may the wrong crowd for you, but I hope you find a website you like as it sounds like you've been bouncing around for some time.
***Trying to conceive since 9/12- m/c 2/13 from natural conception.
IVF success 10/14 with m/c 11/14. FET success 4/15***
I have been reading many posts about women saying that they feel no love for their unborn baby....so many women are saying the same thing!! It's making me cry:( I am 22 yes old and I am almost 20 weeks and I feel so much love for my baby...just looking at the little 10 week pictures of my baby makes me cry! I love baby! I read women saying that they resent their babies for taking their body shape away. .? It's not the babies fault! That's so sad:( please. I am so curious to know how other women don't feel love for their baby..is this a common thing for pregnant women? Is it hormones? do you feel for your unborn baby?
Nowhere do you say "websites" in your original post. Which would lead any person to the conclusion that you read them HERE as you posted this HERE and not where you read them.
How crazy this escalated.... Op I believe everyone who has replied to you answered your question.. They said they feel love for their baby , and were a little unsure what the "point" of the post was.. There is no need to get your panties in a bunch.. Please take a deep breathe and chill out!!!
@HRojas77 a little clarity would help next time. "girls! You won't believe it! I was cruising this other super lame pregnancy forum and the ladies don't even love their babies! Isn't that cray?? Do you love your baby??"
people on the Internet attack anybody for anything just because they can't be seen....why should I have believed this site was any different. Just another emotional mother like the rest...but being torn down just because of a simple poSt. That being said. I'm very sorry for my post. I'm very sorry if none of you saw a point. I'm very sorry if you didn't like it. I won't post anything again. It wasn't my intention. Im just 22 yrs old and curious. I thought I could receive some helpful answers so I could understand this that I read.
OP, haven't seen any posts similar to what you speak of on the bump and I'm a pretty active member.
I love my baby, I'm excited about my baby.
If you want to leave, you sure can. However, if you are an active lurker/contributor then you will find some amazing girls here and even some support. You'll also find snark and maybe stuff you disagree with. This is the beauty of the Internet. Take it or leave it. I definitely enjoy the diversity.
people on the Internet attack anybody for anything just because they can't be seen....why should I have believed this site was any different. Just another emotional mother like the rest...but being torn down just because of a simple poSt. That being said. I'm very sorry for my post. I'm very sorry if none of you saw a point. I'm very sorry if you didn't like it. I won't post anything again. It wasn't my intention. Im just 22 yrs old and curious. I thought I could receive some helpful answers so I could understand this that I read.
It's not because I can't see you. If my bff walked in my house and started rambling about something that made no sense I'd say the same thing. BECAUSE it's the internet if you want real responses to real questions it helps if you give all the info. Which you didn't. Sorry if you're upset, but rather than getting defensive how about you edit your post to be more clear so that from this point on we might have a real and honest discussion about your question.
Nope. You don't get to play victim here. You came back at everyone with guns blazing. Calling me out, PMing @vppittman. Sorry, you brought this on yourself.
What bothers me is apparantly you didn't bother to quote the entire thread from the other website making it appear like that other woman just didn't love her baby. Post partim depression and psychosis are not matters to be taken lightly. Those women are struggling and need medical attention and intervention. The poster you quoted was displaying classic signs of PPD this is MUCH different then your implication that she didn't love her baby because she got fat. It's misleading to only post the parts of a quote that support your musings.
And if you made the same comment to my face I would tell you the exact same thing. I'm not a hormonal pregnant person unable to control my emotions. I'm a rational educated woman, I may be pregnant and I may tear up on occasion but these facts do not take away from the fact that I am able to look at a woman not bonding with her baby and recognize she needs help, not judgement.
I'm with @nik6499 from what @tudokin posted it seems like you didn't even quote the entire post. If you're just looking to make conversation with us we would be happy to help you with that. A simple "hey I'm new here and just want to introduce myself" would have been fine. But creating this drama is just kind of silly. Especially when it isn't even correct information you're giving us. It seems as though these women on this board that you are referring to are either going through or have gone through some sort of depression, post partum most likely. It's ok if you don't understand this, we would have been happy to help you with what they meant. However, your wording is very off putting especially since you left a chunk of the quote off.
I also agree that this issue was taken out of context from a different place which is unfair to the woman who posted. Copying & pasting her issues on a separate site is rude on a lot of levels. She's an actual woman who had a real problem and was discussing it in a place of her choosing. I don't think it was appropriate to use her as an example for whatever point you wanted to make. A simple copy and paste into google search bar brought up her original post and also your post.
ICYM, OP read: HRojas77 said: I have been reading many posts about women saying that they feel no love for their unborn baby....so many women are saying the same thing!! It's making me cry:( I am 22 yes old and I am almost 20 weeks and I feel so much love for my baby...just looking at the little 10 week pictures of my baby makes me cry! I love baby! I read women saying that they resent their babies for taking their body shape away. .? It's not the babies fault! That's so sad:( please. I am so curious to know how other women don't feel love for their baby..is this a common thing for pregnant women? Is it hormones? do you feel for your unborn baby?
A dirty delete before all of us got the chance to read through this thread. I know I didn't get to read through the entire thing. I feel as if my personal enjoyment of the site is being prohibited.
Re: O
"I can never understand how you could love someone you have never met. I hated being pregnant both times and didnt feel any love for my unborn babies. When ds was born I didnt get the instentanious rush of love either,weeks and weeks went by and I used to look at him and think 'do I love you' I took me ages,i ended up being diagnosed wit PND but ds is nearly 3 now and I love him more than anything."
I know sometimes it's hard for women to connect to the baby before he/she is born and they worry about how they'll feel once it gets here and those are natural feelings. Even if someone doesn't feel that rush of love once the baby arrives that's also normal. For some women it takes longer and I know women like that and after it "clicked" they would do anything for that little baby and couldn't remember a time that they weren't totally in love.
If you didn't see a point, simple, you wouldn't reply.
Also, it's unsettling that you clearly didn't lurk during your "please use this time to lurk" period. If you had, you'd realize there is no one on this board that has expressed anything but love for their children.
I mean, it couldn't possibly be that you're just in the wrong here with a random post. Nope, I'm sure that is not possible at all.
This may the wrong crowd for you, but I hope you find a website you like as it sounds like you've been bouncing around for some time.
See. Much more clear.
It wasn't my intention. Im just 22 yrs old and curious. I thought I could receive some helpful answers so I could understand this that I read.
I love my baby, I'm excited about my baby.
If you want to leave, you sure can. However, if you are an active lurker/contributor then you will find some amazing girls here and even some support. You'll also find snark and maybe stuff you disagree with. This is the beauty of the Internet. Take it or leave it. I definitely enjoy the diversity.
And if you made the same comment to my face I would tell you the exact same thing. I'm not a hormonal pregnant person unable to control my emotions. I'm a rational educated woman, I may be pregnant and I may tear up on occasion but these facts do not take away from the fact that I am able to look at a woman not bonding with her baby and recognize she needs help, not judgement.
We don't believe in punching babies here.
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
I have been reading many posts about women saying that they feel no love for their unborn baby....so many women are saying the same thing!! It's making me cry:( I am 22 yes old and I am almost 20 weeks and I feel so much love for my baby...just looking at the little 10 week pictures of my baby makes me cry! I love baby! I read women saying that they resent their babies for taking their body shape away. .? It's not the babies fault! That's so sad:( please. I am so curious to know how other women don't feel love for their baby..is this a common thing for pregnant women? Is it hormones? do you feel for your unborn baby?
Not sure why the post was edited...??
* edited for gif fail