Errrr ... rant follows

jerseygirl227

Hi ladies,

I go in for a scheduled c-section tomorrow.  Over the past few days, my sister is posting on facebook like crazy about it.  How her goddaughter (she has not been asked to be godmother) is coming on Monday.  How she saw a lot of babies at a party yesterday and soon she'll have her very own.  And just a bunch of other wacky shit.  In the meantime, she has been very standoffish to me during the entire pregnancy.  She cried (and not tears of joy) when fiance and I told her I was pregnant.  She complained how she had to throw an effing baby shower (which she did and it was very nice).  She rarely talks to me and, when she does, it's never to ask how I'm feeling or anything like that. 

The three of us (fiance, sis and I) all lived together up until he and I bought a house last month.  (Thank God we got to move before baby!)  So maybe the fact that she is on her own now has something to do with it.  But I'm still miffed.

When I found out I was going in the hospital on Monday, I sent her a text saying the baby was coming Monday.  She didn't respond until six hours later and then it was to complain to my fiance how we are not including her in the process.  WTF?  It's not her process to be included in.  At this point, I don't even want her to come to the hospital after the baby is born.

She is the only relative I have in the state (or anywhere close for that matter) other than my future SIL.  But this is my first and only child and I am tired of her stealing my thunder.  (Not that I'm a big thunder gal, but still.)   Errr.  Just had to get all that out.  Thanks.

mkeip

That seems frustrating. unfortunately the only way to somewhat control what she shares is to control what you share with her. If it were me, I just wouldn't tell her anything that you didn't HAVE to. When you go in for C-section maybe refrain from giving her a time so you and hubby can just go the day of and spend it the way you want to. Really, the magic of the day is going to come from you, hubby, and baby. She isn't going to contribute all that much that will make your day really any better than those 2 already will for you...but she can make your day worse. 

jerseygirl227

Thanks, @mkeip.  You are right.  She doesn't need to know everything.

I already told fiance that he is not to text her any info about the baby (especially pics and details about her arrival) until I give the okay.  Otherwise, she'll be calling relatives and announcing on facebook and via text.  I think that will be the best way to handle things.   

kedbach

So sorry! Hopefully she calms down and isn't so crazy when the day comes!

thegingeravenger

From what you've shared, your sister is being a brat. She's making your pregnancy about her. This isn't about you at all - in her eyes, you're just a incubator to her niece. I don't know where she's getting this goddaughter nonsense from.
If I were in your shoes, on Monday I would turn off my phone and make DH turn off his and make it about your family growing. Let her know that in advance if you want to, but I'd make it a day about the three of you. Also, go ahead and think of concrete social media rules for her regarding LO. She sounds like she'll need them.

Good luck tomorrow!

ChiccoBeanz

 Congrats on your Little Princess