Some Advice from one Newbie to the Next

JLaVO888

ETA: TICKER ALERT

I am, by all means, still a Newbie to the TTC thread but thought that I may be able to share a few things I have learned the last few weeks. (Snark included only for entertainment purposes, not to offend.)

1. The 'Real World' 

Treat The Bumb with the same etiquette that you would expect to uphold in the 'real world'. Would you announce to a football stadium of strangers that you are pregnant? Have you EVER heard of take your pee stick to work day? Yes, your doctor can really tell you that you are pregnant when you show him that tissue full of implantation blood....

2. Science is Power

The relevance of the answers you receive will directly correlate with the integrity of the questions you ask. EX: Questions involving: my boobs hurt, my cat keeps licking my belly, my husband smiled at me...I must be pregnant, cannot be answered with any degree of accuracy (other than your cat has an oral fixation problem). In contrast, there are many wonderful people here that know a lot about temping, charting and all things science related. (Feel free to google the definition of science.)

3. Snark is Love

At first you may be taken aback by the level of snark that you come across (truthfully I was). But overtime you will realize that this is a community of people that have built some pretty strong relationships. Just think about how snarky you and your BFF are with each other. If you lurk enough, you will save yourself from being the target of the snark.

4. We are all Human

If you happen to make a mistake, just apologize...genuinely. The following is NOT an example of sincerity:  "I'm very sorry...but you should not have taken offense to the photograph of my chunky, yellow CM...It's just part of life."

5. Baby Acronyms...YES  Baby Slang Terms...NO

Keeping up with all the acronyms at first is like learning to code a program for a computer. Find a good list to refer to on google so you can follow along with all the convo. When you do decide to share, give encouragement etc. don't use any slang baby term that you may have picked up from other websites. More than likely it can be taken as hurtful or offensive (the most commonly used one...baby dust). Just stick to the common English Language and you should be safe: Good Luck/Best Wishes is a great place to start).

6. There are ~7.1 Billion People on this Planet

What makes you think you are the ONLY one that has EVER asked that ONE question?? Search google and the bump and you will find hundreds of answers that fit your question. With that said, we are here to support each other so don't feel like your voice doesn't matter. Give a little love and you will get some back. 

7. Gif-ing is Addicting

Learn to Gif (square, green icon on toolbar)

8. I probably know nothing!

I repeat, I am a newbie. So please, please regulars correct me if I got anything wrong. Also please add your fantastic advise/snark/gif's below.

PugsandKisses

I like you.

mrstmoose

Trying to gif for the first time...let's hope it works!

mrstmoose

Nope, sure didn't  :-S

JLaVO888

mrstmoose said:

Trying to gif for the first time...let's hope it works!

Make sure you are copying the image address and delete the http: that it puts in automatically. Also, I have a hard time 'gif-ing' from my mobile devices. 

edited for clarity

mrstmoose

mrstmoose

Thanks! @JLaVO888

WorkingOnMyNightCheese

Yes! To all of this...yes!

The Bump has a glossary if you just search "Community Glossary" on the main site.

WinchestertoPittsburgh

Bravo!!!! Bravo!!!!

Tippy05

I am also gif-challenged, but like your style op!

AL_TwinCities

avidkeo

Ok, new to the TTC board, but have been around the bump for a while. 

innocent and genuine question, whats wrong with Baby Dust? Granted I've never liked the term myself so never use it, but wonder why it's considered offensive. 

thanks

Tara0604

This rocks!

JLaVO888

@avidkeo It can represent the ashes of a lost baby. Keep lurking some more... This question could have been answered by a quick search through previous posts: it comes up a lot.

avidkeo

JLaVO888 said:

@avidkeo It can represent the ashes of a lost baby. Keep lurking some more... This question could have been answered by a quick search through previous posts: it comes up a lot.

Sorry and yes I can see why thats offensive. 

JLaVO888

No worries. Lurking really is the best thing. I am still learning a ton from lurking and reading though boards created by individuals that have been here for a few months or more.

lalala2004

I approve this message.

TheBorg7of9

avidkeo said:

Ok, new to the TTC board, but have been around the bump for a while. 

innocent and genuine question, whats wrong with Baby Dust? Granted I've never liked the term myself so never use it, but wonder why it's considered offensive. 

thanks

JLaVO888 said:

@avidkeo It can represent the ashes of a lost baby. Keep lurking some more... This question could have been answered by a quick search through previous posts: it comes up a lot.

In addition, I think the term Baby Dust really doesn't fit in on a science and fact minded board like this one.  Baby dust doesn't get you pregnant.  Semen does.

KristieA

JLaVO888 said:

I am, by all means, still a Newbie to the TTC thread but thought that I may be able to share a few things I have learned the last few weeks. (Snark included only for entertainment purposes, not to offend.)

1. The 'Real World' 

Treat The Bumb with the same etiquette that you would expect to uphold in the 'real world'. Would you announce to a football stadium of strangers that you are pregnant? Have you EVER heard of take your pee stick to work day? Yes, your doctor can really tell you that you are pregnant when you show him that tissue full of implantation blood....

2. Science is Power

The relevance of the answers you receive will directly correlate with the integrity of the questions you ask. EX: Questions involving: my boobs hurt, my cat keeps licking my belly, my husband smiled at me...I must be pregnant, cannot be answered with any degree of accuracy (other than your cat has an oral fixation problem). In contrast, there are many wonderful people here that know a lot about temping, charting and all things science related. (Feel free to google the definition of science.)

3. Snark is Love

At first you may be taken aback by the level of snark that you come across (truthfully I was). But overtime you will realize that this is a community of people that have built some pretty strong relationships. Just think about how snarky you and your BFF are with each other. If you lurk enough, you will save yourself from being the target of the snark.

4. We are all Human

If you happen to make a mistake, just apologize...genuinely. The following is NOT an example of sincerity:  "I'm very sorry...but you should not have taken offense to the photograph of my chunky, yellow CM...It's just part of life."

5. Baby Acronyms...YES  Baby Slang Terms...NO

Keeping up with all the acronyms at first is like learning to code a program for a computer. Find a good list to refer to on google so you can follow along with all the convo. When you do decide to share, give encouragement etc. don't use any slang baby term that you may have picked up from other websites. More than likely it can be taken as hurtful or offensive (the most commonly used one...baby dust). Just stick to the common English Language and you should be safe: Good Luck/Best Wishes is a great place to start).

6. There are ~7.1 Billion People on this Planet

What makes you think you are the ONLY one that has EVER asked that ONE question?? Search google and the bump and you will find hundreds of answers that fit your question. With that said, we are here to support each other so don't feel like your voice doesn't matter. Give a little love and you will get some back. 

7. Gif-ing is Addicting

Learn to Gif (square, green icon on toolbar)

8. I probably know nothing!

I repeat, I am a newbie. So please, please regulars correct me if I got anything wrong. Also please add your fantastic advise/snark/gif's below.

This a hundred times over!

abpl2014

Love this @JLaVO888 nicely stated!

JLaVO888

BFP and TICKER and SAME NEWBIE not sure what to do WARNING

I have gone back and forth over whether or not to share my BFP or not. DH and I have been so blessed in being able to get our BFP on our first month trying and the last thing I wanted to do was cause hurtful feelings for anyone.  With that said, I couldn't help feeling sad leaving all you ladies without saying goodbye and have continued to lurk although I have moved to my BMB. I finally decided I would post just to say THANK YOU to all the wonderful women that I learned so much from and who gave me many great laughs over the last month. I will be thinking of you all and sending positive thoughts your way and of course dropping in from time to time to lurk. Also, I thought by posting on my old post, it would be bumped up for some other newbie to maybe learn a thing or two from me. 

ETA: I am also trying to keep the crazies from the BMB board from being directed to the TCC board by people who just joined the bump after their BFP. 

lalala2004

JLaVO888!

It's a great post and deserved the bump!

abpl2014

Congrats @JLaVO888!! Have a healthy 9 months!

joyful08

mrsespigreen

H&H 9months!

CupcakesRamazing

Congrats on your LO!

jnnfrrose6

ALittleCountry said:

Glad this was bumped. How did I not see it before?! It is an awesome post. I would even pin it, but that's just my opinion Congrats on the bfp!

If they could unpin one of the gagillion other things first up there, that'd be great.

lalala2004

jnnfrrose6 said:

ALittleCountry said:

Glad this was bumped. How did I not see it before?! It is an awesome post. I would even pin it, but that's just my opinion Congrats on the bfp!

If they could unpin one of the gagillion other things first up there, that'd be great.

I was just thinking today it's become a lot to wade through....

bettertogether27

Congrats @JLaVO888 ! It's been a pleasure seeing your presence while you were here, and I'm glad you got to move over to your BMB! H&H9M!

AliSummer

Congratulations @JLaVO888! 

Schumerator

JLaVO888   congratulations!!! You were one of the first people who I saw around the board a lot when I started lurking about a month ago! So excited for you Good luck and H&H 9 months ahead for you!!!